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Sunday, July 14, 2013

I am working through the book "Beck diet solution." www.beckdietsolution.com

This last week I had lots of things come up that I was not expecting so I did not get my daily reading in. I recommitted to reading it this morning. Today's task is "give yourself credit."

This is my biggest struggle. I am an all or nothing thinker for myself. I will give you the benefit of the doubt. I will give it to my kids, hubby friends even strangers. But, if I did not preform perfectly I will really beat myself up.

Today's reading explained how that can be detrimental. I get it. But, I really struggle with it.
Today was a trial. My daughter has been gone all week at Girl's camp. She came back cranky and told me how terrible of a mother I was because I wanted her to do a couple of things before I let her and her little brother watch the television. Nothing big. The chores would have taken less than an hour two if she was really, really slow. But, she instead spent all day resisting.

So I spent all day feeling grumpy. Not a good choice. I know I am a good mother. I know the chores were reasonable.

I am learning to eat better. I am learning to exercise. Much of my behavior is changing for the better. I just refuse to give myself credit for it.

I need this one. This one is important and will serve me well.

I have taught my kids to do this. It is time to teach myself.

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    1732 days ago
    Excellent point!
    1732 days ago
  • NANCY-
    I hear you. Giving myself credit takes practice... just like being grateful was.
    To help me I started posting daily to:

    Something I am grateful for today

    I give myself credit for...

    The daily practice of commenting on two threads are helping me change my mindset. Even posting simple gratitude for rain or that it is sunny. Giving credit for taking a walk or staying out of the snack food aisle. If we look there are many simple things.

    1741 days ago
    I learned in yoga class a few weeks ago it is more important to have self compassion than it is to have self esteem; not that self esteem is not important. As you know I struggle with the same all or nothing thinking as I think many people do. It is not easy to retrain how we have been for so may years, but I know change IS possible! emoticon
    1742 days ago
  • LISA579
    It is so hard losing weight with kids. They are stressful and dont listen. Dont let them derail you. I know how hard it is but you can do it.
    1742 days ago
    give yourself a pat on the back!
    1742 days ago
  • TEDYBEAR2838
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    1742 days ago
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