The easiest mistake you can prevent that you'll regret forever
Thursday, May 23, 2013
Steve's log: way too late for me and too early for you
ok, here's the who cares part. got in my 20+ stairs, 10,000+ steps, assorted planks, and calf raises today. good job, yay me. now on to more important things.
I work as a temp at a Honda plant. I sand cars. trained monkeys can do it. it doesn't require a lot of brain power. I work with good people. we talk a lot while we work. most people do at they're work places. but you also have a lot of time to think. The big topic the last couple of days is about the tragedy in oklahoma (more to come on that). and before that the bombing in boston. and before that the shooting in connecticut. and before that...you get the picture. so what's that have to do with preventable mistakes.
mistakes happen. you spend $10 to see a crappy movie, you buy some clothes you later realize that you have no business wearing, you go on a date with a person you have nothing in common with. all mistakes. but you didn't know that when you did it. you realized it after the fact.
here's the one thing you can do before the fact. do you have kids, a spouse, mom, dad, someone special. tell them you love them. everyday and twice on sundays. all the tragedy's that this country has been thru lately, makes your head swim. you wanna bet there was a mom who dropped her 1st grader off at the school in connecticut and her mind was on all the things she had to do that day and forgot to tell her daughter she loved her and now never will. or a husband in oklahoma who was ticked at his wife for some stupid reason but he walked out of the house to go to work, and now she's gone along with the house and he'll never get to say I love you again.
I'm an only child. small family. 2 aunts, 2 uncles, neither with kids so no cousins. no brothers. grandparents have been gone for years. i haven't seen my aunts and uncles since the 90's. When I lost my job we wound up moving an hour away from my parents. which isn't bad since I used to live in dayton and they lived in San Antonio TX. 1 hour's better than 26. I grew up never having to share my parents affection so it's very easy for me to tell them I love them. I tell them all the time. I'm lucky in that i have a beautiful daughter who had my heart from the second i saw her. I have a lovely beautiful wife that i've been married to for 11 years. can't imagine life without her. I tell both of them I love them. everyday and 3 times on sunday.
but my wife never tells her parents or her brother or sister that. she'll tell her cousin that but not her immediate family. it boggles my mind. maybe that's the difference in a small family and a big family, i don't know.
could you live with yourself if something happened to someone you loved and the last time you saw them you didn't tell them. my daughter knows i love her. so does my wife. so do my folks. maybe its just something that makes me feel better to tell them. but in today's world what does it hurt. think about it. ever driven by a fatal car accident. someone's husband, wife, son, daughter, mother, father aren't gonna be home. 3 small words. takes 2 seconds. 2 seconds you can't get back.
last but definitely not least, Oklahoma. Tornado's are a freak of nature with no logic and only random destruction at it's heart. I've been thru cities after a twisters rolled thru and the destruction is awesome and horrific. you see a cluster of 4 houses and 1 of them will still be standing untouched while the other 3 are flattened. you see pieces of straw shot thru a telephone pole. tractor trailers tossed hundreds of yards. a guy i work with had letters dumped in his yard after the xenia ohio tornado of 74. that was an f5. and the guy i work with lived 60 miles away.
If your the religious type and you haven't done it, please say a prayer that they can recover and move forward. if your not religious, hope for the best for them. Thanks.
y'all have a good morning.
live long and prosper america