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Obesity: Easy or Hard?

Saturday, June 15, 2013

I'm guessing this is not controversial for most of us here.

Because if it were easy, we wouldn't need the support of the Spark community in our struggles to manage obesity.

Obesity may be simple (eat less, move more). Although not everyone agrees about that. Or would perhaps qualify the "simplicity". Because obesity is also complicated: it's not simple to figure out why we aren't eating less and moving more. Even if that's the answer.

Obesity is hard. It's hard being obese. I loathed it. Every day. And it's hard not being obese. After over a decade of relatively consistent healthy weight, I still struggle every day to maintain a healthy weight. Maintaining a healthy weight is, frankly, one of the hardest things I do.

So: as the cliché goes: we "choose our hard".

And I'm choosing the hard of not being obese.


Choosing it pretty much by telling myself: obesity is simple. Eat less, move more. Deluding myself.

It's NOT simple. But acting as if it were -- that's as close as I'll get to making it easy.

Just (second cliché alert, sorry) doing it.

I learn by going where I have to go. Not that I've figured it out . . . . not at all. Still faking it until I make it. Still. And I expect I always will be.

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  • KANOE10
    Great blog. I also choose the hard of maintaining and keeping this weight off!
    1770 days ago
    It IS simple.
    It just isn't EASY.

    And yeah, not being 55% fat is much more comfortable than the alternative.
    1772 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/17/2013 5:33:18 PM
    Love the choosing our hard mantra...no cliche here! Just the plain hard truth!

    1772 days ago
    Choosing our hard is just another choice we have to make.
    And first we make our choices, then our choices make us, right?
    Keep on inspiring.
    1772 days ago
  • _LINDA
    Oh yes, it is so very hard to maintain, but the rewards are wonderful. Feeling better, more energy, buying clothes in the regular department stores, taking long hikes and going places you couldn't go to before.. Obesity is easy to attain but hard to deal with, out of breath walking anywhere, finding plus size clothing stores, fitting into chairs, society's disapproval.
    It is an endless vigilance, but made slightly more comfortable with the help of Friends (Spark and otherwise) and family..
    Spark On!
    1773 days ago
  • JIBBIE49

    Obesity is hard. It's hard being obese. I loathed it. Every day. emoticon
    1773 days ago
    Great blog and excellent points! Being healthy feels great. And it takes work. I've had the healthy eating part down for decades, yet still gained weight because I wouldn't do my hard: exercise.

    Now, doing both, I have achieved my goal weight and am making progress toward goal fitness level!
    1773 days ago
  • NANCY-
    What inspiration!
    I loved your last lines:
    "going where I have to go. Not that I've figured it out . . . . not at all. Still faking it until I make it. Still. And I expect I always will be."

    I should follow your lead. Trying to figure it all out is an arduous task. "Acting as if" will assist me in making progress.
    1773 days ago
  • PHOENIX1949
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    1773 days ago
    1774 days ago
    Maintaining requires constant vigilance for me. It was easy to GET bigger. Not so easy to BE bigger and deal with the emotional/physical/social aspects of that bigness. I want to stay smaller. No more yo-yoing into worse health situations!
    1774 days ago
    You are right in that some of the choices we make are not easy, even this one. However as time goes on and you receive the support you need and new habits form, it should be come more "routine." You can do so much more when you are healthy!

    You've come to a wonderful conclusion about your choices and are doing emoticon Hang in there and lean on those around you when you need to! Healthy is worth the effort! emoticon
    1774 days ago
    Dear me- you are such a deep thinker-
    thank you for challenging me to delve deeper.
    Becoming obese (especially very slowly like I did, gaining 3-4 lbs a year for 10-20 years) was easy.
    I just slowly went up in sizes from 12 to 14 to 16...
    Yes, I avoided mirrors and cameras as much as I could,
    and, yes, at times my self-esteem suffered but I always have felt pretty enough and good at what a did and a good mom and a good cook...
    so, other than feeling a bit jealous of my thinner friends, I was fine with it.
    Until I reached a point where it was just too much!
    When my doctor first used the word obese I though I would die.
    Finally there were no outfits in my closet I felt looked really good.
    My knees both needed minor surgery.
    My hips started hurting.
    So, although I feel like I've been 'on a diet' my whole life
    (how I yo-yo-ed my way up to nearly 200 lbs),
    it really wasn't until I joined SP in 2009 that I started learning HOW to
    live a healthy lifestyle
    and lose weight
    and live longer
    and feel better.
    I have not reached the maintenance stage yet by eating less and moving more but I intend to.

    1774 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/15/2013 5:29:09 PM
    I blogged about this before. It was easy to be overweight. Obese. It is hard to be slimmer. This takes more effort. Being obese never took any effort for me. Gaining weight after being slim (after losing) is painful and confidence shattering, but being obese is not hard in the least (for me). For me that statement just doesn't make sense (although I can see how it may to others).

    I do prefer being slimmer though. It is worth it.
    1774 days ago
    I am in total agreement: it is far better to choose the hard of not being obese.

    Now that I have experienced weight loss - and have discovered how hard it was for me to continue losing weight - I much prefer it to gaining weight.

    I much prefer a smaller me to the larger one.

    I prefer watching what I eat and liking how I look in the mirror and in smaller sizes....
    ....to eating whatever I like whenever I like and not liking how I look at all.

    I prefer getting on the scale in the morning and liking what I see.

    I prefer the "hard" of losing weight and watching my weight to the "hard" of not having control over my weight at all.

    1774 days ago
    Working on motivation to maintain. Today and every day. Good for us, for choosing a hard that is also better for us! And I am so glad Spark is here to remind me, every day, that the journey and the change is worth it! emoticon
    1774 days ago
    I have been fat and I have been thin, I actually
    find being thin much easier and needless to
    say a lot more fun. As Mandelovich says it
    is about choosing pleasure over time.

    Yes it might be easy to overeat and I do
    occasionally. Yet there would be so much
    pain in disappearing back into a fat shell.
    First my clothes would feel tight, then I would
    have to take them out of my closet. It
    would be necessary to invest in a new
    wardrobe in larger sizes. How painful would
    that be? I would have to start avoiding mirrors
    and window reflections again. Tell others
    not to take my picture or if they did face the
    fat image staring back at me.

    And my ticker, I would have to reset my
    ticker. I would have to face all my friends.
    You know, especially the ones that just
    "knew" I would regain what I lost and more.

    And worst of all, I would have to start worrying
    about my health. Regaining weight is much
    harder on us than just holding on to it. All
    that weight would head right to an expanding
    midsection. The very worse place it could go.

    That;s what would be hard, horribly painfully
    hard. Keeping to my calories levels,, making
    healthy food choices, and staying committed
    to my fitness program. That is so easy when
    I compare it to the travails of regaining.

    I love what I have done. I love how I look.
    I love how I feel. emoticon
    1774 days ago
    You know Ellen, I think you've chosen a life of pleasure over time, and that is wonderful and so inspirational! And from my vantage point, the much easier path, though I know it requires paying attention.
    1774 days ago
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