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Weird start to the weekend

Saturday, June 22, 2013

I drive past Sonoma Speedway every day on my way to and from work. This weekend NASCAR is racing there, and the crowds are horrendous. Luckily for me, though, just about everybody else decided that they needed to avoid the track, and I ended up having the easiest commute home of the week! Then it got weird.

I put a chicken leg quarter and a potato in the oven to bake for dinner. For the second time in a year, the glass pie plate broke in the oven! I can't remember that ever happening before last year. So now I'm down to only one pie plate, and I need a couple more. However, I'm seriously considering metal right now!

(What follows is JMHO and not intended to offend anybody)

I put a post on Food Network's Facebook wall supporting their decision to terminate Paula Deen. I don't feel racial slurs are ever appropriate, and she has a demonstrated ongoing pattern of this sort of thing. Well, the responses I've gotten from my fellow FN fans have been kind of discouraging. One called me "liberal moron." I didn't answer -- the BEST he's got is cheap name-calling. And one ridiculed me for using the word "provably," saying I'd misspelled "probably." I posted back and told her that I'd meant "able to be proved." But I don't think I'll respond to any more.

It all reminds me of an incident years ago when my son was a toddler. I invited my siblings to dinner (HUGE mistake). My sister had the nerve to use the "N" word at my table and in front of my son. When I told her that we did not allow that word in our house, she lectured ME on how "you've given a word too much power!" Sorry, Sis, but to me that word is a filthy obscenity and certainly nothing I want my son thinking is acceptable.

Deep breaths -- tomorrow morning is my "coffee with Bobby" time, which I love. And of course, I don't need to go to the office for a few days!
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    Sorry about the glass pie plate.

    I had a potato explode in the oven a few weeks ago. I poked it before I put it in the oven, but apparently not enough. There were shreds of potato and skin all over the oven - just nothing left of it.
    1759 days ago
    We had a similar incident with my dad. We were in our minivan when our son was a bit younger and my dad used the N word. We informed him that we did not use that word and others were not to use that word around our son either. We would discriminate against others based on race and he was not to air such thoughts around our son. He didn't really object and didn't do that again.

    Later we happened to mention the incident to my mom and she was flabbergasted that we would correct my dad, an elder, in such a manner. (My parents are divorced.) She basically said respect goes to your elders. I had always felt as a kid that my mom thought we should respect her and she owed us no respect whatsoever, and well, her statements that day said that exact thing. Rather surprised me. I have wondered if that is more of a southern culture attitude. Not really sure. Just found it an odd sentiment. I can respect others regardless of age, race, gender, etc. Yes, respect tends to be earned to a degree, but everyone has some quality that you can respect. (Well, I think everyone does. Haven't met anyone who doesn't, but some have tried me in trying to find it!)

    1761 days ago
    Have a great summer ! emoticon
    1761 days ago
  • TAMMYS128
    Don't even stress for a second over silly people hiding behind a computer screen - keyboard warriors gain strength from their anonymity, which is no strength at all really! I don't know anything about the Paula Deen issue (I'm not from the US) but it sounds like you have a pretty good opinion which I'd agree with.
    1761 days ago
    well i have never used that word and i am from the south raised here anyhow..i notice they use that word amongst themselves but there is no good reason to me to use it..i just wasn't raised that way and my son has never gone there's off limits and no excuses and for paula to be using that is racist whether she thinks so or just is and for me it would be racist if even whoopi said it but then not all people feel that way i'm sure
    the lady mary
    the weeks are flying by for sure my friend
    1762 days ago
    Sadly, racism is far from dead in this country. Hate is hate even if some try to deny and justify it. Good for you being a good role model for your child(ren) from toddler years up!

    I wish Paula D. no ill but hope she learns from her mistakes. Her apologies (two takes on video, at least) were less than impressive. She also got some flack for continuing to promote high-fat food while she had type II diabetes for a year and a half, only going public about it when she had a lucrative deal with a pharmaceutical company. I do have to give her credit for raising 2 sons as a single mother and for having a charming personality. No use for her recipes, though. MHO.
    1762 days ago
    On the pie plate, if it was Pyrex, you might write to the company. They've gotten a lot of complaints, and a polite letter saying that you're disappointed because you always had such faith in their brand might just end up bringing the UPS guy to your door with a new set. (My mom just recently got a free replacement for a Chicago Cutlery knife that broke-- after 52 years! They said "lifetime guarantee," and they meant it!)

    On Paula Deen... I'm of two minds. If were really letting her go because of what she said in court about the n-word, that wouldn't be entirely fair. Anybody her age who says they never used that word is lying. My mother, who is about the least racist person you could find over the age of 60, used to call Brazil nuts "n* toes." When I was small, my classmates and I used it in the "eeny-meeny" counting rhyme, until a teacher told us, "That's a very rude word. Say 'tiger' instead." If I were asked in court whether I had ever used that word, all I could say in my defense is, "Not since I was old enough to know what it meant." If it's true that the last time PD used it was 25 years ago, in reference to the guy who held her up at gunpoint, I think we should forgive that.

