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Sunday, June 02, 2013

My dearest self, Ruby,

It's been a long time since we've REALLY had a nice chat. Well actually, I've been talking, but I almost feel as though you have been purposely ignoring me. I know we've had our differences, but I must confess that your ignoring me has really been causing me an enormous amount of distress. You seem to hear the words, but they go in one ear and out the other, so to speak. You are not digesting them.

What happened, Ruby? We were doing so well, and I know you were pretty excited for a while as you were becoming healthier, but all of a sudden you disappeared. Your old friends "old" friends, chips, potato sticks and mostly cheese twists, manged to get your attention and worked their way back into your life. They have convinced you that "tomorrow is another day" and you can always get back with ME "tomorrow". They have managed to dominate your life once again.

Ruby, I am so very disappointed. I miss all of those good times we spent together going for walks on the bike path, doing cardio and doing strength training, as well as dancing around the house. Remember when we'd go to Hampton Beach and walk from one end to the other, IN THE WATER, just so we'd get more resistance? We were doing that every single day after work. But once the colder weather started to set in and the beach was no longer viable, that's when your "Old" friends saw their opportunity to lead you astray and they've been hanging on ever since.

Have you REALLY noticed, how your old friends have been able to convince you that it's okay to sit in front of the boob tube when you get home after work,? You've allowed them to constantly reach out to you, afterall, you had another tough day so you deserve to vegge out and do absolutely nothing, at least for an hour or so, which then drags into 3, 4, 5 hours until it's time to go to bed. They've been able to convince you that your are tired and that by sitting doing nothing, you'll be resting and getting your zapped strength renewed. And to make matters worse they call out to you to join them in an unhealthy snack of some sort all the while you sit in front of the TV watching shows that you previously taped.

Do you remember what our daughter, Amy-Jean said when we first started getting healthy and going for walks all the time? She said, "It's great to see you getting into these things, Mom. I'm so very proud of you, and be honest, don't you feel better now that you're not sitting in front of the TV with your old friends, cheese twists & potato sticks?" You couldn't help but say, "Most definitely and I love it. I can't believe that I wasn't doing this before".

Ruby, I loved, and now miss, when we used to fix a wonderful salad for lunch, and sometimes chicken and loads of vegetables for dinner. I miss the times we'd sit and track on Spark People what we ate, and all the exercising we did. You have to admit, you were having fun. Don't you miss it, even a little bit? Is there anyway I can talk you into working on our relationship. I know that you love me, and always have, but I need more than just words, I need you to prove to me, by your actions, that you REALLY do love me.

I know there are alot of people who say that it's okay to have a cheat day, but Honey, you and I both know that it doesn't work for you. I know that you never mean to have more than one day of junk food and no exercising, but as soon as you let your old friends back into your life, BANG, that's the end of it. They ALWAYS end up staying for a LONG time. They tend to move in for days, weeks, months, and I've even known them to stay for over a year or two, and sadly you allow it. Believe me when I say, they are NOT looking out for our best interest.

Ruby, PLEASE, I am begging you to not let our relationship flounder any longer. PLEASE, open up and listen to me, I can help you. PLEASE don't continue to shut me out. Love me again as you use to. Maybe it will help you if you post "Before" and "After" pictures of us so we can keep it in the foreground of how things were when you had all those old friends in your life and then how you looked and were beginning to feel after our relationship started getting closer.

Well, Ruby, I do hope that I've been able to give you food for thought, and that you will keep this letter handy to use as a reference. You know I only want what is best for you, for both of us. I hope that my words will help you find your way back to my loving arms. You, Ruby, are a sweet, loving, giving person and now it's time to starting giving to US once again. You always tell people you are "FANTASTIC" whenever they ask, well now it's time to really live up to that and get our life back in the right direction.

I love you, Ruby, more than you realize, and I shall NEVER ever give up on us.

All my love, ALWAYS,
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    I'm stunned.

    Thank you.

    2043 days ago
    We've all been there, Ruby. Welcome back.
    2120 days ago
    Wonderful blog Ruby, and just what I need to do, too!
    2121 days ago
    Ruby this is such a wonderful & inspiring letter & what a great idea for all of us to do . A very big " Thank you " for sharing .
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    2121 days ago
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    Amazing Letter!!

    I also read what everyone commented and I agree that was most heartfelt and inspiring.

    Come back to Ruby!

    You are worth it! Being healthy is a much better feeling than a couch potato!

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    2121 days ago
    Now how awesome is a Heart to Heart with oneself.

    Its its going to be - its up to YOU right??
    You got a wonderful network of support because I am also in the AMY JEAN network.
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    2121 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/2/2013 3:03:21 PM
    Ruby, this letter was inspiring because all I needed to do was insert my name for yours, and I could see myself starting down this same path. You have just pulled me up from that. I can't thank you enough. And I think this Ruby has managed to find its alter-ego and now you two will be happy together again. Encouragement, determination and a swift kick in the butt work wonders.
    My best to you Ruby - and thank you!
    2121 days ago
    I know you can find your way back and away from the OLD friends who have kept you company way too long. Step back into the light of SP and see what a difference there is. HUGS!
    2121 days ago
    Awesome letter. One I should be writing to myself, too. I love you, Mom!!! Be healthy to be here for us. And I will do the same!!
    2121 days ago
    Such a beautiful and honest letter Ruby !!!

    I will walk with you PLEASE come back to YOUR team and be part of us again. We can motivate and encourage each other and challenge each other. You know it takes a village sometimes to get things done and I can always use more motivation and support as well.

    Hugs and HOPEs friend.

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    2121 days ago
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