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Not The Best Of Days

Wednesday, July 03, 2013

I'm feeling really stressed right now. I got into it with my son today. We both ended up crying. I just hurt so much for him. Even when things look like they are starting to go his way, life comes along and screws with him. We called his insurance company today about them NOT paying for his surgery. This when he asked them (as did his Dr) about his per-existing condition. While the Affordable Health Care Act prevents insurance companies from denying someone with a per-existing condition coverage, the companies have found a way to avoid actual paying for anything. They simple make you have a "waiting" time of any where from 6 months to 9 months. And they don't have to tell you upfront. All they have to do is send you a notice. Which my son doesn't remember getting. It wasn't in the packet of info they sent him. The woman at the insurance company says they mail it separately. So the upshot of all of this is that my son owes $8K for his surgery that he believed (as did his Dr and the hospital) was covered after his $1500 deductible. They so screwed him! He was so upset about it. I didn't help matters when I pointed out to him that I think he needs to stop paying for everything for his GF.

He blew up at me. He thinks (and maybe he has a point) that I don't have any faith in his ability to pick his GFs. He says that when I (and the rest of the family) think that, that it undermines his belief in himself. He talked about just packing up and flying home. We both ended up crying, but he's still here. Also he's not happy with how hubby treats/talks to him. Hubby has his best interests at heart, but doesn't always express therm clearly. As Jason's mom, I wish I could pay the med bills for him, I wish I could take care of his going back to school (like he wants to do), I wish I could make things all better for him, like I did when he was small. But I can't. I can only give him all my love and support and pray for him. It breaks my heart to see him like this, so sad, angry, a bit scared.

I didn't get hubby's glasses today. He decide that we'd get them tomorrow. After the new furniture comes. Jason is going to spend the day with an old friend from school who lives down here.

I did 90 mins on the treadmill this morning and eating was mostly good.

It's been a emotional day, so I'm going off to bed. Night everyone! Sorry...no funny tonight. I'm not feeling overly funny.

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    Boy, Jason and Brandon have a lot in common. I know what that feels like to want to fix things for them. I am still grieving over the fiasco at Brandon's wedding reception. Sometimes I wonder if we ever get to move beyond feeling like we should be supermoms... I'm glad he stayed. And that he was able to tell you what he did about the way he was feeling. Big hugs to you guys as you get over the inevitable rough patch today. Hugs, Calen~
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