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How do you pass up the cake and doughnuts;Enjoying being alone and different in maintenance.

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Saturday, June 01, 2013

I am celebrating one year and 8 months of maintaining 112 pound loss. Yesterday at work, one of my co-workers came up to me and asked, "How do pass up eating the cake, doughnuts, and candy in the staff room? What do you say to yourself?" Actually after all of this time, I don't need to say anything to myself. I just looked at the goodies and walked past them. It has become a habit to avoid these sugary sweets and they simply are not part of my life. I do not need pep talks to myself to avoid them. This was a nice revelation. However, I simply told my friend that I I usually stay away from sugar.

I am discovering that I enjoy being this new person who is often alone and who is very much different from the people around me. As I have mentioned people at work consider my healthy eating to be crazy and often stare at my lunches..seeing a mountain of vegetables.

Maintenance is a major investment of time in my daily life. Most of my healthy habits are done alone. I post on Spark. I go for walks.I go to the gym. I search for recipes. I cook healthy meals ahead. I shop to make sure I have healthy foods.

In my past blogs I mentioned feeling very much alone and lonely at being the only one in social situations who is not following what everyone else is doing or eating. Now as time passes I find a calmness and acceptance of myself being the "only one." I am very pleased with the new me who is marching to her own tune.

I think the key difference is that while being different and alone, is that I am not lonely. With the warm support of Spark Friends, i do not feel lonely. I also have a loving family who supports me.

As I attended a work retirement party and was the only one who was not eating the treats, I noticed that I was also the only female wearing tennis shoes with my outfit. I smiled and headed out the door on my way to the gym.

Thanks Spark Friends for your support.

***Additonal comment. I still have foods that I need to give myself a pep talk to avoid, but most of the white flour and sugary sweets are no longer part of my life.
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    What a wonderful blog. You're an inspiration as always. Thank you for sharing.
    1767 days ago
  • RUSSELL1960
    You are an inspiration. Thanks!
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  • EMILY0724
    I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN!! I've been teaching Bible school this week. Every day after the kids leave, someone cooks lunch for the workers. I live close by and have been skipping this social event to go home and have a smoothie. Yesterday, I brought it back to the church (I was hungry!!) and finished preparing for the next day. I got some strange looks. When I skipped out today, I told someone what I was doing and she replied that she wanted a smoothie, too!

    I have realized that I am behaving differently than most people (regarding eating) and sometimes I feel self-conscious, but now I realize that there are some who are envious of my self-control. Yeah!!!
    1775 days ago
    Well done! emoticon
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    1779 days ago
    Thanks for sharing your story. You are an inspiration to me. I am tempted at times to chose an unhealthy snack and other times I do well. I seem not to crave sweets as much as I use to but once in awhile I cave in. I look forward to the day I no longer crave them at all. I have come to the conclusion it is one day at a time and when I make a wrong choice I will not get mad at myself but focus on making a better choice next time. emoticon and reading stories like yours make it seem more possible to reach my goal. emoticon to you.
    1780 days ago
    As I mentioned to you before, I too crossed the threshold where I don't get tempted by sugary or fattening foods. My parents were visiting me for this week and my dad wanted to take us all out for cheesesteaks. Whenever he comes to visit me in the Philadelphia area he craves one. Anyway, everyone went except me. I seriously had no interest. Instead I stayed home and had grilled chicken with a side salad. Besides, at this point, if I do indulge in something fattening, it ends up making me sick anyway. Can't handle greasy fast food.

    Being alone is ok by me. Besides, on spark your not alone. Many people share your situation.
    1780 days ago
    I really like reading where you are at in your journey. Something has recently clicked with me. I like that you have now reached a stage of self content. Congratulations.I am following in everyone's footsteps till I also reach my ultimate weight loss goals. I really want to be healthy, strong and fit, for the rest of my life.
    1780 days ago
    Thank YOU too for your wonderful support here! One of the best things about SparkPeople for me has been realizing that there are so many other people out there who share my joys and struggles with this process, even if I sometimes feel like I'm all alone in my 3-D life.
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    1780 days ago
    Very true! and it's SO individual..and a bit lonely in general, but not on here...where we can get that boost and affirmation that what we do as individuals to maintain (and everyone is different in some ways..and some not too! lol)
    1782 days ago
    You are an inspiration!
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  • HYDRO0108
    I understand completely! Im still trying to loose and its still hard to walk away. Im doing it though! Someone brought in home made cinnamon rolls today with cream cheese frosting. Oh My Gosh it looked good, but I resisted and im so proud of myself. I gained all my weight by working in an office and sitting at my desk all day, but I won't let it happen any more! I have to live better for myself!
    1783 days ago
    Your post reminds me that not only do my habits change on this journey but my friendships are changing too. I no longer want to meet up with someone for a calorie laden meal. When getting together with family, I'm looking to do things that are physical instead of eating. I making real life (meaning here where I live) friends that are active and health conscious. Its all part of the journey.
    1783 days ago
    Kudos to you, that is a major accomplishment being at peace with being different and not having to talk yourself down from food!
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    Comment edited on: 6/5/2013 12:59:32 AM
    Great blog! What an amazing maintenance journey you are on. You sound very focused and detemined, and I'm quite inspired by your attitude. Keep it up!
    1784 days ago
  • GEORGE815
    Congrats on the weight loss and maintaining it.
    1784 days ago
    I love this attitude! Like you, I eat very differently from those with whom I work. We have a small office of 14 people and have birthday luncheons for each employee on their birthday. I get teased for my healthy eating, which is vegetarian. When it was my birthday, one of our creative employees made me a birthday card, poking fun at me for being "orthorexic." Apparently, an orthorexic is someone who is abnormally obsessed with healthy eating choices. I'll take that over being chubby any day!
    1784 days ago
    It is inspiring to see your post on maintaining. I have seen so many people gain weight back that it discourages me from beginning in the first place sometimes!

