Wednesday, June 05, 2013
I have two issues to deal with and one of them relates to my own behavior towards a family member. One of my family is trying to lose weight as well but they are doing it in a destructive way (around 600 calories a day plus extreme exercising) . This is being noticed by the children who are wanting to copy the results that are obvious. I would estimate 20 lbs in a few weeks. The goal is to lose 25+ pounds in a few weeks using a Fitbit program. What concerns me is the role modelling and the fear of a return of an eating disorder and the extreme unhealthiness of the regime.
I want to be supportive but I end up being negative and uncomplimentary. It is difficult.
I have backed off as I cannot control it and never could. I have expressed my concerns and willingness to help and I'll have to leave it there.
The other issue is for me to control. I get pressured not to buy certain foods because they are not typically eaten in our family. I have now taken on the responsibility for my own groceries and other folks will have to learn to like it or leave it. I am worth the effort and it is up to me what I eat.
And now I have to give that same freedom and respect to the other member of my family and let them choose their own path.