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Monday, May 20, 2013

" I love friendly deeds better than fair words." Sir Walter Scott

I love Facebook it helps you stay connected with friends from afar. You can stay connected with long ago classmates ,you can post pictures of your loved ones.

But sometimes it has taken the place of true friendship. It is much easier to just say hi on Facebook than to call write or visit a friend. That is sad.

My father-in -law passed away on Mother's Day. Part of the family was on a trip to the Caribbean for a wedding. We were not able to put him to rest till this Saturday.

My daughter and her best friend were both scheduled for a class trip with the band on Saturday. They were going to New York to see the statue of Liberty and a then a play . They then had time to shop and dine out. They were talking about it for months. Both girls stayed home to be with our family. As my daughter's friend put it you can see New York any time but you can only say goodbye once. That was a kind deed my family will never forget.

Many of my out of towns friends , former classmates, sent condolences on Facebook. That was nice it was also nice to hear from people who had to work or who had their own family commitments. I also got a lot of kind words that I loved hear at spark people you guys are the best.

What touched me the most though was a friend Sue .I used to work with her two years ago. She moved to third shift. I hardly if ever see her. Well ,I was lucky enough to see her Saturday. She was my only friend to show up at the wake. The only one who cared enough . She just didn't give me kind words and sentiments but showed she cared by coming in person and giving me many hugs. She did this after leading a Zumba class showering and dressing beautifully , and racing across town to get their on time.

I was touched beyond words. It is very hard to sit at a wake for someone who had three hundred friends when you have no one. She saved my day. I will be eternally grateful to her. I may even take a Zumba class of hers even though Zumba is not my thing and she teaches a 8 o'clock class on a Saturday .

So remember if you want to touch someone's heart and be remembered forever just don't say words. Send a card, send flowers, but more important send yourself with a hug and then a kind word . You in fact will be remembered forever.

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  • MELAMA210
    1827 days ago
    So glad your friend was able to come to the wake. Sorry for your loss. emoticon
    1827 days ago
    What a wonderful thing it is to have someone care for you. Sue sounds like a real treasure. All prayers are answered, we just don't know when or how. I think one of yours was answered. Sometimes the only words we can say are "I'm so sorry" and hug the person. Flowers wilt but your witnessing will stay forever.
    1828 days ago
  • JACKIE542
    So thoughtful of your daughter and her friend. I agree with what your daughters friend said.
    So happy your friend Sue came for you, she is one in a million. emoticon
    1828 days ago
    Jo , I am so sorry for the you and your Families Loss of a Father - Your daughter is a gem - its no wonder that she is your and your husbands daughter ! Awesome friend - Big Hugs - Thanks for the visit :) - moving forward !!! I like the dress too !! Hugs K emoticon
    1828 days ago
    Nothing like a personal hug and showing concern by attending these things.
    Peace be with you.
    1828 days ago
    You have a wonderful daughter. She and her
    friend showed maturity and love for family when
    they gave up their trip. Showed that saying goodbye
    was more important. So happy that your friend came
    after her Zumba class. My condolences to you and your
    family. emoticon
    1828 days ago
    Well said. I have to agree with you on the facebook thing - you have hundred people sending their love but little do they know that being there is what counts most. Hugs to you and your family!
    1828 days ago
    My condolences. Good thoughts. Thank you for sharing them with us.
    1828 days ago
    1828 days ago
    I touched my heart to know someone cared enough to show support to you and the rest of the family. Good friends are hard to find but this one is a keeper. How nice that DD and her friend chose to forego a trip to be with you. HUGS!
    1828 days ago
    I'm so glad you had a friend reach out to you. You are so right, you do remember those acts of kindness. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1828 days ago
  • DARLY55
    That was so real, so touching and so true. In person cannot be replaced by all the typing in the world. emoticon emoticon to you and your family.
    1828 days ago
    emoticon to you and so glad she came for you! .......... That is most touching, making the time to show her kindness .......... Will remember, thanks for sharing. May you and your family be comforted.
    1828 days ago
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    1828 days ago
  • KELPIE57
    You put it so well, and brought a tear to my eye.....good for the younsters too!
    1828 days ago
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