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did i make a HUGE mistake??? advice please...

Monday, June 03, 2013

warning, this is a long blog... probably pretty boring, but i really need some advice...

so, here i am, on my way to eating better and exercising regular, and making some real progress, feeling better about myself... my job at the hospital has been sucking the life right out of me... so, i had the opportunity to change my shift, from days... 7a-7p, to midnight 7p-7a. there were A LOT of positives to moving to the midnight shift... so i did it. i only work 2 days (nights) a week. i know that midnights are not easy, but i thought that it would be the best for me.

well, i told my Sensei how serious i am about training and getting myself ready for the next step, i have been studying and training very consistently for quite a while now, and he has really started working me very hard, and is expecting a lot... which is exactly what i want.

so, i have only worked a few midnights and it has been a good change, as a job goes, but it is RE-EALLY affecting me in all the wrong ways on me getting to my goals, of losing weight, getting in better shape, and training for my next belt. i am eating very poorly, since i am tired (sweets and drinking soda again) and i am so tired, i sleep a good part of the day away, and the last thing i want to do is work out...

now, i can NOT switch back to my other shift, so this is where i got to stay, so that is not an option. i hafta work two days a week, so cutting back hours is not an option. i don't know what to do.

i know, if you want something, there won't be any excuses. but i am 45 (gonna be 46 in a few months) i AM very out of shape, have a long way to go, including the back sliding i have done because of the new shift, i have a family, to be with, love and take care of, and friends and other activities that i do. so, i hafta balance.

but if i treat it like some of my friends treat going to college, they suck it up for 1-4 yrs, their family understands and deals with it, knowing that there is an end in sight. truly, karate is MY college, that is how much it means to me, and although, i want to do it all my life, there is a progression that i need to do within the next 6 months or so.

how can i make this work? am i just being a whiner? should i just suck it up, and tell myself that my goals hafta be bigger than my excuses? how can i keep the motivation going? after i work a shift, all i want to do is sleep, and the day is shot, it is even very hard to get on sparkpeople, because it never is a few minutes, i want to read other people's blogs, encourage others, so 15 minutes turns into an hour+... then time with family, friends, eating right, exercising, training, ect... is this even possible for me to do? not to mention, i am a day person at heart, and i still have some depression issues. (although, being healthy definitely helps my mood!)

any and all advice is welcomed, and any encouraging words, or motivation would be wonderful... i am getting pretty panicky and i am getting very overwhelmed. i don't want to talk to my hubby about it, he has enough issues to deal with (our finances, ect.), and my friends really wouldn't understand, since i am the "fat friend"... i know that i am among friends when i am on sparks since you know the issues i am dealing with , and have the biggest, loving, encouraging, giving hearts i know... so besides me doing a lot of praying, i am leaning on you all for advice...

love you all...

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    Years ago I worked night shift 7pm-7am 3 nights a week, and it really does take time for your body to adjust to that change. I also needed wind down time, I couldn't just go right to bed when I got home so working out when I got home was a better option for me.

    It's going to take time, but I'm sure once you've been doing it for awhile you'll be able to adjust your schedule to something that will work for you. Be patient, and try different things until you find that balance.

    Hang in there!
    1779 days ago
  • HOLLYM48
    I agree with everyone else that you really have to give your body time to adjust. If you think of your shift as you would a day shift, think about the fact that you would come home and unwind for a few hours and eat dinner, maybe go for a long walk, come home take a nice hot shower and then go to bed and get your 8 hours of sleep. It is hard working an over night shift, I had to do it intermittently 20 some years ago and it was tough to get use to. But if you are that type of person that like overnight shifts, then you will get use to it. I hope this is a better fit though and this job doesn't suck the life out of you, if it still does, maybe you should really think about finding a different job all together. It is hard to have to spend so much time at work if you hate it! Wishing you the best! emoticon emoticon
    1780 days ago
    it's kind of a vicious cycle, my ex used to work nights, and the exercise was really what helped get the sleep schedule in line, and helped him sleep more soundly. the less you exercise, the less energy you will have for the day. So even though it's the last thing you feel like doing, try to force yourself! Good luck with the adjustments, and don't be too hard on yourself the first week!
    1781 days ago
    You can do it. Just give yourself some time to adjust.
    1783 days ago
  • RX_2_RV
    Have you talked to your sensei about this? That sounds like a good resource person when it comes to finding balance in life. I would also encourage you to talk to your family and ask them for their support while your body transitions to the new schedule. I'm sure each of them could do one little extra thing around the house to make your life a little easier and support you in reaching your goals. What's that saying....ask and ye shall receive?

