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My Son is at it Again

Thursday, May 16, 2013

I think the last time I wrote about him, I wrote that I was so proud that my son was working and getting all these jobs. Well, I found out that he is helping this guy out, but he isn't getting paid. He is just using our car to schlep the guy around.

When I called him on it, he got in my face telling me what he was and wasn't going to do. I told him if he couldn't follow the rules here, he could go live with that guy. They can be bums together. We pay for everything for my son and he has the nerve to look us in the faces and lie? Believe me, I don't deal with that well.

His job coach has really been working to find him a job. She sends in his applications and resume for him. Of course, as has always been his wont, he does nothing. He does go once or twice a week and work at my friend's house, but that is definitely not enough to support himself.

The other thing I find weird is why this 50 year old guy wants to hang around a 19 year old. Speaking to him, he seems to have a lot of the same mentality as my son, but I do believe he is taking advantage of Ben. Ben spent all day helping him fix a bathroom and now Ben says he will get paid on the 3rd. Yeah when the guy gets his disability check. I'm really not liking this. I especially don't like being lied to!

If it is not one thing, it is another.
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  • GLC2009
    my first thought is, i wouldn't let him use the car. period. or if he does he has to put in fuel, oil and wash the car. or pay you a certain amount of money in advance to use it. also, i know he's 19 and technically not a kid, but, if things keep up it might be an idea to talk to the 50 year old man??? i don't know if that would work, but, i'd want to tell him to not use my son for free labor. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1798 days ago
    Catching up on my reading - oh my, it's always something, isn't it???

    I guess you never finish raising 'em - getting bigger & scarier as my son approaches DRIVING AGE... He's gonna hafta EARN the privilege of that vehicle; otherwise he is stuck riding his mule ;-) !!!
    1798 days ago
  • LYNCHD05
    A very worrisome situation.
    1803 days ago
    I find this 50 year old very creepy. Maybe we need to take the car away from your son. I am sorry you are going through this.
    1803 days ago
    Good you can vent here, but your son needs to find a new friend/job/social scene/etc. There is something out of kilter in this scenario and this older dude does not sound like anyone that might inspire the younger set to higher aspirations or greater things in life. This is a relationship that just doesn't sound right in any way. Are there other folks or things your son likes that you may be able to hint around and move him toward? At his age, he won't likely take well to being told what to do or who to see, but maybe there is a way to re-direct his attentions? I wish you all the best in this. emoticon
    1803 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/17/2013 5:54:48 PM
  • KELLI9001
    So sorry to hear your family is going through these problems.
    1803 days ago
  • JUSTME29
    I'm sorry to hear that. I hope the job coach is able to turn something up for him. I just wish (mostly for your sake) that he would put forth the effort himself.
    1803 days ago
  • FLORIDASUN dear friend this makes my heart sad. Ben is definitely under a BAD mother's heart tells me this. I'd make sure that those ties are broken and quickly. I wrote a whole long sad blog about how our young adults are SO influenced by bad people. I just have a bad feeling about this whole hinky situation.

    Big hugs and serious blessings are being whisked your way! Love and light too...for good measure! emoticon emoticon
    1803 days ago
    1803 days ago
    Holy moly . . . I wouldn't know what a 50 yr. old would want to be with a 19 yr. old for, but I gottta say, any ideas I do have aren't falling under the good category!

    It's hard, doing the tough love thing, but I hope you can with your son. We had to do it with ours. Not easy.

    HUGS and prayers.
    1803 days ago
    oh no, hope things settle down soon
    1803 days ago
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