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New ink and being judged.

Friday, July 12, 2013

I LOVE my new ink! My artist did a huge touch up on the portrait of my horse that was already on my back. It was a cover up so it needed a "second coat." She added my double rainbow and cloud scene above my girl. (The night my horse died there was a double rainbow in the sky.)
I also had her put Let go. Be on my left wrist.

Some people don't like tattoos, my mom is one of them, but I love them. I now have an even dozen. I still need a little more done on my back, but that will come at a later date. I can completely cover them if I need to, so I can look as "conservative" as I need to.

It is interesting to see how we are judged. We are judged on how big we are, how fit we are, how old we are and also if we have any tattoos. I am treated much differently, at times, if my tattoos are showing than when they aren't. The best is when someone knows me and THEN sees all my ink. It's a surprise, but then they realize it's still me.

I think it's the same when we meet people that are on their "health journey." Some judge and then realize how great the person is...bigger or smaller, healthy or unhealthy. Some never bother to get to know the other person and then I say, "Oh well, their loss." We all need to realize that each of us are on our own journey, of some kind, and we need to accept others for who they are. They may not be the person that we think they should be, but that's not for us to judge.

It reminds me of a quote that I still have a hard time accepting, "What others think of me is none of my business." It's really true and I think many of us try too hard to make everyone like us. We need to be more concerned about loving ourselves and be our own person! I will live by my quote, "Let go. Be"

We are all emoticon and we are ALL beautiful...in our own unique way! Take today and try to see only the positive about others!

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    Enjoy your art. Just because it's not my "thing" doesn't mean a thing. Show us a photo when you get a chance. Hope you're enjoying your girl trip!
    1774 days ago
  • KANOE10
    That was a great blog. I liked the comment that people can get addicted to the approval of others. You are so right about people being on their own journeys with or without the approval of other people. Enjoy those tattoos I am glad your picture retouching turned out well.

    I have no doubts that I was judged when I was overweight and am still be judged now!
    1774 days ago
    I've been contemplating a tattoo for a few years, but am surrounded by friends and family that think I'm out of my mind. Why do I care? I don't know... I guess it's true what WATERMELLEN says - we're addicted to the approval of others.

    I want one big colorful piece - something that is as gorgeous as I always dreamt of being. How I feel inside my flawed, aging, scarred body.

    Can I endure the pain of a large tattoo? For those with ink, how can those of us who haven't had a tattoo estimate the experience? Can a tattoo artist use their inking equipment without ink to give a prospective tattooee some idea of what they are in for?
    1775 days ago
    Steve Siebold says that the biggest addiction of all is the addiction to the approval of others!

    1776 days ago
    Totally agree... we are ALL amazing and unique! By the way, I love your body art. My son has two tattoos that are uniquely him. One is a protective symbol from the Norse mythology, the other a wolf. Oh, and he has runish characters that spell ouf "Diligence".

    I tend to complement servers I see showing their art, some if it is quite beautiful! But I have none of my own... guess I'm a bit of a wimp. Don't drink, don't smoke, go to bed early... and love that not everyone is "just like me"! What kind of a world would we have without variety?

    1776 days ago
    I am just learning about caring about myself. I was always so worried if people would like me or more often than not, I didn't think they did. But instead of just saying "Their Loss", I felt guilty and ashamed because they did not like me. Silly, huh? It is finally now in the past year where I can honestly say "Their Loss", mainly because how I feel about me. It feels pretty darn good. So thanks for sharing this with us. And I would love your tattoos, and care about you whether you had tattoos or not!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
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    1776 days ago
    Be who you are. I have learned that over the years. I have been against tattoos in the past, but have some to accept those who choose to have them. I have even been thinking of getting that butterfly on my ankle. Don't really like pain, so not sure, at my age, I could handle it. emoticon

    We do need a visual of that horse, MJ !!!
    1776 days ago
  • MIRAGE727
    OMG, I love ink! My first was in 1997. I was 47. Since then, I've added a few tasteful creations!
    What? No visuals, MJ?

