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Just trying to help

Monday, May 13, 2013

With all the input on how and what to eat. It can get so confusing. I try to work with what's working for me. So far just eating the right food, which includes fish and poultry, veges mostly greens, fruits, grains, nuts and seeds. I have seen the difference in 7 weeks in both my structure and my stamina. I know I am doing right.
Unfortunately (it's my nature) I try to share and help others when I hear them say they are not losing or they are getting frustrated. I try to help, but sometimes feel I am overstepping my bounds, and trying to help "Too much"
I will move ahead, and concentrate on my own journey, and how it makes me feel, and look.
I will share advice from other Sparkers, and different avenues. But in the end, it is up to the
individual to complete their journey.
Sparkpeople is a good website for people who want to get there.
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    I love your blogs and you've been very supportive of me. I thank you very much for that and love you just the way you are. There are so many people on SparkPeople and it's hard to know how each one will take things. I'm very thankful to have you as a friend. emoticon
    1800 days ago
    You are right I know how you feel. A lot of times it falls on deaf ears it feels like. I know in my journey I am starting to have an effect on my family they are seeing me bust my butt and seeing the rewards for it. My hubby is constantly complaining of having no energy, being fat, and his hip and back hurting. I told him you should workout and it will help. I am cooking healthy meals, but he chooses to eat other stuff. It is all about your choices. Each person has to decide how much they want it. If they think they do, but really don't they will flounder. If you want to succeed you have to surround yourself and amerce yourself in the change. This isn't about another fad diet it is about being healthy, alive, and enjoying your life instead of being stuck to your couch. You are awesome MJLUV just keep it up. I know how important all my spark friends are. They have helped me celebrate my success and keep me from throwing in the towel. I know we all go through a lot but supporting each other is important. Slay that dragon girl!
    1801 days ago
    I sincerely hope that you have not been hurt by someone's insensitivity. Some of the other comments are right about the pushing of agendas. I have come across that here. One team I just had to totally leave because of snarky comments and pushy agenda focused people.

    You don't strike me as having been snarky. I love your blogs. You are a lot a fun. Just take some of those comments with a grain of salt and forget it. You go girl!
    1801 days ago
    What works for one doesn't always work for another, that's why advice needs to be taken with a grain of salt.
    1801 days ago
    Thanks for sharing this, we can get too much help but it's up tous if we want to take it or leave it. I just say what I do but it's the individual that finds what best for them.

    Yay SP where people are willing to broach the hard things.
    1801 days ago
    I will not give advice (except by accident). Support, Kudos, and virtual hugs, yes. No more advice, though.
    1801 days ago
    I don't mind if people say what works for them. I can take it or leave it.

    It's alright as long as they are pushing it down your throat.

    You know sometimes it's sort funny. If someone says, they aren't ever going to eat any grains, dairy, or only raw, or no sweets again.... Or anything out of a box... |Maybe some of this is good, maybe not... but it's too hard for a lifestyle to do forever....

    Our culture tends to eat not so good in some ways.... But it's not so practical or easy to do that sort of stuff.

    I happen to think this sort of stuff is alright for awhile.

    But if you have a family or others... it's hard to do.

    I happen to think it's better to have balance and follow your conscience. emoticon
    1801 days ago
    I know how you feel. I am careful about giving advice even to people that ask for it. and people that have asked previously. I agree with Cincy being careful to use the word I and not you.. I'm glad to have a place like spark to share, get information and support/
    1801 days ago
  • ERIN1957
    I get so excited that I too feel I may come off as a know it all or bossy. I have had to step back more then a few times, because of my excitement wanting to share.
    I know I toss out much information and hope people can take what they want and leave what they do not want.

    Hard when people ask you and then find out it takes hard work and not one shoe fits all or even no magic solution.

    So many people truly believe in what they are doing and can even get a bit nasty toward others that aren't in agreement...eeks that gets hairy.

    I have always found you energetic, exciting and fun....that is why I come and read what you share. I like you!
    1801 days ago
  • SKATER787
    I think that's quite normal. It's a learning process as to what to say and how people will react. It's going to be unexpected that's for sure.
    1801 days ago
    The main reason I browse through all the blogs is to find out what is working for others. Thanks for your help.
    1801 days ago
    It actually was a simple question, I wasn't suggesting or saying they should do what ever I suggested, it's not my right to do so, as I would not want to be told to do something as well. I learned from it. I will move on, and thank you for your support with this.
    1801 days ago
    As you share in your blogs and the different teams, from your experience, people will learn from you and take what they may. I am sorry if someone got offended but you have a good heart to want to help them.

    Congratulations that you are doing so well. emoticon emoticon

    Love, Chelsea emoticon
    1801 days ago
    But no homework, please!
    1801 days ago
    Helping is a GOOD thing.
    Others can listen to advice, or not.
    Personally, I can use all the advice and encouragement I can get.
    And I know not all advice will fit. But I am still happy to hear any suggestions.

    1801 days ago
    Honestly you just have to be so careful with wording, and what your intentions may imply. Unless I was given the credentials I have no intention of telling anyone how they should do it. It is an individual choice. I just like to share information I have been given (by many people here on Sparks) and hope it helps a fellow sparker with their possible dilemma. But again it's careful time for me, because the last thing I would want to do is offend someone, by trying to share the knowledge I have gained.
    That Spark team would have been cut from my personal lists. Homework? you have got to be kidding me. Were they the leader? Even so, what we do when we leave our Sparkpeople website, is our own time, not anyone elses.

    1801 days ago
    I hear you. It's a hard balance to maintain. I hope this post wasn't triggered by someone getting upset with you.

    It's so hard to resist sharing experiences. For example, you didn't ask how other people handle this but I feel like telling you how I handle it as it might be helpful. I always try to phrase it as: this is what I do. I find fewer people are offended than if I say: this is what you should do. To me, Sparkpeople is not about finding experts but taking the journey together, with all our flaws. So sharing our experiences, what works and what doesn't, can be very powerful.

    On the other hand, I admit to getting frustrated on a couple occasions when I felt someone was pushing their own agenda. I had to leave one team entirely because a couple of the members were trying to start business as life coaches and insisted on giving me unsolicited homework on my blog posts. Ugh!!
    1801 days ago
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