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My diet sabotuer... a sparkcoach activity

Sunday, June 23, 2013

My biggest diet sabotage is my spouse. I control the shopping and the menu. He brings in food that are triggers for me, hotdogs and pizza). I choose to eat them. Sometimes, he is not even home when I am eating them. ( i tend to binge at night, when no one is awake or home.) I've asked him not to buy them, not to bring them home but he continues. part of the problem is that I am inconsistent and I do eat them. I've tried to explain the whole addict thing, but he doesn't believe in food as an addiction. Today's Sparkcoach lesson was on how to deal with the sabotage. She suggested professional help, and while it might be a good idea, there is no way I can put that on his plate. We just started a small business ( a daycare) and he works 15 hour days. Some nights he sleeps there. It leaves all the rest of the family stuff to me, the driving and delivery, the yardwork, the housework. I think I need to come up with a different plan, one that I control. So since I have asked him not to and he keeps buying them, I am going to ask that he wrap them in foil, so I don't see them. Or I will wrap them in foil. Or keep them in the freezer so there not accessible. I'm open to any other ideas. I need to stop the binging, and I've made progress, last night I stopped, thought about what I was about to do and re-framed it to a choice. Next time, I need to walk away and make a better choice.
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    You have lots of great advice but I'll throw in a few of mine.
    I wrap the treats in plastic bags and then I use packing tape on them. This usually stops me and has annoyed my husband to the extent that he at least will buy treats I don't like.
    Second, I have been using drops of tea tree oil on my toothbrush along with toothpaste. It has given me awesome dental check ups (you buy it at health food stores and it says not to ingest but is not a problem because you spit it out) and makes food taste pretty nasty for quite a while. When I'm done eating at night I brush my teeth with it and it really helps me know I am done!
    Best of luck!
    1819 days ago
    I say the same thing about my husband..he is my biggest temptation! I am not able to shop, so it all falls to him, except the menu planning, shopping list, and coupons.

    emoticon But he brings home: breads, cinnamon rolls, cookies. But, I am the one who eats them..he does not force me to have them.

    I go over my carb/calorie count too often. Totally my fault.
    1820 days ago
  • VICD25
    Foil is a GREAT plan! Freezer is excellent too. Try thinking of the food in the fridge as 'His' and 'Mine'. If you ever had a roommate in college, you know the results of eating "His" food!

    The other thing, NEVER, NEVER, open the fridge without knowing exactly what you are looking for. Plan your eats and eat your plan.

    Hang in there. Your husband is just insensitive. I'm sure he's not intentionally sabotaging you!


    1821 days ago
  • KACAR51
    Its hard when people don't understand! Have you tried saving enough calories to have healthy snacks at night? Thats what I do! Good Luck! emoticon
    1821 days ago
    Could you get him a mini fridge and ask him to put his tempting foods in there? He's got to meet you half way on this. Good luck!
    1821 days ago
  • _VALEO_
    You might want to talk again with your husband, and find a solution that works for both of you. He might not want to sabotage your plans, but he just doesn't want/need to be on a diet too, and asking him not to buy/eat what he likes might be very frustrating for him as well.

    As an example, I was an heavy smoker. I decided to quit last March 2012 whilst my husband is still a smoker.
    Believe me, it was not easy, and it was not my first attempt, and before I had given in to temptation because I could still steal a cigarette from his packet, I had even smoked while his back was turned and pretended I had quit till he caught me.
    I couldn't ask him to quit too because I wanted too. He doesn't want to quit for the moment, and he is not ready. Why was this time different for me? I made it because I was ready and really wanted to quit no matter what. I came to realize that there will always be a smoker around that could have prevented me from being 'clean' and I just had to do it, no excuses. And because I was concerned by my health.

    What I want to say is temptation will always be around you, if it is not your husband, it will be someone else.
    You have to find a way to tame your addiction, that is not too hard on you and others. This is not easy, discuss it with you hubby and work it out. Do it for yourself!
    1821 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/23/2013 6:41:57 PM
    My husband used to be guilty of that, now he is better and only does it once in a while.
    1821 days ago
    One of the most important lines in your blog is about stopping, thinking about your choices and making a different decision. One of the things I have done when I want to binge is drink a glass of water or a cup of tea and wait 10 minutes. Usually by then I am doing something else and have moved on.
    1821 days ago
    My husband does the same thing. He buys candy, cake, and other goodies that I have trouble resisting. I have discussed it with him numerous times, but he feels that he shouldn't have to "suffer" because I can't control myself. I resist for a time, and then eat everything in sight! I like your idea of freezing things. That just might work! emoticon idea! emoticon
    1821 days ago
    I think you've come up with some great ideas so far. For my husband, money talks, and he hates to waste money. So if he brings things home that I specifically ask him not to, I would throw it out before my resolve weakens. I would not be tempted at all later to go in the trash and retrieve it and he would be so peeved that it would only take a few times of this before he'd learn his lesson. Good luck!
    1821 days ago
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