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Needing Some Advice from Spark Friends who are Moms

Tuesday, July 09, 2013

Okay, so I'm pretty sure I'm 10 weeks pregnant. 11 on Thursday. The problem is, I have yet to get a positive HPT, but I'm still almost 2 months late and showing symptoms of pregnancy, such as nausea, back aches, fatigue, mood swings, dizziness, food cravings and aversions, etc. I've done research on HPTs and their rate of giving false negatives is surprisingly high. I tried to go to a doctor a couple weeks ago, but they convinced themselves that since I didn't pass the precious pee test that I'm not. But my mom's doctor when she was pregnant with her kids refused to give her a pee test, they'd only test her blood. Makes me wonder. I scheduled an appointment with a Planned Parenthood on the 22nd to get tested again, preferably with blood this time, but 2 weeks is such a long wait. And I'm scared now. You see, I keep cramping. All my research shows that cramping is normal at this point in the game. But I'm worried. I suffered a miscarriage several years ago. Probably for the best considering how the father turned out to be later. I start cramping every single time I get upset about something, that could be angry or crying, and it happens when I'm up and moving around. No bleeding and the cramping isn't severe. It's what I'd rate to be about half or so of what my normal period cramps are like. And my workplace is not helping at all. I called in sick this morning due to sheer exhaustion because I was up all night throwing up and they're all like "Oh, you'll feel better in a couple of hours. Maybe you should start working the late shift." It astounds me that everyone there is a parent and I have ZERO support. They're more concerned about their comfort and things getting done, even though I'm completely caught up as opposed to one of my coworkers who is painfully behind. They were whining that I need the AC turned on because I'm hot all the time and was sweating even with it on. Sorry for ranting, but I'm the one who's pregnant and they don't care. Anyway, the bottom line is that I'm scared and confused and don't know what to do...
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    I would find another doctor. That's outrageous to me that they won't get you in sooner. Think about giving up the job. No money is worth dealing with people like that. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
    1777 days ago
  • TONYAB2000
    If you have access to a health department or free clinic, try to go there and see what you can find out. HPTs sometimes aren't accurate but with your symptoms, you would think the dr office would at least want to see you to confirm. I'm sorry you are having so many issues. I hope you get answers and some relief soon. As for your coworkers, they sound like an insensitive bunch. Try not to let them worry you too much. Maybe talking to a manager would help the situation, but you know best if that's a good call or not. It usually depends on the manager. Best wishes for you.
    1778 days ago
    The 22nd? That's a long, time. See if you can go to the local health department, a free clinic or a community health center as a walk-in. You are having symptoms and two weeks is a long time to wait to figure out what's happening.

    As for your job; sounds like you work with some insensitive people. See if you can tell your boss in private that you are having a health-related issue, may need to take time off here and there for doctor appointments, etc. and work with them to develop a plan for covering your workload. Don't even bother talking to co-workers; it's none of their business.

    If you have a good boss, they will work with you. If not, then start thinking about finding a better work situation.
    1778 days ago
    Doctor's can be so hard to deal with when you know in your gut you are pregnant and you want the proof. Not getting a positive test this early doesn't mean a lot. Granted my last pregnancy didn't go so well but we made them understand I needed help..."I explained I have PCOS, I have had previous miscarriages, I am high risk" and they rushed me in at 6 weeks when my just as pregnant "normal/healthy" cousin didn't get into her first appointment until nearly 11 weeks. They told me I needed progesterone which after a couple days taking it made the hpt's read loud and clear instead of a maybe with faint lines. It's hard to stay calm when your emotions are already running wild but, I hope you can for your sake and I hope you find good care.
    1778 days ago
    I had a friend who had a similar problem when she was pregnant with her first child. She had a negative test even though she was pregnant. It did take more than two months before the test showed positive. Have you tried a home test at all? Just to see if a home one would show now? Maybe then they would be more willing to see you again if you said you had a home test come back positive? I am sorry they do not seem to be working well with you. I hope you can get some answers soon. Take care of yourself!

    1778 days ago
    I'm sorry to hear that you are in such distress :(

    I actually thought that the doctor's office always did the blood test. I know that it is by far the most accurate way to tell if you are pregnant. What did they say to you when you explained about all the pregnancy symptoms + late period? It seems pretty obvious to me that they should have AT LEAST tested your blood if not performed an ultrasound. Any chance you can go to a walk in clinic to try and get some answers?

    All this stress can't be good for you right now :(
    1778 days ago
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