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I think I need to find my independence

Sunday, June 09, 2013

I've been overweight for ages, and for as long as I can remember I've been trying to figure out what it is that kept me gaining and losing constantly. The simple answer is that I was overeating and under-exercising, but I could never really pin point it exactly. I came up with excuse after excuse and convinced myself that they were acceptable reasons.

I'm starting to wonder how much of my weight issues are based on my dependence on others and my routine. I've gone from living with family, to living with roommates, living with my significant other, but never on my own. Even during my divorce, I am back living with family. As soon as I moved back, immediately everyone was calling me wanting to get a place with me. As much as I want to save money by having a roommate, I am thinking I need to move out on my own. With no one to have to worry about but myself.

I've been offered a job with another company and I am just waiting on final approval. As long as everything pans out as planned, I will be based out of Massachusetts. The commute is going to be an hour and a half on a good day... add in winter or any kind of traffic, forget it. This new opportunity is exceptionally promising for me, but the commute is going to get old after a while.

I'm thinking about moving closer to where my home terminal is, and I believe this could be perfect timing. Perfect timing to finally be on my own and change my routine.

I know that living on my own (actually on my OWN) isn't going to make me lose weight, but maybe gaining my independence and hopefully myself back through the process, will be enough to keep me in weight loss gear and will enable me to keep the weight off.
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    I think it will help. When I had an apt with my cousin and we had our "own" food (as in whatever I bought was mine, and what she bought was hers. no sharing) it was sooooo much easier to stay on track. I didn't ahve to worry about My Husband like I do now and cook something that we both like therefor compromising on just how healthy the meal is (example: I would love to replace quiona for rice in many meals, but my Husband hates it. I'm too lazy to cook both lol). Also If you don't want cookies or icecream or whatever else laying around the house tempting you, then don't buy them when you go food shopping! What I wouldn't give for my Husband to want to lose the weight too so I didn't have to watch him snacking on cookies every night lol

    Anyways, I think it's a great idea, especially with the new job (which I assume is in the Boston area?). Sounds like you get to set yourself up fro a whole new start and starting it out getting more fit sounds like it will lead to meeting new friends also doing the same (I know you struggle with your current friends always wanting to eat out and have junk food at parties, etc.)
    1802 days ago
  • KNH771
    Maybe the change will shake things up a bit. It isn't always the big things that make a difference.
    1808 days ago
    emoticon from Western Mass. I don't know where you'd want to be living, but it's nice here!

    It sounds like something you should try. Good luck!
    1811 days ago
    I totally get it! It's so much easier to get a routine down when your not schedule your life around everyone else. Good luck with your new job!
    1811 days ago
  • SUMMER2203
    i am living alone for the first time now, and i cannot emphasize how amazing it is haha. my boyfriend wants to move in together, but i am so in love with living alone that i keep putting it off! it is so nice to be 100% on your own routine, to have your music blasting when you want, to nap in the middle of the day if you want, to only have your food in the fridge, to keep it clean to your standards....the list goes on haha. DO IT DO IT DO IT!!!
    1811 days ago
  • 68ANNE
    I know your story. Living on your own will make a big difference! I've been is my own place for over three years now and absolutely LOVE it. I am very happy with how things are now. You can do it!
    1811 days ago
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