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Monday, July 08, 2013

I read the most amazing article this morning and I will share. I am curious what everyone things about this? I hear "strong is the new skinny" all the time. So much so that it feels like something that people just say anymore.


I am to the point that I just disregard a lot of the stuff I read. I am so fed up and tired of it all. I am to the point that I am no longer trying to press myself into a mold.

F clean eating.
F low carbing.
F paleo.
F calorie restriction.
F being skinny.
F bending myself to fit into a 'diet' (loose term meant to say eating style)

I have spent so much time trying to fit myself into certain molds over the years. I.Am.Done. I can't say I fit into any group or category anymore. I am not a clean eater because I do eat sugar (not to excess mind you but I don't see it as an evil villain that will take over my life if I have a tiny bit in my coffee in the morning because for God's sake, I freaking love my coffee and if I want it a little sweet it isn't going to be my demise). I eat foods that have been purchased from the outer perimiter of the grocery store for the most part but sometimes I have to cave and in a pinch when I am desperately trying to hang on with four kids at home for summer, I order pizza out or (enter horror screams) go through the drive thru of someplace. I eat bread. Yes, you heard it right. I freaking eat the hell out of bread. I drink beer and wine. I will occasionally have a soda. I enjoy a trip to get Fro-Yo with the kids sometimes.

What does all this mean?

I can enjoy life while working on being healthy. I don't take any of this to extremes. I don't drink six cans of soda a day or 4 beers a night. I don't gorge myself on pizza on a regular basis. I don't eat an entire loaf of bread followed by pasta in one sitting. Rather I simply balance it out. I eat good. Damn, I eat good food. I eat a ton of fresh (mostly organic even) fruits and veggies, I drink a lot of water throughout the day. I get my ass up three times a week and do strength training with six days of intense cardio and a bit of yoga tossed in there.

I am also finally losing weight and inches.

What has changed? What switch flipped? The one that says I have to be a certain way be it clean eating or intuitive eating or low carb or low calorie. Instead it has been replaced by a person that is not really seeking anything but health. Weight loss right now is a side effect and a nice one at that. My husband told me the other night that if he were to see me on the street he would never have guessed that I had four kids. I about cried! I push myself daily instead to be a better person. To do good things for myself so I can be a better mom. Yes I get up and yes I take an hour in the afternoon to workout. Yes I spend time fixing wholesome foods in my kitchen for my family. Yes I order pizza and drink a beer from time to time.

No I am not an ideal body type. No I will never look like some of these ripped goddess type of women we see gracing the covers of magazines and fitness books, touting 'strong is the new skinny' but I am to the point of acceptance of that and am simply working on what I have. Being that better version of myself. Life is too short to say I am never going to eat a cookie or a piece of cake becuase it isn't 'clean' life is too short not to enjoy a beer while sitting outside on a hot summer night with my husband. Life it too short not to enjoy that pizza with my family because life got too busy to get the kids everywwhere they need to be AND be able to cook. Life it too short to be so hard on myself. I can have it all, but in balance. That is what i have spent so much time trying to acquire and obtain and I feel like I am there. I consistently make healthy choices for myself. I am not perfect, but I am okay with that. I am okay with not being food obsessed. I am so freaking okay with it.

I am just tired of the standards of having to be a clean eater or eat paleo or whatever the going trend is or will be. That is how I see the industry is simply trendy. What one guru says is good, the flock will follow and that will be the going thing for a few years until the next best thing pops up. I have fallen into that trap so many times but I am done. I am to that point that I am no longer going to mold myself into anything.

I am going to appreciate myself for what I am. Normal. Healthy. Happy. Imperfect in every possible way.
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    WOOOOOOOOOO HOOOOOOOOO! Love your attitude! I agree 100%. I won't do anything anymore to lose weight that I won't want to live with the rest of my life. I want to be normal dang it!
    2262 days ago
    Great post!
    2262 days ago
    Balance and moderation. I'm not a huge fan of labels because I personally don't think people fit into the neat little boxes we try to put them in. I don't feel like I "fit" into any of those categories either.

    I look for balance in my food. I do count calories, not just to keep myself from eating too much, but also to ensure that I'm eating enough. Other than that, I do my own thing. It's working for me. I had cheesecake yesterday. It was delicious.

    2262 days ago
    ME TOO! BRAVO!! But that is Intuitive Eating isn't it? In the true sense of the words. Eating and drinking what you want to.

    I hate the way that good food is 'demonised' Butter is my favourite. Who in their right mind would choose the chemistry set called 'low fat spread' to put on their bread instead of natural butter.

    each to their own of course, I keep saying that no one size fits all. I am naturally a low carb eater, though I'm a high carb drinker, as I like a beer too. In fact thinking about it, MOST of my carbs come from beer!.

    I am focusing on 'fit and healthy' or as healthy as I can tell anyway, and 'happy'! Not guilt ridden, or miserable, but living each day to the full, taking the fitness classes I adore, doing my beloved karate, eating a good fry up once in a while and having a beer and a curry at the weekend.

    It's called enjoying my life!
    2262 days ago
  • no profile photo CINDYTW
    I am glad you are able to find some peace with this. I know you have been struggling a long time. emoticon
    2262 days ago
    I love this blog!!! It spoke to me loud and clear and how I feel about normal living. We can have it and eat our cake too. Thanks for reminding me.

    2262 days ago
    I'll drink to that!
    2262 days ago
  • KNH771
    It's all about moderation, isn't it? And figuring out what works for you. emoticon
    2263 days ago
    OMG I emoticon this so much!
    2263 days ago
    I really like this post. I like the idea of just looking at what you are doing each moment or day and not fitting into a set thing. Good for you on finding out what works for you!
    2263 days ago
  • JUSTME29
    Balance is good - and that is what we all strive for.
    2263 days ago
  • no profile photo FLGIRL_4EVER
    Your blog spoke so loudly to me. THANK YOU!
    2263 days ago
    Heck yeah! Great outlook!
    2263 days ago
    I love your blog!! You may be my long lost sister. I too have pizza (last night's dinner--it was too hot for me to cook since my air conditioner went out--getting repaired today), I gave up soda for a while--back now in moderation, and I have learned to take the "new" things with a grain of salt. Thanks for letting me know that I am not alone!!! emoticon
    2263 days ago
    I agree ,it is all about balance. It cant be an extreme because you wont stick to it. There is no perfect mold. Thanks for sharing take care.
    2263 days ago
    Be healthy. Be happy. Sounds like you are finding a nice balance. There is no ONE right way to do this.
    2263 days ago
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