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Stress Effects!

Thursday, July 11, 2013

We sold our home in a week, but then took six more to close. When it did we were able to visit family too celebrate my mother-in-law's 98th birthday in California. We had a beautiful hotel room and many special time with family. A day at the beach should have been exactly what I needed to shed the stress. But, I spoke too much about my feelings about some of the unpleasant ways our daughter and her husband took advantage of us in recent months. Dh was then a bit mad at me for the rest of the trip. I did spend a few days with my own mother and noticed severe edema in her legs and feet. Got her doctor involved and home health nurse visited to evaluate and draw blood. I reviewed lab results this morning and found one indicator for chronic kidney disease. I know lasix was ordered while I was out there, but it hasn't yet arrived. I may go back out in a few weeks if things get worse. As of now there is a nurse checking on her three times per week. So, my own stress continues to soar. I must learn not to share too much with my in-laws. When will I learn to just keep my mouth shut? Good news? I only gained about one pound in ten days of eating out. Hooray! Hope everyone here is doing great in every way!
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  • VOLARI52
    Hope by now things are better for you.....hard sometimes not to vent when our children disappoint us....take care.
    1806 days ago
    I am thinking that perhaps when your feelings are getting high, that having a counseling session with your pastor might be helpful.
    1806 days ago
    You probably did the right thing... it's just learning to not internalize it. I know that's pretty hard...
    1807 days ago
    My dh does the same thing to me when he's mad- hate that silent treatement!
    1808 days ago
    Glad you only gained a is so easy to gain on vacation. Sorry you put your foot in your mouth and hubby was angry. I need to learn to watch what I say too...I often regret running my mouth.
    So sorry to ear about your moms issues. I totally parents are is blind and in a wheelchair and dad has glaucoma. I know I will have more and more responsibility caring for them as they age. It is so hard to deal with all that and fibro..I feel so guilty at times.
    Hang in there and keep me posted on how your mom is.
    1808 days ago
    tough to know who to share with
    1808 days ago
  • FIT4MEIN2013
    Not sharing does not necessarily decrease your stress. My philosophy is " If someone is going to be upset, it might as well be them. I'm spilling my feelings". You can either give ulcers or have them. Be a giver!
    1809 days ago
    I'm glad to hear that you sold your house. I hope your mil feels better soon. I, too, have to learn to not share so much with certain people. You will be happier in the end.
    1809 days ago
    Glad you sold your house. Hope your mom does better I oversee my mom's health care so I know what you are going to. As the saying goes they can get glad in the same pants they got mad in. Hope your DH gets over it .
    1809 days ago
    It's impossible to pull words back after they have been spoken. I hope your husband can realize how hurtful the grudge can be on you. emoticon
    1809 days ago
    Congrats on getting your house sold and closed! That's a big stress off your shoulders right there! I have to say that the older I get, the less I care what people think about what I say. So I say what comes to mind. Do I get into trouble? Yes! Do people - including people I love - get angry at me. Sure. But they get to hear what I'm really thinking and if it bothers them, it's up to them to talk with me about it. Anyway, just what works for me.
    1809 days ago
    A good adviser told me one time that I can't get in trouble for the words I keep in my head. Modern attitudes are that we should "share" everything with everyone all the time, but I kept finding myself in hot water from my words. I was told not to "bottle them up", but to share with God and my friends not connected with the situation in any way. I know it feels as if our words can change a situation to our liking, but the changes never seem to follow the script we imagine. I have learned the hard way (too many times, alas) that silence and a smile serves me best.
    1809 days ago
    You did pretty well considering what was going on. Hope your mom is improving.
    Try not to worry what the in-laws think. DH will get over it.
    1809 days ago
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