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Life is a never ending stress nightmare

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

So I finally made the decision to find a new job. I am a CPA in a 10 person firm. There are 5 owners and 5 employees. I am the senior member of the employees. One of our clients had an opening that I was really interested in. After reading many stories on hear about you need to make opportunity, that opportunity doesn't come to you, I made the leap and sent them a resume. I know that for our firm, summer is our busy season because we do quite a few audits. If I were to leave at this time, it would put them in a bind, however, I am at a point in my life where I need to concentrate on me and what I believe is best for me and not worry how it will effect them. I made it through 2 interviews and they checked my references and stated all was good. Now they want to call one of the owners and talk to him (I am sure it is another reference for them). They call him for advice quite a bit. I am sure they are going to feel him out about me. First I need to say they only know the professional side of him. They do not know how difficult it is to work for the man. I think the fact that I have worked for the man for 12.5 years should give them a clue that I am a good employee otherwise I still would not be here. They want to know how I feel about this. Well of course I do not want my current employer to know that I am looking for other jobs. They will not take it well. And if I don't get the new position they will hold it against me. I have worked here a long time. I know. Why do I have to make this decision? Everyday I have some kind of stressful situation. When does it stop? I am really thinking of pulling myself from consideration for this job. That is how much I do NOT want them to know that I am looking.
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    I found my current job when one of the customers at my old job sent out an email to all of their contacts asking if they knew anyone who might be interested in a new position they were creating.

    No employer expects every employee to stick around forever. I would just be honest and say I wasn't looking, but I heard about this opening, thought it sounded interesting and thought I'd learn more about it by applying.

    It sounds like you're ready for a change. Don't let the opportunity to slip you by. If nothing else, it will help clarify for you what's best for you.

    1799 days ago
    That's a toughie. Do they really mean that they will make a decision based on how the conversation goes with your current employer? I'm not sure I'd be happy about that.

    However, they might be testing to find out how you answer "how you feel about that".

    So, how about "I understand that you want the best employee for this role, and need to check out references. I believe I fit your person spec, and my references are good.

    I would be happier if you would approach your conversation with Mr X in a manner that won't compromise my current position with the firm"

    Good luck
    1800 days ago
  • LADYJ6942
    Oh me, oh my. . . that is a tough spot. Honestly if they want to have an issue you with you moving on with your life, your career which is totally your choice they have some real control issues.

    Stick it out, sometimes they best things come out of a little stress.
    1800 days ago
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