What Is At The Basis of Weight Gain?

Sunday, June 16, 2013

Bear with me while I try to figure out how to say all this. I recently read a book that resonated with me. It was just one case that the author quoted. She was a successful professional woman who lost her zip in her company after many happy and energizing years. She obviously did the work she loved but couldn't get back into things the way she did in the past. She had become contented. So the author told her, "she had lost control". That was the missing and magical word for her condition and malaise.

You see, the same principle applies to losing weight. The bottom line, when you go off, fall into addictions, reach plateaus, etc., you are projecting a loss of control. That is the basis of your success or if you don't have it, your failure. It can be for many reasons, some trivial and some more serious.

It was a light bulb moment for me when I read that and didn't need to read the rest of his book because the problems he was dealing with were not mine and I already knew (or figured out) how I had to deal with mine. We are all individuals, so in order to keep pushing, we have to get to know ourselves better and I find Spark gives the help we need from all the articles and our Spark Friends. Don't cut our Spark Friends short!!!

This was the link to turning me around. And maybe my chiropractor was right when he stressed to me that it all starts with your mind. I was so furious because I blamed it all on my body. Then I began to wonder seriously how what he said could relate to me.

And then voila!, the book appeared in my life.

Hope this inspires some of you to follow my path and find success for yourselves. So far, it's working for me. I don't ever intend to go back to the place I was before - yo-yoing back and forth. Regaining all I had lost. And I started not only with my eating habits but projecting it further into my lifestyle. I am slowly gaining control over clutter and general cleaning up - even hired a handyman who is painting my fence, cleaning up my garage (that my husband left in disarray before he died nearly two years ago) and will finish up painting the house.

Like they say, "Where There's a Will, There's a Way!

Let me know if you find this blog inspiring. . .

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    A very insightful blog. Strategies that we learn/practice here can and should extend into other areas of of life - just as you are doing now.
    1796 days ago
    Sounds like you are in a good place now!!
    1797 days ago
    The mind is VERY powerful. IMHO, the body will respond to what is in the mind in such a way that there is consistancy between the two.
    1798 days ago
  • FLAME42
    Oh my, I have been out of control for far too long. My husband makes almost every decision and I have been coasting along. This leads to FRUSTRATION, which leads to overeating, negative thoughts and not making the progress I need to make. Thank you for the reminder.
    1798 days ago

    I agree with you. If we lose control of what is going on, our feelings either negative or positive, and our lives in general, nothing makes sense. I have a control problem with trying to make things go my way, even if it is not going to be. I have to learn balance and to take control of all that I have within my control.

    1798 days ago
    Helen, this is so true. Losing control leads me into a whole mine field of negative thinking, and when I'm in control I'm on top of the world and good things happen. The trick is that if you starting losing control in even the tiniest aspect of your life, everything else will eventually tumble down. We must strive to take a firm grasp of the reins whenever we feel the need and keep our buggy running smooth and straight.
    All the best to you, my friend. Enjoy the ride!
    emoticon emoticon Carol
    1799 days ago
    Good for you Avandrea, Cheryl_Anne and Happymesoon!

    I should have added that I am a bottom line kind of person. I can't jump ahead of myself. Because those things are short-lived. That's why this hit the nail on the head for me and I can go back to it time and time again, or as many times as I see myself picking up a bad habit again - and getting to the core of my problem.

    Thanks for listening. . .and all the positive responses. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1799 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/16/2013 11:28:54 AM
    Yup, loss of control definitely hits me at times, and that is when I run for the chips or other salty things. Correction, that is when I used to run for them, NO MORE!!! Eating that bag of chips won't make the situation any better, and the guilt that I now feel when I do eat them is only adding to the feeling of being out of control. Time to take positive action, so, am going to try instead of eating, to simply say no, and do something else instead like taking a walk, or cleaning house... Thank you for this blog, it has hit the mark for me! emoticon
    1799 days ago
  • CHERYLA2012
    Yes - change your perspective to change your life!
    1799 days ago
    I like your blog and do agree with you...When we feel the loss of control....anything can happen! I guess the trick is staying in control....on sooo many levels! Thank you for this insight today....Wishing you continued success on your weight loss journey! emoticon
    1799 days ago
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