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Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Last week objective was NOT TO TAKE THINGS PERSONAL. Last week I had to realize that mastering it will be a work in progress. I seem to get the concept but living it and making it part of me is another thing.

Just when I thought I incorporated the concept into my daily practice I became overly upset this weekend about someone's unfounded negative reaction to me. Practice not Perfection emoticon

This week I will be practicing tools to decompress or release the tension....I have a friend who chants emoticon , someone I know who meditates to music emoticon , have not taken a bath with candles music and incense in a long time emoticon .

Will research this week ways to not make my blood pressure emoticon go up, make my body tremble that I cannot function. Will let you know how I do. emoticon

Love and Support to my Wonderful Spark Family. emoticon

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  • no profile photo CD357306
    This is a very interesting did it go...I like that technique I might consider this it just might help me sleep....I'll try has this worked for you...would love to hear from you on this....

    2472 days ago
    Good luck dearie. The first steps are awareness, a desire to change and a plan. You are well on your way!

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    2477 days ago
  • no profile photo CD12565041
    continue with courage
    2477 days ago
    2479 days ago
    Yvonne, You are a smart, caring, beautiful woman! ((((Hugs)))) It is easy to say: Don't let others affect you and their bad mood get in your way. I am sorry that you are feeling this way. I am glad our paths crossed!

    Go, Tigers!!! emoticon
    2480 days ago
    (HUGS) I know that it is easier to say than do the whole - "not taking it personally" thing. It does take practice and perfection is unlikely to EVER be possible on this or most other things either. Hope you have a better rest of the week. Let the past go and move on.
    2480 days ago
  • JILL313
    Hi Yvonne, I hear you my friend but it's easier said than done to change ourselves and feelings overnight. Like me, you're a beautiful work in progress. . .as I'm also a very sensitive person and get my feelings hurt too easily. You probably already do daily meditation to help de-stress, relax and feel better. A few days ago I posted a link to about a dozen guided free meditations created my U.C.L.A. If you haven't yet please check them out. I'm here for you so just let me know how things are going but take changing inner things slowly. . .and it will become easier and easier to let things not hurt you so much. . .Continue to treat yourself Special like you already are.

    Hugs & Love,

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    2480 days ago
    I have struggled with this also. I always thought that when I reacted to the their negativity that I had failed. But I now realize that this change takes time and when I do see myself react on occasion I try to role play in my mind, visualize a different out come. For me it helps me channel some of my quick to hurt or anger feels in a more positive way. I don't know if this helps or not
    but remember your spark friends are here if you need us 24/7. Hugs, Jeanne
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    2480 days ago
    emoticon Good plan, Yvonne! We all know we can't change anyone else's behavior...only our own. That is hard to put into practice, but so very important. Good luck, friend!! emoticon
    2480 days ago
    Yes, sometimes it is really hard to separate what is important enough to get upset about and what is just not worth the effort. Something that has worked for me, when I remember to use this yardstick...

    Is (whatever is driving me to distraction) going to be important a year from now, 6-months from now; 3-months from now; 6-weeks from now; 3-weeks from now; a week from now; and usually long before I get to this point I have decided that it really isn't that important in the whole scheme of things.
    But if it is a person or a place that I can avoid or at least distance myself from.... then I work at keeping the person (usually it is a person) at arms length at a minimum.
    Another thought... Is the other person as upset as you? probably not.. they probably have totally forgotten whatever happened and are quite happy and carefree. So don't let them control your life through your anger/frustration.

    I know it is easier said than done.. but be patient with yourself, with practice you will be able to let the unimportant stuff just disappear like vapor in a breeze.
    The unimportant stuff is the stuff you have absolutely no control over changing.. it is what it is, they are who they are.. and nothing you say or do will change them/it.

    I hope I have not offended you.. I mean well. I hope I have brought some comfort.
    emoticon emoticon emoticon You are not alone.
    2480 days ago

    I need to work on this too. emoticon
    2481 days ago
    Yvonne, you do need to relax. I found an interesting thing to do to relieve some stress.
    I stand with my arms stretched as far to the ceiling as I can, put my head back as far as I can and with every breath, I try to stretch a little further like trying to touch the ceiling. During this time, I am either saying mantras or a few prayers. It actually works for me and feels very me a good, long stretch has always felt heavenly. (hugs) noel

    2481 days ago
    A nice bubble bath with nice music and candles sound fantastic---- emoticon
    a glass of juice perhaps
    2481 days ago
    TOTALLY find something that helps you to relax - after all this time Yoga seems to do the trick for me! But, also making sure that you get in your full fitness minutes - that really helps your emotions a LOT! I am personally finding that it really is a stress relief, and for some reason, helps me cope better with other things. I think it all adds up when we keep doing better things over time! :-) You are doing great - and I agree, practice NOT perfection! :-) (((HUGS)))
    2481 days ago
  • SUZIEW27
    Relaxing or meditating are great ideas. It is essential that we take time out for ourselves.
    2481 days ago
    Man, you've inspired me to do the same!
    2481 days ago
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