    1776 days ago
    My old boss taught me that quote and it's very hard to live by, but she was right, I'm not the thought police and ppl can thing whatever they want about me. What I think of me is the only thing that matters. Great post! emoticon
    1776 days ago
    I understand about being judged. Dog collars and pig tails are not received well in most circles.

    Congrats on getting your ink the way you want it. I'm certain it is BEAUTIFUL!! Just like you.
    1776 days ago
  • _LINDA
    Unfortunately, its all too true we are judged by first superficial impressions. Its especially true for women and why they are driven to dieting extremes, plastic surgery, make up and hair coloring because their natural look wouldn't be accepted as beautiful. I recently read a man's blog where he was hurt by comments saying how good and handsome he looked when he lost his weight, implying he looked awful when he was obese and this was by close friends and loved ones, never mind strangers. Dustin Hoffman's interview where he wanted to be the best looking woman he could be for his role in Tootsie and when he was told it wasn't possible gave him an AH HA moment on how much he had judged women on their looks wanting only to have beautiful ones. He had regrets on how many beautiful people he might have missed because of his prejudices. I am a person who prefers the look I was born with and this probably explains why I never had a guy look at me or anyone want to be friends with me throughout my life. Once, when I got dolled up with make up and a hair style, no one could recognize me and they wondered who this beautiful woman was, never mind I was the only redhead in my club! But I don't like anything on my skin and I prefer my hair cropped short for easy care.
    In a perfect world everyone would look past the physical and give a person a chance. That quote was a good one. Its really saying its what we think of ourselves that is important not what others think.
    The world we live in and the creatures that inhabit it are works of marvel to enjoy the wonder of their creation. Nothing else is important.
    Have a Fantastic Friday and a great weekend!
    1776 days ago
    God has made you a Beautiful and Wonderful Woman -- with so much to share! I appreciate you sharing your journey, with the ups and downs, and am thankful I can be "me" with you, without fearing, "What will she think ?" Have a great weekend! God Bless You as you continue your Journey to Health!
    1776 days ago
    Thanks for sharing, great blog!

    My daughter likes tattoos like you do.
    She only has two (yet) and at first I was worried, what happens if she changes her mind and doesn't want the tattoo anymore... But she is happy with them and now I see them as part of her.
    1776 days ago
    Thank you VERY much for posting this!! It helped me more than you know, and I am writing down the "what people think of me is none of my business." I've never thought of it that way, and am so glad you put it so simply.

    To your statements about how we need to get to know one another for what's inside is such a truth that I will end with an "Amen."
    1776 days ago
    I agree! All of my tats are easily covered. My husband's are as well. I have at least 1 project left for myself for ink. It will be my baby girl's footprint, DOB and name. I'm looking forward to it! The thing is, it is unfortunate that we (people) are judged for ANY reason. Size, ink, age. Especially the external.
    1776 days ago
  • CANDIK48
    So true! We all too often make biased judgments based on our first superficial impressions of others. We might never know how many wonderful people we cheated ourselves out of knowing because we didn't look beyond and open ourselves up to the possibility that there is more than what meets the eye. I've met some "beautiful" people who wouldn't lift a finger to save another's life and met some "social undesirables" who would stop at nothing to help a stranger. I know a man who gives off the first impression of mean biker, all tatted up, ham fisted looking like no one you want to meet in a dark alley. But... he is the most gentle and caring person with a tremendous heart. Not too long ago he gave a presentation to a group of "at risk" teens. He talked about making the right choices and not judging people . He started the speech in a nice conservative suit. Partway through his presentation, he excused himself and reappeared in his usual attire, jeans, leathers, vest, hair all "motorcycled" up and ink everywhere. I think he got his point across.

    Congrats on your ink! I need some more!
    1776 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/12/2013 11:29:08 AM
    Great attitude! We are all beautiful; it's sad that most people don't get the chance to dig a little deeper to see the beauty.

    1776 days ago
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