    I really hope to find the habit to walk right by treats for the most part. I have had stretches in my life of feeling that, and it is awesome to be that focused on goals. The coffee cake got me yesterday, but I am renewed in my determination to focus and work my program.

    1785 days ago
    I loved your insight! Congratulations on your accomplishment!! You're truly amazing!!
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  • BABARR67
    Thanks for your encouragement on my page. I am still not at the point when it is automatic for me to avoid unhealthy foods, but I do love your take on being different. And I like doing things alone sometimes. I often have friends invite me to exercise with them, sometimes I'll go for a walk, but sometimes I want to challenge myself to go at my own fastest pace... that might be too fast or too slow for someone else. It is similar with food. I would never criticize someone for eating something unhealthy because I have days that I choose the pleasure of delcious but unhealthy food over the pleasure of feeling fit. I once at a Snickers bar at a weight loss coach training session. The real reason is bc the restaurant screwed up my lunch order and I didn't get to eat. The vending machine was my only option. People glared. It was delicious-- and I sort of got a thrill out of being a bit of a rebel. LOL. Of course I went home and had a healthy dinner before going on an evening run... I do look forward to a time when the unhealthy foods don't call my name anymore though!
    1785 days ago
    It is more difficult being the only one in the crowd (in any crowd) that eats healthy. I am the only one in my home who does and, as a result I am surrounded by baked goods and ice cream constantly. Sometimes I win the battle with my food addiction (which I have not conquered yet), but other times I fail miserably and half to work out twice as hard to make up for it.
    Thanks for sharing your story, I hope that one day I can walk past the cakes and doughnuts, too.
    1786 days ago
    Good for you!! When I first started with maintenance, I was like that too – I could pass up the sweets easily enough without feeling particularly tempted. Then I got pregnant and all that got shot to hell. : ) It’s a little frustrating, but I’m hoping that once the babies are out, I’ll be able to adapt back into the mindset that you’re talking about here. You’re awesome!

    1786 days ago
  • KWING517
    Good for you!!

    I find myself not needing the "pep talk" very often anymore too. And if I do need it, it's usually something along the lines of "Thats just going to make you feel really yucky in about an hour...." That does it very nicely :)

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    Comment edited on: 6/3/2013 7:45:59 AM
    "I am discovering that I enjoy being this new person who is often alone and who is very much different from the people around me."

    Beautifully said. Thank you.
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    There's loneliness at the top, isn't that what they say? And I think you're at the top of your fitness state, of your habitual healthy eating and of your maintenance journey. Because reaching this point where there's no need for pep talks in order to avoid trigger foods and you don't have to try to add a mountain of vegetables to your daily meals, that's what successful maintenance is all about!
    Congratulations, my good Sparkfriend! Thank you for the continuous inspiration!

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  • JIBBIE49
    Great to see you blog featured in the Spark Mail. What an honor. emoticon
    1786 days ago
    Good for you! Congrats!
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  • JAMER123
    Thank you for sharing a great blog!! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1786 days ago
    You have inspired all of us with the great attitude and pursuing your health and fitness goals.

    So many times I am inclined to "teach" or "preach" to people about what I am doing but realize not everyone wants to hear it. If they truly want to know they will ask why I am so much happier and looking so much improved.... Lol!

    I think you are right, that it really does matter to be able to go it alone, because it is important to me (or us) personally. I am so wanting to achieve my goals that having that unhealthy thing actually is not a temptation it might have been a while ago.

    Congratulations and thanks for encouraging us all with your blog post!!!

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    1786 days ago
    Interestingly, I find that some goodies don't really tempt me much (ice cream, French fries), but others do. Some things are much easier to say 'no' to than others, at least for me.
    1786 days ago
    Thanks, I really was impressed with this blog. Living alone, I'm often lonely but I have a weekly group that I attend and Sparkpeople anytime day or night so I find encouragement is available. Sigh, I am very tempted by foods that aren't good for me but I want to look and feel better so I persevere.
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    You got a great attitude.

    I just went on a picnic and had some junk food, but I don't eat it everyday. And for most, it's kinda hard when you don't have options or other choices. But you show respect for your self and commitment to totally stay away.

    I'm at target now, but I do have to eat lighter, or do ore exercise if the numbers move up....

    My sis has lost nearly 100. She is doing well, but it seems that if she eats even a reasonable kind of carbs ( 1/2 cup of brown rice or whole oats, she puts on weight. She finds that annoying. I don't blame her. I said, just do extra activity but ti doesn't seem to work that way for her. If anyone has suggestions of that, send me an e-mail.
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  • JACKIE542
    Great blog, you know what you need to do, you are a leader. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1786 days ago
    It can be tough changing to better habits when you seem like the only one doing it. Congratulations on your strength and consistency and sticking to your goals!

    Have a great week!

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    Congratulations in your accomplishments and keep on strong. emoticon
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    I live alone and don't go out much. SparkPeople is my companion.
    1786 days ago
    I know about being alone, thank goodness for Spark People.

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    What a wonderful blog!!!!! emoticon
    And............. emoticon on your success in Maintenance. Wouldn't it be wonderful if there were more of your difference..........you may not even realize it, but you may be the inspiration for someone you work with.
    I admire you and I am sure that many people around you do too.
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