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Diet Enthusiasm... Or Lack There Of...

Tuesday, June 04, 2013

I had a status update about this yesterday, and got some good feedback, and just wondering if there are any others of you out there that can relate to this one.

A coworker and I had kind of talked about how much weight I lost a couple weeks ago, and yada yada blah blah. Cut to 2 weeks later, and she is on some wazoo diet. I don't care how anyone decides to go about getting healthier, that's not my place to say anything... but the crazy part is... she is trying to help me... um WTF?! emoticon

Now, I know what you are thinking, help is nice, etc etc. But time out. She weighs more than me and has just started on a self proclaimed "diet". She knows I've lost 60 pounds, and that I've been at it a while. But she proceeds to tell me (in a bragging tone, as I eat my El Pollo Loco I got at work, all tracked and dandy btw), about these smoothies she is making for breakfast. Then later she tells me "Oh, you really must go on this site", and I cut her off right there and said "It's a great site, I had her jalapeno popper chicken, it's great, you should try it." AKA, you can't tell me anything I don't already know. emoticon

I don't share what I know, I don't share my plan, so I understand she has no way of knowing what I know about and what I don't... but just like I am not giving unsolicited advice to her about her "diet", I don't need it in return. I told her that I kind of go through phases where I cook a lot, and then there are times where I rely more on frozen foods because I get lazy but I still plan everything and it helps me. She laughed and she understood I think as she said "I go through phases too, I'm on the upswing right now." To which I just said "I am on the downswing, 14 months in and losing the same 5ish pounds for 5 months can take it's toll on you." emoticon

Her enthusiasm is overwhelming, and I am not hating on her for that, I think it's great. I too was once emoticon's and emoticon's about everything too. You woke up and the emoticon was shining and the birds were chirping and you saw yourself in the mirror emoticon and you said, "You are awesome, you got this"... but that doesn't last forever.

I just was not overly excited about the fact that she felt the need to help me, when she knows I've lost 60 pounds, weigh less than her, and now knows I'm over 14 months into this. Although once I got that zinger in of how long I was doing it, she quickly got quiet. But I had the last laugh as I ate my perfectly portioned and tracked ice cream and she chewed on her celery. emoticon I guess that my friends is the difference between some "diet" and a healthy lifestyle full of things in moderation. emoticon
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    Awesome! Loved this.
    1812 days ago
    I love this. There is nothing more irritating that someone that feels the need to "enlighten" you because they've had a snippet of success. Like you said - that's great for them, but when you've been at it for as long as you have... you've been there, done that, got the t-shirt.

    I particularly love the comment you have about eating your perfectly portioned ice cream while she's eating her celery. That is my philosophy - I still have a candy bar at least once a week. Because I know if I don't, I will want to smack someone. So I eat my planned candy bar, count it, and go about my day. You go, girl! You have made changes that are real and that will stick!
    1813 days ago
    Steph, I'm going to take a little different approach so hear me out. I know it's annoying what she's doing but unless you think there's some malice try to humor her. She's just getting started (maybe for the millionth time) but right now she's excited about what she doing and she's sharing it with you because she feels like you understand and that you guys have something in common. We can always learn something new so the fact that she's just starting or is doing something wacky doesn't mean you can't learn something from her, even if it's what not to do.
    1815 days ago
    Uh Oh...I think I might be like your friend!
    Yikes! emoticon
    It seems that Spark People and my fitness plan comes up in every conversation lately! I don't tell people what to do, but I do tell them about all the articles and tips I read, the zumba I tried...the hip-hop-abs...the fitdeck flashcards...ya da ya da ya da. It's such a huge part of my life right now...I just can't help but talk about it! Oh Lord, help me to not be obnoxious! LOL! emoticon
    1815 days ago
    There is always someone there to tell you how you can do it better. I think they need to realize that if we are losing the weight, to back off, we are obviously finding a way to do it without help. We all have our own ways of doing things and not one specific thing works for everybody.
    1815 days ago
    Oh man! I hear you on that. i have a friend that diets to a fault. She's always on some sort of fad diet that I "need to try." Sweetie, I know what I need to do!! Cheers to knowing how to live healthy and not diet!
    1815 days ago
    Changing your whole life is really difficult. Most people don't understand that it takes a new lifestyle in order to lose and maintain the weight. I can totally understand that you don't like to talk about how you handle it (I'm exactly the opposite, but I totally get it).

