There's a (kind of) new gal at work, and she has notice that I work out pretty consistently. She recently lost a lot of weight by working out a lot. At the time, she was away from her family and in kind of unique circumstances, but she really enjoyed the motivation and challenge of working out with people.
A few weeks ago, she asked me if we could maybe work out together.
I was hesitant at first, because my schedule is really erratic, and I usually don't know what my workout will be until I know where I will be working. I finally told her we would work out last Wednesday, then I was home sick. I felt bad rescheduling, because I don't think she gets a lot of workouts in, and I didn't want to be a "cause" for her *not* to do it. I committed to this Wed (tonight), and drove my you-know-what all the way across town from my other office to meet her at the gym. (Not exactly the workout I would have planned for myself.)
We had a nice spin together. I brought the tunes and the plan, she showed up ready to rock. (She did really well, and told me later it was the first time she had ever done spinning! Wow!) But then she asked me if I would go out to dinner with her and her husband after our spinning workout. I wanted to say, "I think we're moving a little fast," but I didn't want to hurt her feelings. So I went to dinner, too.
I doubt we're ever going to be BFFs, because conversation just wasn't "easy" the way it is when you click with someone. Plus, I have trust issues when it comes to friends in the office! But overall, the Gym Date was better than I expected, especially considering how much pressure there was with the dinner and everything.
So now: What's my next move? I don't think I can commit to "going steady" at the gym, but I think there's value in having a gym buddy. Should I just be myself, and ask her last-minute, "Hey, want to run tonight?" or "Spinning at 4:30?" Or do I need to compromise in my part of the relationship, too? Wait -- are we even ready for a relationship yet???