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Stray thoughts wandering...

Thursday, July 11, 2013

When I ride the bike, or as I ponder my blogs, I get these stray thoughts of the evolutionary nature of this "journey" as so many of us call it. When we first start out, we are engrossed in the mechanics, the enthusiasm of seeing the results.

Maybe once we get near or to a goal weight, we shift focus to a fitness or athletic goal, and that becomes the center of what we think and talk about for a while.

As we "maintain" our healthy habits, we might start becoming used to the bodies we have shrunk into. When we have a slip or slide, we may panic, and fear we'll slide all the way back.

Or we could become discouraged by a collection of small slips, or even a major slide, and be tempted to say "why try"?

But in our hearts, we know we want what living healthy has to offer. We know we want to be able to do what needs doing or even what we take a wild hare in and decide we want to do. We have let go of so much that "weighed us down", and y'all know I'm not just talking about physical weight. The mental barriers, the attitudes of "I can't", or "what if I fail", or "what if I succeed"... they are in the rear-view mirror. Once in a while they rear their ugly heads.

Now, in year three of the current maintenance (and I call it the current maintenance because I've been in what I called maintenance before)... I am only beginning to feel the glimmers of WHY the odds of keeping it off forever increase with the length of the maintenance. I am beginning to believe that it is because only over time can we truly redefine "normal" for ourselves.

Here's to all of our "new normal"... a life full of healthy habits, in balance, and with a healthy sprinkle of FUN in the mix.

LIFE is good. It is brief and precious, and full of others who are just as fragile as ourselves... big or little, young or old... we share a common humanity. Let us be kind to ourselves to give us strength to also be kind to one another. Spark on! emoticon
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    Thanks for the insight. Like many others who have commented on this Blog, I have yet to discover my "new normal". I am still trying to figure out the journey, but that is okay. It is just where I am today.

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    1748 days ago
    Great blog, Thank you.
    1748 days ago
    Hopefully, someday I will achieve maintainance and 'the new normal'. You're an inspiration!
    1750 days ago
  • SHARON10002
    This is truly another great blog, Barb! I am grateful for your gift of perception. I can't wait until I arrive there, and I hope I will remember it then.
    1750 days ago
    Your "stray" thoughts cohere into a most persuasive prism through which to view life . . . when lightness sometimes feels like normality and kindness assumes it's proper centrality.

    I like this. It's wonderful that biking produces it. You can pedal such musings anytime!!
    1750 days ago
    Is it the new normal, or is it the current normal? With attitudes and focus changing over time, surely "normal" changes over time as well. But with more time in maintenance, there's a longer base of maintenance embedded in the current normal, which makes it less likely drop out when the future normal is different than the current normal in some unpredictable way.

    A year ago, I marveled at how much my eating and grocery shopping had changed in a year. Today, I see that it has continued to change; but the changes from one year ago are much less dramatic than the changes from two years ago to one year ago. Perhaps that's part of the process of developing a piece of the long term normal that supports long term maintenance?

    Whatever. Life *is* good, even when it isn't very predictable.
    1750 days ago
  • GABY1948
    I don't usually like new anything...but "new normal" is something I think I will adopt from you! THANKS
    1750 days ago
    Great insights. I was just joking about how I have maintained a 12 pound weight loss over 3 years even though I have many more pounds to lose. But you have hit on a truth that I need to ponder. I bet it shows up in a blog later tonight.
    1750 days ago
    Awesome blog! Lots of great thoughts.
    1750 days ago
  • LEWILL1982
    New normal is hard sometimes, I've found it's far easier to lose than to figure out how to maintain. Now though, in new normal, I find that those slip ups become fewer and we learn how to bounce back before we slide too far. Really well written, thanks for sharing!
    1750 days ago
    The "new normal" takes a little time to adjust to, as all things do. Have a
    happy and healthy journey. I am constantly trying to come to grips with
    what life should be but being kind to myself in the process. HUGS!
    1750 days ago
    Loving the New Normal! Thanks for the wise words, Barbara!
    1750 days ago
    I sometimes still have "fat" days, when I just have this picture in my head of myself at my heaviest weight and I can't see the slender healthy body I now have. It is taking a long time for me to adjust to my new normal. I have faith I will get there though.
    1750 days ago
  • MIRAGE727
    1750 days ago
    Here's to our new normal and to a lifetime of healthy living!! Life is good and precious -- you are so right. I'm here celebrating my mom's 86th birthday. A long healthy life is a treasure; I aspire to a life well-lived. Living healthy is a key part of that goal. Thanks for another great blog, Barb!!
    1750 days ago
  • DALID414
    Very well said.
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  • CONCHA77
    Great blog, Barb. Thanks!
    1750 days ago
  • MAGGIE101857
    What wonderful thoughts to wake up to! emoticon

    1750 days ago
    Barb, you have nailed maintenance! To a "T"! I have been in maintenance for 3 yrs. too and there's always that "fear" of slipping back into old ways, especially when stressed. BUT along the way have learned all kinds of tools I didn't have before to cope appropriately. THAT is part of the "new normal" and as the journey continues and evolves, it just gets better!

    HUGS and smiles. Great blog.
    1750 days ago
    "only over time can we truly redefine "normal" for ourselves"
    Here's to discovering what we want to be when we 'grow up'!
    1750 days ago
    I like ""the New Normal""--Deep thoughts are good thoughts--thoughts that come when the brain is awakened-exercising----Good blog Barb!---EAT WHAT"S in YER Lunch BAG!--LOL-Lynda
    1750 days ago
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