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Fake it 'til you make it

Thursday, June 13, 2013

I had a boss once who told me "Fake it 'til you make it" when I was learning public speaking. Even if you don't feel like an expert, or even very confident, just go out there, and act like you are, regardless of what you actually believe about your abilities.

This advice, as sketchy as it sounds, has helped me time and time again. That mantra "Fake it 'til you make it has gotten me through first dates, job interviews, camping trips, volunteering efforts, and yes, more public speaking engagements than I can count. It's not a matter of faking the knowledge/message, because the content or the action itself needs to have integrity. It's just psyching yourself into thinking you're great at something.

This is my mantra right now. I don't actually believe my health efforts will stick (please don't judge--I'm just not in a positive place right now, and am going for honesty), I just don't. I'm not feeling fired-up, energized, or even particularly committed. I know I sound like the worst SparkPeople member EVER right now, but this is where my head is.

Sooo...I'm faking it 'til I make it. I'm buying the healthy food, logging my intake, and having water instead of wine with dinner, and adding a few blocks to the daily dog walk, but not attaching it to any goals or outcomes.. I truly am going through the motions. And this is okay! The best thing that happens is that it sticks, that I engage myself, and become the thing I'm pretending to be. The worst thing is that nothing happens.

I know this sounds bleak and like I don't care, but I'm trying to care, but on a reasonable scale to what I'm able to do right now. Also, this sounds very serious, and like I'm struggling with depression or something, but I assure you that's not the case! Reading over this post, it sounds rather mopey and despairing, and that's not what's happening with me. It's just this one little thing that I'm trying to get a grip on, wrangle some control over, and this is all about trying to approach it in a way I can manage.

This was an odd post--thanks for reading!
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    I don't think this is an odd blog at all.

    It will work, just faking it until you make it.

    Before you know it you will be feeling better spirit, soul and body and looking forward to more exercise and more healthy eating and more of a healthy life style.

    We are all different and what ever works for you is the thing to keep on faking it till you make it... emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1772 days ago
    well, right now it sounds like...ME.

    I know these "I don't give a _____" times don't usually last, and I know that I will have them on occasion), but I still have a tough time dragging myself out of them.

    so like you, I measure everything, I make the healthy food choices...just going through the motions until I really FEEL it.
    1772 days ago
    I love your honesty. You are approaching this in a way that works for you right now. You can't do this until you are totally committed. It's definitely not an easy journey and you have to be ready for it. You are taking some steps and I commend you for that and on a positive note, I think the steps you are taking can only be beneficial. So good for you.You have to start somewhere and accepting yourself for the decisions you are making is huge!! emoticon
    1772 days ago
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