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Happy News about Son :)

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Thank you to everyone who gave me a response after my last sad blog about my Son. He contacted us this past weekend and is now willing to move back home to live with us and look for a job close to home. He had been struggling financially with a minimum wage job that only provided 25-30 hours per week. His best friend was evicted from the rooming house where they rented rooms and he became lonely and depressed about his life and how it was "going nowhere". He said that he could hardly pay for his room and had little left to spend for food and other essential expenses. When he called us, our Son told us that he knew that he needed to get a better paying job so that he could budget his money carefully and save as much as possible for the future! Those are topics that we had been trying to emphasize with him in the past and now finally he seems to "get it"!! YEA!!
He sent me a wonderful e-mail for Mother's Day thanking me for everything that I had done to help him and acknowledging that he didn't know where he would be without my help!
I am cautiously optimistic about him coming home and hoping that his Father continues to be supportive and less critical of our Son's efforts to turn his life around.
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    Such wonderful news....especially on Mother's Day!
    1838 days ago
    Thank heavens! Hopefully he has realized that he has to turn his life around. I hope that your husband and son do well together. It would be great if your husband and he got some professional counseling to help them better understand each other.

    Constant negativity is NO good for anyone in the household. I can tell you that firsthand from my own experience. My husband loved our son more than himself, but he just couldn't understand Josh's situation and Josh's own frustrations.

    It's SO much harder on our kids today growing up in a world that is so harsh and so full of negative distractions.

    If they could find any kind of common ground that would help them bond that would be fantastic! Sometimes even a hug and a "I don't fully understand why you are doing this, but I'm here to support you as long as you are trying to make your life better"...might help.

    Hopefully by coming back home he will be a long long way from his friends. It's so sad that peer pressure is so extreme it can influence a good kid to go bad at the wink of an eye. I'd tell him you won't tolerate him doing things that will only destroy him.

    Then go back and read some of my blogs...we loved our Josh with all our hearts and all our souls...and lost him in spite of it. Maybe he will understand drugs are NOT fun..drugs will kill you.

    Hope this isn't too morbid...it's meant to encourage and support you not to discourage or scare you. emoticon

    I just want your son to be safe and happy...and you too! You are a wonderful mother!
    1838 days ago
    Please don't be cautious in your optimism. :) Your son needs to feel that you welcome him back. Can you imagine how deflated he feels now? He needs a soft, secure place to fall for just a while. I believe it's important to help them not feel hopeless. Too many young people are seriously depressed.
    1839 days ago
  • JUSTME29
    I hope it works out well for all of you.
    1839 days ago
    emoticon This is wonderful!! Just take one day at a time and let him know (as you always have) that you are there for him when he needs you. I will continue to pray that things work out and that your husband comes around and can also help him during this transition!! Blessings to you!
    1839 days ago
    Good luck with your son. He sounds like he is trying to turn it around!
    1839 days ago
    Happy for you. Your son is lucky to have you and that you are willing to keep helping him steer in the right direction. Wish you and your son well in this journey of making sense of life.
    1839 days ago
    You are a wonderful Mom!!!!!!! I so hope it all works out!
    1839 days ago
  • LYNCHD05
    That is great news. I hope it all works out for your family. It seems these kids nowadays need more help than our generation did. It is a different world now. He is lucky to have you and your husband as parents.
    1839 days ago
    I really hope it all works out. You are a great mom!
    1839 days ago
    Wishing you all the best!
    1839 days ago
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