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"What other questionable choices I've made?"

Wednesday, July 03, 2013

There are really only two ways to approach life - as victim or as gallant fighter - and you must decide if you want to act or react, deal your own cards or play with a stacked deck. And if you don't decide which way to play with life, it always plays with you.
--Merle Shain

The events of the past few days have given me much to reflect upon. I was focused on being mindful with my food. There were oh so many temptations. And yes, I did give into some of those temptations. But there were some changes. When I did choose to partake... my portion was much smaller than in years past. More is not always better, besides the best flavor is savored in the first few bites. I did portion off my plate and took home half my generous meal to enjoy as another meal. The rest of the family were members of the Clean Plate Club. (I was a former member.) I was full, how could I have cleaned the plate? Had I chosen to ignore my body's signals all those years.

Another incident gave me much to reflect upon. An EF1 tornado touched down about a 1/4 mile east of my family home. Thankfully there were only property, crop damage and minor injuries. Not like the F4 that touched down west of the home back in 1979. Monday's tornado brought back the vivid memories of the horrific damage, loss of life and severe injuries both physical and mental.

But this is Connecticut!!! We are not supposed to have tornadoes! Or are we? Well folks my perception was faulty. It turns out that Connecticut has 1.3 tornadoes a year, usually of low intensity like the one on July 1st. I feel like that woman in that spaghetti sauce commercial, "I wonder what other questionable choices I've made?" What beliefs do I still hold that are holding me back.

Dr. Beck had us focus on hunger, to make us differentiate between hunger and desire. For me I know I am dealing mostly with desire. WATERMELLEN posted about being okay with hunger.
NELLJONES's comment to the above blog, really struck me:
" Back when I was a kid, there weren't any "snack foods", and it was too much trouble to prepare snacks as well as meals from scratch, so we ate three good meals a day. The expectation of avoiding even the slightest twinge of hunger is very modern, just within the last 50 years or so, led (I believe) by the prepared food industry who profit from people who don't want to be even the tiniest bit hungry....ever. That little bit of hunger means your previous meal was spot on in terms of size and composition, and you will be ready to enjoy your next meal."

My beliefs and actions in regard to food have been ingrained in me from when I was a child. I remember my Grandmother saying to my mother:"Don't you feed these kids?" as she handed us cookies. Desire is not hunger.

There is not blame or guilt to be assigned here, what is past is past. What matters is how I choose to move forward. I am thinking of implementing a household ban on snacking to satisfy desire.

Thank you WATERMELLEN and NELLJONES for helping me gain this perspective.

P.S. I am still working on dealing with cravings and desires and will continue blogging the BDS series soon, so stay tuned, :)
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    Thanks for the shout out! NELLJONES has another bang-on blog today: that woman is a wonder!

    Like you I've survived a tornado; so glad that your damage was not worse and you're OK. Never ever afterwards do we read about any "natural disasters" with the same indifference!!
    1752 days ago
    Nelljones got me to thinking too. She is so right about no snacks when we were kids. I think it all started on Lassie. When Timmy would come home from school and his mom had fresh baked cookies and milk, Lassie would keep him company at the kitchen table. emoticon When I watched that I thought I was the only one in the world who didn't get cookies and milk after school. And so it began.......
    But really, I do recall there was no eating in between meals. Everything was made from scratch so if you opened the fridge or the cupboards nothing was there but staples. I think that is when we started a tradition of eating peanut butter off a spoon. Times have changed and not necessarily for the better in this regard.
    1753 days ago
  • SUNSET09
    emoticon We live and learn as I was raising the in clean your plate generation as well however, we kids took a stand, especially if it were things we didn’t like. How were we to know and growing up and learning for ourselves, isn't that what life's all about?!?!? This is a revelation, your AHA moment and we all have them. It’s about making the best choices for ourselves, wanting to live healthy, long and prosper. The manufacturers aren’t always about what’s best for us as money talks. We need to stand up and take responsibilities for our own actions. It’ll always be something however, we have the right to choose life and the pursuit of happiness! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1753 days ago
    Great blog and you are not alone in some of these "poor choice" situations. You are now making a lot more healthy choices and it will definitely show in the results you get. Keep up the great work.
    1753 days ago
    I lost my subscription to Watermellen's blog so I used your link to read this entry. Yes, it is a great reminder. I need to integrate the "hunger is not an emergency" again into my daily mantras.

    My mom used to say, "have an apple" when we whined about being hungry between meals. There was always a fruit bowl on the counter, and indeed, I have continued that practice and so has my daughter. If we said we didn't want an apple, she would tell us we weren't really hungry. And if we DID eat the apple, problem solved!

    Now I prefer to eat baby carrots, cucumbers, or radishes between meals. I try not to eat any junk before dinner, but after dinner....we'll that's where changes need to be made!

    Keep fighting the good fight, Nancy!
    1753 days ago
    The processed food industry has indeed had a drastic impact on how we eat! With all the fat, sugar and salt, which acts on the brain like substances do for addicts -- it "lights up" the pleasure center of the brain. So . . . the cleaner we can eat the better for sure!

    HUGS and great blog.
    1753 days ago
    HMMMM I have never heard it put like that before but you are so right. I do not think we snacked as kids either.
    Wow now I have to ponder all of this.

    I wonder when we decided that mild hunger was a thing to avoid at the cost of our health?
    1753 days ago
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