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Saturday, June 15, 2013

I had a very bizarre experience this afternoon. I has just finished working out with my personal trainer (who's about 16 years old and has boundless energy) and was walking home when this random guy literally stopped traffic to ask me if I was single. This has *never* ever happened to me in my entire life. It was a supremely bizarre experience, and it got me thinking.

For so much of my life, I've actively focused on downplaying my looks. As I continue to lose weight, I am going to have to come to terms with the fact that I may occasionally receive some positive attention based upon how I look. That feels really uncomfortable for me, and it's something I'm going to have to work through.

I've honestly never had the ambition to be the "pretty girl". It's not that I have anything against pretty girls. Just that there are so many other things I'd rather be. And I do like being able to go about my business without attracting unwanted attention.

I'm wondering if others have dealt with this. I can't be the only one, can I?
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    So I leave for few months and you stop the traffic?
    I understand what you say... It's uncomfortable to have this kind of attention when you aren't used to it... And off course we are the kind of girls (yeah, girls) that want to be recognized by something more than looks...
    But please embrace your beautiful self... I think that being overweight made us believe we weren't attention worthy, and we weren't beautiful enough... And now it's time to drop those ideas and see that we were always beautiful, but now we project it more.
    1751 days ago
    It has started happening to me a bit since dropping these 40 pounds. Some of my friends and family have told me it's because I carry myself differently now, and I smile alot more. I used to really discourage attention by not making eye contact, now I look at everyone I pass and smile. Just go with it and enjoy the attention that you are getting now.
    1769 days ago
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