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Friday, May 10, 2013

I need to ask you advice upon this..I need your insight dear friends, and wiseness, too.

One of my inlaws, a lady who's now in her 80's is now in hospital due to strange symptoms the doctors are trying to decypher.
I am almost sure she is ill with Addison disease, both as one of my collegues has been diagnosed it and as I know this lady has low sodium and a host of Addison's typical symptoms.
The doctors were perfect: human, professional and saved her life- she was in a coma when she got to hospital and now she's more or less ok.
I feel I should ask them about Addison, but I'm afraid of giving them a false impression of mistrust.
Please advise me on this.
This is a rare disease and I might help them save her life.
Should I dare????
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    Definitely worth saying something! You might save her life! You could simply say that a co-worker had similar symptoms and it turned out to be Addison's, and is there any chance that could be what this person has? Not threatening way of saying it, just here's the info I know and I was wondering? Most drs would then either test for it, or ttell you why it can't possibly be that due to other symptoms or test results.
    1807 days ago
    I think it would be wonderful if posed as a question merely for learning more about Addison's disease, as the patient somehow made you think of this....seeing some similarities? Go with your heart...Love Rules!
    1807 days ago
    There is NOTHING WRONG about ASKING A QUESTION! Choose your words carefully. NO DOCTOR who is worth ANYTHING should mind. I know I wouldn't mind anyone asking me a question about what I do!
    Hope all goes well! emoticon
    1807 days ago
    1807 days ago
    ciao amica!

    "I feel I should ask them about Addison, but I'm afraid of giving them a false impression of mistrust. "
    * I would bring it up politely and respectfully with your reasoning/symptoms.

    Good doctors tend to have the following traits:
    --The ability to match or rule out symptoms--
    Rare as Addison may be, they may have already ruled it out or considered it. If not, it may trigger a "yeah, that could be..." or "No, she has/doesn't have these traits so it can't be.... They can explain their reasoning.

    --Patiently listen to patients and relatives who try to make potential diagnoses.--
    It can frustrate them when patients make such suggestions, but it's part of what they deal with on a frequent basis. Think of how much they would thank you if it ended up being Addison.

    Doctors know that relatives are concerned and hate to be on the sidelines when their loved ones are hurting. They may not always appreciate it when a patient makes suggestion, but they understand.

    --They understand that they risk a lawsuit if a patient asks for something and they refuse to address it if it ends up being the problem (at least in the states they do)--

    If the diagnosis is cheap physical cost-wise and time-wise, be willing to pay out of pocket.

    If I had a relative who had something that I thought the doctor might overlook that could save or heal said relative, I'd bring it up no matter what. I can deal with the doctor's potential hurt feelings later.

    buona fortuna!

    otherwise, come stai?
    1807 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/10/2013 1:01:14 PM
    i most definitely would, its worth a mention
    1807 days ago
  • AUNTB63
    Asking questions of a Dr. is not a sign of distrust, I my opinion, it shows a concern for your loved one. Because this is so rare it could be at the bottom of the doctors list of eliminations to find out what really is wrong. Go for it and ask... emoticon to all.
    1807 days ago
    Please speak up but do it gently. I will be praying. emoticon
    1807 days ago
    Yes I think you should, you can be polite when mentioning it and make it clear you are not trying to do their job but that you wondered if it was something that they had considered.

    I think if you don't you may always wonder what if you had!

    Good luck :)
    1807 days ago
    I think it should be OK to ask. You'll know either way.
    I am glad she is OK and out of the coam.
    1807 days ago
  • DIANE7786
    It's fine to ask the doctor if Addison's has been ruled out. First google the disease so you have a basic knowledge. Consider printing the list of symptoms and marking those your in-law has. Nicely say that you know it takes years for symptoms to show and the same symptoms can be other medical conditions. You are concerned about Addison's because your colleague has it. That gives the doctor the idea if he/she hadn't thought of it. If it's already been ruled out, the doctor can explain why. I hope your in-law gets an answer soon.

    1807 days ago
  • EWL978
    YES!! Certainly there's that possibility...and at least you will have someone say "YEA" and "NAY" or look at you as though they know everything, while inside thinking, "hmm, something to look into"!!

    You could be way off and you could indeed save her go on and ask. Naturally you figure that the doc will look at you and smugly say, "where'd you get your degree?" But wouldn't it be nice to at least give it a shot and see what happens?

    Good luck and G_d bless!!

    Keep on keeping on and have a great weekend...let me know what happens??
    1807 days ago
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