    But it's not about the word. She has done some really offensive things much more recently, though those actions might not have included the particular word, and it sounds like she's not pleasant to work for regardless of what color your skin is. Add in the diabetes thing, and I suspect that there are people at FN who have been wanting to get rid of her for years. Part of me wants to say they should have waited until after the trial, but if by any chance she doesn't lose the lawsuit, it would be hard to do it at that point. It's kind of unfortunate that the racism issue came up at the same time as her general contract renewal, in fact, because it does give racists something to use to defend her. It makes it sound like they're firing her because she used an incredibly offensive word 25 years ago, when in fact they're choosing not to renew her contract because she has a pattern of unethical behavior, including but not at all limited to racism. The truth is, both her cooking and her behavior belong to a period in the past that we now recognize as unhealthy. She's not appealing to a modern audience, and that's the message Food Network should be pushing to explain their decision. The n-word thing is just one last nail in the coffin.
    1762 days ago
    You've touched on so many topics here.

    I agree with you about Paula Deen. I've posted responses to some "controversial" topics in Yahoo and gotten angry comments, too. In truth, I've given angry comments to others.

    You have my respect for having taken a stand with your sister, especially during a family gathering, which could or may have turned awkward. By speaking up at the moment, you gave your son a stronger message than if you'd talked with him after everyone had gone home.

    Now, for the pie plate. Did you immerse it in water after its last use? Out of ignorance, I completely immersed a glass Melitta coffee pot and noticed a crack the next time I was about to use it. Perhaps tempered glass products, no matter the manufacturer, can't withstand immersion?

    1762 days ago
    Enjoy your weekend. I will curious to see where she goes next. First there was the diabetic issue and now this.
    1762 days ago
  • LIS193
    Joining you for coffee with Bobby!
    1762 days ago
    I just heard that Paula Deene is going off in a month or so. I hadn't heard about the racist comments, but I think she should be off because of ethical reasons. She is a type 2 diabetic and yet continue to prepare and enthuse over food that was loaded with butter, sugar, etc. FN is powerful and should be focused on good and healthy food which we all know is possible.
    1762 days ago
    I've never heard of a glass pie plate breaking in the oven. Very weird.
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    1762 days ago
    I had the same problem with Pyrex. It seems that a couple of decades ago Pyrex changed the type of glass used, and the new stuff breaks. Old Pyrex works great. I still use a 40 year old pie plate and casserole, and they work great.

    As far as Paula Deen, have you been in the Deep South? Residual racism is everywhere, and older folks like Paula grew up steeped in that habit. It wasn't bad, it simply was. Has my 75 year old Arkansan husband used that word? Oh yeah, but not much anymore. He graduated from a segregated high school. As a matter of fact, only high school classes before 1964 can have their reunions at the city Country Club because it is still segregated. The civil rights movement began for a reason, and that was well within our lifetime. We can't judge today by yesterday, just be grateful that things have changed in most places, but, alas, not all. It takes time.
    1762 days ago
  • MAGGIE101857
    Sorry about the pie plate - very strange!!! My oven has decided that it no longer wants to turn off with the OFF button! Sometimes I long for the old days when you could just turn a dial!

    I only hope that in all the hullabaloo that we don't lose sight of the real lessons:

    1. Think before you speak.
    2. Words can't be taken back, whether they are spoken, snail-mailed or e-mailed.
    3. Treat others as you want to be treated - speak kind words, act kindly.

    Good people sometimes do or say hurtful things; it doesn't make them a bad person. I am reminded of some years ago when Martha Stewart was the target and the media turned it into a witch hunt. We need to put things into perspective and not get carried away; to remember that we should not judge others lest we want to be judged ourselves.
    1762 days ago
    Well, glad your commute home was a good one! Bonus points on that one.

    I don't know why, but I've had 2 glass pyrex baking dishes crack in the oven too. Don't trust 'em anymore. I'm with you. Have metal now.

    Ok . . . onto the topic of the day . . . Paula Deene. I agree with you totally. I can understand PERHAPS she grew up in a culture of racism being raised in the South in the late 40's, early 50's, but you do have to learn some lessons in life along the way . . . including what is appropriate and inappropriate. It's a shame, because she's let down so many people. Of course, especially herself and her family! But I think the Food Network made the right decision. Can't see any way it could be different.

    HUGS and hope you have a good weekend. Go for metal pie pans!
    1762 days ago
    You have a double decker sandwich post going on here.. two unsavory events ( FB responder and sister drama ) with a smear of broken pie plate, sandwiched between two smile causing events ( fabulous commute and CWB ). In this case, celebrate the outside crust.. if you know what I mean! Enjoy the fabulous Mr F!
    1762 days ago
    People always think they have the right to pick on others, ignore them and have a great day
    1762 days ago
    You can never take an unkind word back can you? It beats me why some people show such lack of respect for fellow human beings.

    Have a great weekend, see you when I get back from holiday emoticon
    1762 days ago
    It amazes me when people use mean and hateful words towards someone who is making a comment about another person saying a mean and hateful word. I guess people like that must of skipped the common sense line.

    I'll be watching Bobby tomorrow morning as well. I'm liking the whole Brunch thing on Cooking Channel.

    Enjoy your weekend.
    1762 days ago
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