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Are You A Success?-Or Should I Say.................

Monday, June 10, 2013

Do you FEEL like a success?

I was thinking about this yesterday on my run. Not to go all Negative Nellie on you, I don't always feel like a success.

I have lost weight. success

I have kept that weight off. success

I would like to lose a bit more. Not doing so well with that.

I became a runner. When I first started running I saw success every time I laced up. My improvements were very tangible evidence of success and I KNEW I was being successful.
Enter a list of issues and my self expectations don't always match my reality. When that happens, I don't feel very successful even though I know I am.

This discrepancy between our success and our feelings of success can be applied to other aspects of our life too and if we let it, it can lead to feelings of failure, helplessness and just plain frustration.

The very simplistic response is to just not allow those feelings to drive us....but that is easier said than done. My best efforts to fight this have to do with going out and defying it.

When I laced up yesterday, I knew I was not meeting my planned mileage for the week. I told myself, "Big deal, slight set back, just repeat the weeks plan in the next week and build from there." But of course my mind wasn't entirely buying it which is why these thoughts of success and failure were running through my head while my feet were running around the lake. LOL While I won't say that any run is totally bad, this one wasn't exactly pretty, there were lots of reasons for that, not the least of which the weather and my allergies.....but I went out and ran. And I thought about my successes and those things that don't feel like successes but really are.

I'm still thinking about those things.

Can I suggest you do the same? Don't dwell on just the wins. Break things down and recognize that sometimes just getting up and trying are successes in themselves. Every run is unique in some way and every day is too. Maybe we step on the scale and it doesn't say what we want to hear...but the scale isn't the only thing speaking to us...what does the mirror say?...forget about those things....what does the body say? I'm not where I was last year when it comes to running...maybe I'm smarter? After all I seem to be getting much much better at maintaining my pace and I'm still lacing up and getting out there so what's not to love?

We won't always feel entirely successful in everything we do....but we are ALWAYS successful at something. emoticon
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    You are right. I need to have the attitude change too. Real hard on my self, it's like ok got that done and instead of looking at it as accomplishment, brush it aside and looking at the next thing. Instead of recognizing the success for what it is, brush it aside as a nothing. But you are right it took x amount of energy to reach that goal we should be happy in the accomplishment. Always room for growth in our thinking as well as our physical changes. emoticon
    1778 days ago
    We emoticon you too, Donna!
    1778 days ago
    You made your run a success. Great job!
    1778 days ago
    I think just getting out there and showing up makes every effort a success. True, some successes are bigger than others. But that we're here, trying, shows that we are all indeed successful. Minor failures are inevitable but fleeting. We'll just call them little setbacks.

    You my friend are one of the true success stories. Would that we could all persevere in as great a way as you have!

    After all, a less than pretty run is still a run. Keep on Sparkin'!
    1779 days ago
  • JANET552
    We do tend to be hard on ourselves and I suppose that is what we use to urge ourselves to improve. You are right, though, we should stop and enjoy our successes. Whatever they may be.
    1779 days ago
    Well in a BIG WAY you are a success. You want to run, you planned to run and you ran in spite of obstacles (allergies). Now to me that is a success because you MOVED.
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    1779 days ago
  • JLITT62
    Yes, we tend to be far too hard on ourselves. So much better for us to celebrate!
    1779 days ago
    I agree.... it does get harder as we go along. We had so much success in the beginning and now things are moving along slower and there aren't so many bells and whistles and the initial excitement has definitely worn off. I keep thinking I should be as gung ho as I was when I started and when I don't sometimes I do think that makes me feel like I have failed. But I haven't quit, and I keep making small steps in a positive direction so I think those are the things we have to remember and Yes, I am definitely in a better place than I was 6 months ago so yes..... I am a success!! Thanks!! emoticon
    1779 days ago
    In some ways, yes, I feel successful. In others, nope. Have a wonderful day.
    1779 days ago
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