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The easiest mistake you can prevent that you'll regret forever

Thursday, May 23, 2013

morning everybody

Steve's log: way too late for me and too early for you

ok, here's the who cares part. got in my 20+ stairs, 10,000+ steps, assorted planks, and calf raises today. good job, yay me. now on to more important things.

I work as a temp at a Honda plant. I sand cars. trained monkeys can do it. it doesn't require a lot of brain power. I work with good people. we talk a lot while we work. most people do at they're work places. but you also have a lot of time to think. The big topic the last couple of days is about the tragedy in oklahoma (more to come on that). and before that the bombing in boston. and before that the shooting in connecticut. and before get the picture. so what's that have to do with preventable mistakes.

mistakes happen. you spend $10 to see a crappy movie, you buy some clothes you later realize that you have no business wearing, you go on a date with a person you have nothing in common with. all mistakes. but you didn't know that when you did it. you realized it after the fact.

here's the one thing you can do before the fact. do you have kids, a spouse, mom, dad, someone special. tell them you love them. everyday and twice on sundays. all the tragedy's that this country has been thru lately, makes your head swim. you wanna bet there was a mom who dropped her 1st grader off at the school in connecticut and her mind was on all the things she had to do that day and forgot to tell her daughter she loved her and now never will. or a husband in oklahoma who was ticked at his wife for some stupid reason but he walked out of the house to go to work, and now she's gone along with the house and he'll never get to say I love you again.

I'm an only child. small family. 2 aunts, 2 uncles, neither with kids so no cousins. no brothers. grandparents have been gone for years. i haven't seen my aunts and uncles since the 90's. When I lost my job we wound up moving an hour away from my parents. which isn't bad since I used to live in dayton and they lived in San Antonio TX. 1 hour's better than 26. I grew up never having to share my parents affection so it's very easy for me to tell them I love them. I tell them all the time. I'm lucky in that i have a beautiful daughter who had my heart from the second i saw her. I have a lovely beautiful wife that i've been married to for 11 years. can't imagine life without her. I tell both of them I love them. everyday and 3 times on sunday.

but my wife never tells her parents or her brother or sister that. she'll tell her cousin that but not her immediate family. it boggles my mind. maybe that's the difference in a small family and a big family, i don't know.

could you live with yourself if something happened to someone you loved and the last time you saw them you didn't tell them. my daughter knows i love her. so does my wife. so do my folks. maybe its just something that makes me feel better to tell them. but in today's world what does it hurt. think about it. ever driven by a fatal car accident. someone's husband, wife, son, daughter, mother, father aren't gonna be home. 3 small words. takes 2 seconds. 2 seconds you can't get back.

last but definitely not least, Oklahoma. Tornado's are a freak of nature with no logic and only random destruction at it's heart. I've been thru cities after a twisters rolled thru and the destruction is awesome and horrific. you see a cluster of 4 houses and 1 of them will still be standing untouched while the other 3 are flattened. you see pieces of straw shot thru a telephone pole. tractor trailers tossed hundreds of yards. a guy i work with had letters dumped in his yard after the xenia ohio tornado of 74. that was an f5. and the guy i work with lived 60 miles away.

If your the religious type and you haven't done it, please say a prayer that they can recover and move forward. if your not religious, hope for the best for them. Thanks.

y'all have a good morning.

live long and prosper america
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  • no profile photo CORKATT
    I have an evil family. No love. ever. (except between me and my son and it's sparse)

    2023 days ago
    hugs, kisses, and I love you's are now and always have been a daily part of the life of my family. I was not raised like that... it's something I wanted to do differently than what I grew up with. My kids will even say I love you, too, Mom, in front of their friends. :)

    and, I've definitely been praying for all the victims.
    2026 days ago
    Very good blog. I know what you mean about the 26 hours. My parents live in Brackettville, TX and I live in OH. I do not get to see my parents very often, but talk to them on the phone on the weekends.
    2030 days ago
    Very good message. I know I've not been good at that, but I've really been focusing on doing better with the hugs, kisses and "I love yous".
    2030 days ago
    Lots of prayers! We have a HUGE family and there is never a lack of I love you's anywhere! I have a cousin that lives in Moore and his mom, my aunt, who lives in Austin drove up there this past weekend to visit with him. They were having lunch when the storm hit. They said quick good-byes. He took off to his house to be with his wife during the storm and my aunt headed in the other direction, driving through hail, wind and rain with no idea about the tornado until she had reached her destination! Then there was the absolute terror your emotions go through as she waited to hear from her son. Finally, he was able to reach her. He and his wife were okay. Three blocks from them was total destruction. It's crazy. It's sad and always reminds me how much I love my family.
    I love your blogs. Very real.
    2030 days ago
  • PEG2584
    I think I remember you saying in a previous blog that you didn't know what a blog was and didn't care to. Until I started on SparkPeople, I'd never read a blog. I have to say, your's is one of the best and i read every one you post.

    2030 days ago
  • BANDMOM2012
    We give out lots of "I love you's" and hugs :)
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  • SARIC3
    Well said.

    I do tell my family I love them regularly. I even stop sometimes and tell them I really do (so they now I'm not just going through the motions) and that I'm proud of them. My oldest is 19 and i think he needs to know that I am proud of the man he is becoming.

    With all these tragedies, they've been getting extra hugs, well I've been requiring extra hugs.

    I agree though, sometime are heads are so full of all kinds of crap -- it can be difficult to remember whats really important.

    2030 days ago
    You wrote the most awesome blog. Thank you!
    Yes, there is nothing like family, and having people in life that we can love warts and all and who are constant.
    Bless you!
    2030 days ago
  • JOHGLO2011
    You sound like a very loving and compassionate person. Your family is blessed to have you. A wonderful blog and a very timely reminder to cherish those we love while we can. Best wishes to you.
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