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Sharing what's inside

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

First of all I'd like to say thank you for your comments on my last blog. You are all a great support. What I shared was actually just the tip of my 'stressberg'. That's what I call the problems and stresses when they build on each other and grow so large like an iceberg. The way I see it, there are only two options to cope with a stressberg when it starts to get out of control: grow stronger in order to hold all the weight, or share the load. Of course the third option is to collapse under the weight, but let's not go there.

There is one comment in particular I'd like to address, from JOHNTJ1 who said: "I feel honored that you trust us enough to share what lies deep inside of you". That made me stop and wonder, is what I did unusual? Is sharing our problems becoming unusual? In this age of 'everythings-great-on-facebook
', where people share their photos of parties and vacations and good times, it seems that nobody is talking about the bad ones too. Occasionally you'll here someone say 'my Dad is in the hospital, please pray for him', but no-one says 'I'm so worried about my Dad I can't sleep, I can't concentrate and I feel like I'm coming apart at the seams, can someone PLEASE come over and give me a hug? Take me out for a night on the town because I need some company and a distraction!"

If I saw that or heard that from one of my friends I'd be by her side in a minute, and I'm sure you all would too. Of course there are people who always have problems, who are drama queens and no one wants perpetual drama in their life. That's not what I'm talking about. What I'm getting at is that average people are not opening up to each other anymore, not sharing, and it's quite possible that there are a ton of people out there drowning in their own stresses and no one knows it.

John's comment made me realize that I have not opened up either. Outside of my husband, maybe only two of my friends (the kind I see face-to-face) know what's been going on in my life. It's wrong and from now on I'm going to try and open more. If you run a company you don't do everything yourself, you use your colleagues and employees. They are your resources. What is so different about our lives?
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  • TECH1960PS
    Thanks for sharing. emoticon
    1799 days ago
    I think it's hard for most of us to find a balance between sharing and "oversharing". Also, I'm sure there is a fear that people will not respond as we hope. There are also people whose stress is of their own making. Sometimes they are the ones who complain the most, and we maybe don't want to feel like we are being lumped in with them by sharing our own stresses. I don't know. These are all things that go through my mind when I think about seeking moral support. Anyway, all that is neither here nor there when what you need is unflinching sympathy and a great big cyber hug! You've got both from me.
    1806 days ago
    Thank you for this post! The world is such a hectic place and we are all inundated with stimuli and problems. I think many of us are wary of sharing our burdens as we don't want to increase the burdens of others. We don't want to be seen as weak or whiny. To me, true strength is being able to ask for help!
    1806 days ago
  • ROCKLAND2010
    Thank you for sharing with us. I hope your 'stressberg' starts to melt.
    1806 days ago
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