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Thursday, June 20, 2013

I'm so sick of addictions ruling my life. I hate alcohol. I hate cigarettes. And I don't mean like some people do, where they just don't do it, I mean that the sight of drinking, alcohol ads, people smoking where I can see them (or god forbid, smell it) triggers a visceral, deep-seated hatred.

I'm tired of justifications and rationalizations. I'm tired of people who live with alcoholics saying "it's okay for me, he's not that bad." I'm tired of people who make excuses (and I include myself in that.) I'm tired of the wine-soaked television shows that would be just as hilarious and funny if everyone is sober. I'm sick of the sexy ads, the constant bombardment of my friends and family of alcohol and what they're drinking.

I'm even tired of all the research claiming the health benefits of alcohol, because as far as I'm concerned, so few people are able to apply that research in a healthy way that they need to stop publishing it.

I'm tired of an entire industry of murderers who gets wealthy killing people slowly (and sometimes quickly) and it's all perfectly legal.

I'm tired of morons who think that it's okay to get behind the wheel, EVER, with any amount of alcohol in their system.

I'm tired of selfish smokers spreading their stink around others. Of trying to kill their loved ones with second-hand smoke. I'm just sick of chemical addictions.

We all have our crosses to bear. We all have our flaws. Hell, I've got a pretty nasty internet addiction myself. But I'm tired of the fallout from the destruction that is happening all around us, while people get their knickers in a twist over who loves who and taking care of our sick.

There's a war going on around us, and it's not going to be stopped by government programs or school rallies. There is a fundamental change that has to happen in each and every one of us that has to make this sort of thing socially unacceptable. We didn't abolish slavery by making laws, we abolished slavery by changing society to the point where it was simply unacceptable. We tried legislating alcohol once, and that didn't turn out so well.

I don't think we'll ever reach the point where our society will think it's unacceptable. But that doesn't mean I have to ever tolerate it again. I can't change society. But I can change me.
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  • BILL60
    Whatever you do, don't hold back.
    2066 days ago
  • GEORGE815
    Hope you are sick and tired about your teasers.
    2066 days ago
    Do you include addictions like food, sex, gambling, and unhealthy thoughts/speech (such as self-hating thoughts or racial/LGBTQ hate)? The hard part is that much of society is stuck in a place of hate versus love - we hate what we don't love and love what we don't hate - that we become polarized and addicted to the extremes. Much of society is stuck in a 'me me me' mentality, which is also an addiction, just as some people become addicted to always giving to others to the point of sacrificing themselves (always putting others' needs first).

    Unfortunately, addictions are all around us and in us. We can't change others, we can only change ourselves. We can decide that we're no longer willing to put up with our addictions by first finding what we're addicted to then working to moderate our behavior, then telling others which of their addictions we're not willing to accept and refuse to be around. Then we must find others who's addictions and activities are acceptable to us and surround ourselves with those people.
    2067 days ago
  • 123ELAINE456
    Change begins at home and with ourselves first before we can help others to change their lives for the better. God Blessings To You And Everyone. Have A Marvelous Day. Take Care. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    2067 days ago
    I was at a retirement party last night for DH's boss (who was also my former boss). What a freakin' group of drinkers!

    I'm with you, Heather. I cannot handle being around alcohol! And I **HATE** that 'drinking wine daily is good for your heart' bull. It makes me SOOOOO angry!

    smoking does seem to be kind of on the downward slope as far as accepted, but drinking is a tough one.

    I wonder how much sooner those folks DH works with could retire if they took that 1/2 of that alcohol money and put it in their 401k...

    which reminds me - how in the world can anybody afford to smoke?
    2067 days ago
    Social acceptance is key in any behavior modification. In other words, even though it will take a change in society at large to rid ourselves of these influences, change begins at home. Each individual must make choices which influence and demonstrate to others the benefits of said changes (or the destruction caused by not changing). The message can then begin to spread and be socially reinforced. It's a process that begins with baby steps and must reach critical mass before the tides will turn.

    Honestly, I see a HUGE shift in attitudes toward smoking in just the last 10 years even. I hardly see it as a widespread socially acceptable activity except for very specific social niches. Alcohol---that's a bear for sure.
    2067 days ago
    I hear ya!
    Some "young adults" at work were laughing about how wasted they got the other night. My comment was "Why is that so funny???. it's actually foolish". emoticon
    2067 days ago
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