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Wednesday, June 05, 2013

I have two issues to deal with and one of them relates to my own behavior towards a family member. One of my family is trying to lose weight as well but they are doing it in a destructive way (around 600 calories a day plus extreme exercising) . This is being noticed by the children who are wanting to copy the results that are obvious. I would estimate 20 lbs in a few weeks. The goal is to lose 25+ pounds in a few weeks using a Fitbit program. What concerns me is the role modelling and the fear of a return of an eating disorder and the extreme unhealthiness of the regime.
I want to be supportive but I end up being negative and uncomplimentary. It is difficult.
I have backed off as I cannot control it and never could. I have expressed my concerns and willingness to help and I'll have to leave it there.
The other issue is for me to control. I get pressured not to buy certain foods because they are not typically eaten in our family. I have now taken on the responsibility for my own groceries and other folks will have to learn to like it or leave it. I am worth the effort and it is up to me what I eat.
And now I have to give that same freedom and respect to the other member of my family and let them choose their own path.
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  • JUDYAMK
    Your story reminds me of my friend that is a Physical Education teacher. Constance & her students were running on the track field,the children were running as fast as they could & they were making fun of their teacher because she was behind. One thing they did not realize she knew they would soon lag behind because they never did this before they had no past experience in running. Constance had years of running in different races throughout her life.Your family member is going to lose the goal of reaching a certain weight , she may reach it but it will NEVER stay off,she is doing it all wrong, & I will not be surprised if she gains in leaps & bounds when she stops, she will gain because you cannot go on with 600. eep doing what your !!!!
    Judy
    1991 days ago
  • SPARKCHANTAL
    trial and error... you learn best by making your own mistakes.
    extreme dieting works for a while, but after a short time you get backlash, the weight comes back on with interest. the harder you push, the harder it hits back.
    stay cool, learn to separate your responsibilities and those of others. if that's what they wanna do....

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    1991 days ago
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