    Maybe you can try to explain to her, that this journey is a personal matter to you, and you prefer to handle it your own way. Or you can just pretend to listen to her and nod emoticon .

    No matter what, it's always funny to see people's faces when we eat our tracked and measured portions of EVERYTHING and they think that diet=grazing freggies emoticon
    1816 days ago
    I am totally on board with you! I'm all for everybody doing what works for them and I guess I expect the same courtesy. There is this girl I know who is attempted to go vegan in an effort to those weight and keeps sending my information on it - I have nothing against people who chose to to be vegan in fact one of my very best friends is vegan but for a completely difference reason - point is I'm happy that it seems to be working for her but that doesn't mean I JUST have to try it. I know my body, I know what I can and can't have and what works for me and if someone wants my advice I'm happy to share what I know works for me but the conversations always ends with but you have to do what works for you because everyone is different and that is totally not a bad thing and I will be your cheerleader whatever it is YOU choose to do.


    BTW I totally think you should tell her about spark people.
    1816 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/5/2013 12:27:52 PM
  • PUNKY100
    Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh yes yes yes. I have a couple of coworkers who keep trying crazy things to lose weight, and keep telling me about them. I just nod my head. I have tried to tell them not to eat under 1200 calories a day, but then they're like 'oh but this 1000 calorie diet is supposed to be awesome!' At that point I'm just saying to myself 'ok, I tried, but it's their body and they'll learn sooner or later that it just won't work.'

    I think my favorite line from any blog ever is now "But I had the last laugh as I ate my perfectly portioned and tracked ice cream and she chewed on her celery." God that made me laugh SO hard!!!! I think we can all remember those days when we thought that eating just salad was a good way to lose weight. How foolish we were, huh? :-P

    Anywho, just see how long that celery lasts before she ends up putting it away in favor of some crazy dessert. :-P
    1816 days ago
    Anyone who's been at this as long as you have (I'm going on my 20th month, myself) is going to have rollercoasters. She may be enthusiastic now, but watch how long she sticks with it. That's the key. "Just don't give up" is the best advice I've heard on this site. And you know what? What works for you may not work for her and vice versa. emoticon
    1816 days ago
  • DEBRA0818
    Part of what I am learning to do is to smile at people and say "you may be right," but for sure my experience being on both ends of that conversation -- evangelizer and evangelizee -- has convinced me that the quiet proof of success speaks loudest of all.
    1816 days ago
  • MARYBETH4884
    Tell her about SparksPeople and that will give her a real taste of lifestyle versus diet. I think maybe she feels she needs a cheerleader for her diet. Someone to tell her she's doing the right thing. Over enthusiasm is sometimes a sign of lack of confidence. If she starts spouting websites to you again, just give her this one. This journey is for the long haul and you are right it not always fun and thrilling!
    1816 days ago
    I'm glad you didn't kick this enthusiastic little puppy. Now when she starts losing momentum, you'll still be able to help her.
    1816 days ago
    I guess there is a good thing to not working and staying at home! I don't have those kind of people problems! lol

    1816 days ago
    People do the same thing to me too.

    My fave is when they try to push something like Body by Vi on me...

    good luck!
    1816 days ago
    What?? You mean after 2 weeks of "dieting" she doesn't know it all?? OMGosh...How can that be? It's like telling someone they have to try this play doh with peanut butter, it's just the right about of salt with the peanut butter emoticon OoooKKKKaaaayyyy, maybe not but you get the picture. emoticon
    1816 days ago
    We all run into these type of people that think they know everything. But you my friend is living proof of knowing what works for you. I'm so proud of you and what you have accomplished. I love that you don't care what others say but are true to yourself.
    You Go Girl!
    1816 days ago
    Haha I love this. I've had people do it to me too and although I get that no one believes that I've lost weight (and in reality I've gained back all I lost but this isn't about that) it's really annoying when they start spouting off all the things I know, like its supposed to help me. It's like you said, I really just want to say "thanks but I've been at this a hell of a lot longer than you and believe me I definitely know how to succeed" but.. I figure in the end, our success will be our story.
    1816 days ago
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