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Mu husband is such as A$$

Sunday, June 16, 2013

Yesterday, I planned to grill. I defrosted steak for him and the other carnivores, and chicken and veggies for me. At 7:00, he calls from the daycare to tell me he is bringing home pizza, and not that skinny diet thin crust, but a stuffed all meat monster. I said, sarcastically... way to support the healthy life. He said, you can eat spinach and hung up. If I was an alcoholic, it would be expected that we not bring alcohol into the house. Why is it so different for bad for you food? So, I untracked the grilling, and searched for a papa murphy's all meat stuffed pizza. One 1/16 of the pizza was 400 calories. I had one. who can eat just one tiny sliver of pizza. I went to bed, asking that he wrap up what remained and make it inaccessible. He then left the leftovers out, because really how can three people eat two large family size pizza and an order of cheesy bread? Guess what I ate in the middle of the night?

I know that he didn't force me to eat anything, and the responsibility is mine, but *&%^#*$&%#*&$%... he could at least try and act like he is supportive. I daydream about living alone, where I control what is in the house. and pick up my own laundry. and eat my cooking without complaint. If I didn't have kids, I swear, I would be single.

So today, I am batch cooking so dinner is ready in the evenings next week. I want to take an evening water areabics class. I told him about it, and that there were some parent type activites that he could help with. He doubts he will be home in time... has to stay at the daycare until the workers leave and the inspection is done. Not negotiable.

Today is not a happy married life. happy Father's day.
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    yeah - wow that is tough. I had to deal with that before asking hubby not to buy junk food cause I couldn't stay out of it. We got in quite a few fights over it and it took him a while to come around. I'm rooting for you - don't give up ever!
    1798 days ago
    I hope you are able to talk this over with him and come to some rational way of working through it. It hurts when our spouses are not supportive. Good luck.
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    emoticon My family is the same way.
    1804 days ago
    I was there with my ex. It certainly sounds as though he wants you to fail -- perhaps because he fears seeing you become stronger in yourself? I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this.
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  • PEG2584
    There is definitely some sabotage going on. I think men are some times very scared of change. They like things to stay the same in their world, unless of course they are making the changes. This can be especially true of changes in their spouse. It can be as basic as he is afraid that if you get in shape you would leave.
    1804 days ago
    Yes, he is purposely sabotaging you. No two ways about it. Guess it's time to sit down and ask why. Sorry you are experiencing this type of stress.


    1804 days ago
    I am in your boat!! First off....if he left that pizza out with me, I would have thrown it in the garbage. End of problem and you don't have to eat it. And why didn't you just cook your own more nutritious meal and let them eat the pizza? I eat separate things from my family all the time. As far as him not wanting to "be a Father" so you can take a class. Is this a babysitting issue (children cannot be home alone)? Are the parent things over the summer crucial? As in a life threatening must? If not, I would say take your class. Start putting your needs first. I have lost 73lbs without one kind word or anything from my husband. He started walking this last week and he wants a "good job" because he took a 3 mile walk. Every. single. time. he goes out. At night, I don't even ask him to watch the children (I mean they are his children, it's not like he's babysitting some strangers children for free); I just get changed and say "I'm going for my walk". No asking. Just telling. Keep strong. Throw any bad food away!!!
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  • _VALEO_
    I hear loud and clear, Kate. Sometimes men can be so unsensitive, and unsupportive. And if it weren't for my cat, some days I could also be single! emoticon

    Hang on in there!
    1804 days ago
    Not very supportive at all. But you can make this right! Don't give up and don't let him tear you down. Perhaps sitting down with him and explaining that you need his support, that you're making this lifestyle choice to be a healthier persona and that it will benefit him as well as you. From what I read here, the things you asked him to do weren't that big of a deal.

    Hope the new week treats you better!

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