    1784 days ago
  • SARIC3
    Definitely agree with the others. You need to allow yourself sometime to adjust to the new schedule.

    I also know that sp can sometimes take more of my time than I have to give. Its hard to just leave. Little bit of a catch 22 in there. The site is designed to get people to be more active, but to record your activity you have to be inactive. emoticon

    You know none of this is going to come to you over night. Your training, your change in schedule, your improved health and fitness will all take a little time. Your training will not just end when you reach a certain belt, right? So its not really like college classes at all. It is something you have to make sure you can live with.

    But you know me -- no excuses -- so suck it up buttercup. Just Kidding. Take a deep breath.... and another..... and another. Now allow yourself time to adjust and then work on a schedule you can live with.
    1784 days ago
    You have received some great advice already! My husband worked 10:00 PM to 6:00 PM for 12 years. His body did adjust. What happened with him is he'd get home and do "his thing" until around 2:00 PM and then go to bed.

    I really think you just need to be patient. Your body will adjust and you'll be able to come home and work out then.

    Hang in there! emoticon
    1784 days ago
    I think it is best to sleep immediately you come back from work. When you do that, the body rests well and you are active for the rest part of the day. Also take a lot of fluids to be properly dehydrated.
    1784 days ago
    Ok, lots of people have pointed out that it takes awhile for your body to adjust to the new schedule. It is SO true! I've worked the night shift (10pm-7am) for 22 years, through 3 kids (ages are now 15-20). My husband has been super throughout this whole thing and I'm sure I couldn't have done it without his support.

    Let yourself acclimate to the new schedule and maybe cut back just a little on your training until you find out what works for you. Deb9021 has a great point in trying to make a schedule to fit everything into your day/night. While my kids were little I didn't take the time my body needed to exercise and I paid for it by gaining weight and getting out of shape. I've made changes and have a lot more energy now but it wasn't easy so don't kid yourself. Just stay as consistent as possible and eat healthy, get enough sleep (maybe break up your sleep if you can't get one long rest period) and keep moving.

    If I can do anything to help you as you are trying to adjust then feel free to friend me and I will help you out.

    1784 days ago
  • MAW_OH
    Long ago I worked full time nights for about 2 1/2 years. I was on my feet most of the night, just sitting down for brief periods. Every once in awhile it would be slow, and that really made me tired. I started bringing in the Richard Simmons 'Never Say Diet" book and I would go in the back break room with a bed blanket for a mat and do 1/2 hour of exercise (I said LONG ago!) . I'm not saying that would be for you, but maybe you could take a couple breaks and practice some karate moves, stretching, etc. I remember that during the night was the only time I had energy. I would also go to aerobics class right after work a couple days a week, not stopping anywhere along the way,, then I would go home and crash. Don't know if this helps, just giving some info to you to try to help.

    1784 days ago
  • DEB9021
    It will definitely take a little time for your body to adjust, so you have to be patient, maybe take a step back for a bit exercising small. It also might help to sit down and create a schedule of how to fit in all the things you want to do. And you can't skimp on sleep. If you are working all night you have to allow yourself to sleep during the day, right? I have never worked nights and I'm sure it would be hard for me, especially if just a couple of nights. It sounds like you are trying to work nights and function on high during the day, as well! If its something you want, you'll be able to work it out. Keep working at it!
    1784 days ago
    I think it will take time to get use to it, hang in there!! My last roommate worked nights 5 days a week and she found it best to workout at 7am after work - and it helps her to sleep for the day, Maybe try that?

    1784 days ago
    When I worked midnights I would come home and sleep, body naturally woke up just after noon so I had the rest of the day to myself...but that was a long time ago! I think if you do a web search on SP you will probably find some articles to help and probably a spark group...it is difficult to turn your life upside down and expect immediate positive results...you need to give it some time...and ultimately, as it is for all of us, how committed you are to a healthy lifestyle and being physically fit will determine your success. But remember, you have to give your body time to adjust to this new schedule! Have patience, keep plugging away, and it will come together!!!
    1784 days ago
  • PJ2222
    You don't need advice, only you know what's in your heart... just trust what's in your heart ! Best wishes and Love!
    1784 days ago
  • JUNEAU2010
    You have not been working this schedule very long, right? Give it some time and see if you and your body and your life will find a new equilibrium.
    1784 days ago
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