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Hello July-- A Year Has Passed

Wednesday, July 03, 2013

I have to say that this July is a lot better than last July. It was at this time last year that my mother got so ill. I remember spending the 4th of July at the nursing home trying to get her to take the power of attorney away from my sister who just wanted her to die.

So, here we are a year later. I have no sisters or brother left. I have lost my faithful companion Sydney. But, through it all, I have also gained so much!

I have learned that I didn't need those horrible people in my life. It is their loss not mine. I have to admit that I'm not sure what is going to happen. In our religion, we place the stone a year after the burial. Now, the stone was already there because of my father and my mother's name was on it. I just don't know if we go back because it is a tradition. I don't think so. I don't think they would tell me if there was anything for her.

I have Summer who keeps me very active. She is quite the handful at times. I was used to Sydney who was pretty into an old dog routine. I do love the fact that we can take Summer any where and she loves to go.

I also think I am much healthier physically than I was a year ago. Yes, I have the neck, back, heel and ankle issues, but I have dealt with those and they are just a fact of my life. My Ulcerative Colitis is under control. I have lost my fear of them showing up at my door.

I have moved on with my life. I am very successful at what I do and pretty proud of what I have been able to accomplish in real estate in exactly 5 years. I started the coursework to get my real estate license in July of 2008. I think that was one of the best changes I have ever made in my life. I had the guts to change careers after 18 years. No doubt it was tough at first, but we succeeded.

Brian and I are still good together and enjoy working together. This is the first time he has ever said, "We could really use a break" lol. We have been incredibly busy. He has agreed that we will take a vacation in the fall with just the two of us. Not the kids.

He is even going to pick the location...we'll see how that goes.

I'm stuck in my weight loss, but I am not going to panic because my clothes are bigger. My blood pressure is back to normal. My cholesterol is good.

On another positive, my son's job is working out very well. We are trying to get him more hours, but at least he is working and getting along with everyone. It is like the perfect job for him.

Overall, I think it has been a good year. It's interesting that I am very content with my mother because I spent so much time with her when she was alive that I have no regrets.

Oh My, I just noticed that they now have my mother's home on the market. What flipping liars. They told me that they weren't going to make anything on it because of how much they paid yada yada. They have it priced over $100,000 more than they paid. Those a@@holes. Oh well, not going to let it ruin my mood.
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    I am glad that you have so many positives in your life now. Great job on lowering your BP and cholesterol!
    1806 days ago
    You sound so much happier this July!!!!!!! I am glad that things are better for you!!!
    1809 days ago
    Sorry about your family issues! Think about your vacation instead!

    You are in a better place.
    1812 days ago
    Sometimes life does not work how we want it. When some family members and friends can become a negative elements we have to distance ourselves. i know people that are very happy that have cut ties with their family.

    emoticon on habing a great year.
    1812 days ago
  • THOMS1
    I am so glad to see you in a better place.
    1812 days ago
  • CAROL_31649731
    Interesting blog! You've had a lot of ups & downs, but what a great attitude . . . wishing you an even better year to come. emoticon
    1812 days ago
    Wow you've been through a lot, losing your mom and the conflict with your siblings. Sorry! It sounds like you've coped with all of it really well, and you have wonderful support in your husbands and kids. Hang in there! You have a great attitude!
    1812 days ago
    you have come such a long way in a year, congrats and hope the next year will be even better
    1812 days ago
    Sounds like you've made some good choices for yourself and your sanity. As to the A$$HOLES - remember everybody has one and a number of people ARE ONE. You've got what is important - memories of people you loved and who loved you. The rest is just stuff and money - nowhere near as precious. Let the idiots have the leftovers and you walk away with the valued aspect.
    1812 days ago
    I too had a similar situation where my siblings wanted everything including my blood. (I'm being a little dramatic.) In either case, my mom passed away some time ago and I always keep her close to my heart. I am glad to hear that you have moved forward and are taking care of yourself. Sometimes people and their actions can bring us down. Stay positive and emoticon . Your horse is beautiful!!!

    1812 days ago
  • JUSTME29
    I'm so glad that you are in a better place now than a year ago. As far as visiting your mother, go if you want to and don't if you don't want to. You keep her memory alive in your heart, and that's enough. If there is no religious obligation to meet then you are free to make your own choice.

    1812 days ago
    I'm so glad you feel healthy and content. Life deals us the cards we just have to deal with what we get. Sounds like you can. Good for you!
    1812 days ago
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