Losing Weight Will NOT Fix Your Life; & Tulip Close-ups

Thursday, May 09, 2013

Saw this on a SparkPage and it really struck a chord in me. Sometimes dieting quotes come off as trite, or simple, or everyone already knows that.

For some reason, this one hit home with me today.

I'm appointing it as Quote of The Day Winner.

"Losing weight will not fix your life. Fix the problem, and the weight will take care of itself."

Which reminds me of what Reinhard Engels, creator of the No S Diet, said:
"Don't look at your problem as being too heavy. Look at your problem as two behavioral problems 1) eating too much 2) moving too little. Both of these need to be solved. Solving just one "too much" isn't a real solution."

Yes, it's NOT about "losing the weight", is it? Anybody can lose weight. We've all lost weight and gained it back & then some, gained it back with extra friends attached, haven't we? And losing that weight didn't fix the problem, did it? NO. No sadly, it did not. Fix the REAL problem, eating & exercise, fix the two behavioral problems - not patch them, not bandaid them, not a diet, but FIX them - and the weight will take care of itself.

I'm always all about finding and focusing on the root cause of things. Even tho I've heard this message a hundred different times, a hundred different ways, and always agreed and nodded my head and said uh huh you know that's right; today I see it or understand it in a new light.

Losing weight will not fix your life. Fix the problem, and the weight will take care of itself.

Sometimes I talk about and think about and blog about and set goals about LifeStyle Change and the babysteps to get there, so much, that I lose sight of the forest because trees are blocking my view. This is one of those times. Fix the problem, and the weight will take care of itself.

Somehow I am seeing for the "first" (millionth) time today, that it will be daily eating correctly and not too much for the rest of my life, and it will be daily exercise and starting to move enough each and every day for the rest of my life, that is required to FIX the problem. In other words, a new lifestyle from the one I currently have and currently lived with up til now.

Didn't I already know this?????? YES, I did. If you asked me, I would have given you all the correct answers. I would have passed the test with an A+ grade. Didn't I already know this? No, I did not, if you grade based on what my daily life looks like. Because I'm not living it. There's mental assent knowing, and there's living it out in practice, each and every day, for the rest of your life.

Goals are not values; and incongruities with what you know and your behaviour, is part of being human (welcome to the human race). However keep WANTING to be wise; keep WANTING true wisdom. Just keep on keeping on and staying on SP. At some point in our evolution, the KNOWING will become an AHA moment, at which point the KNOWING will take a new place and be transcribed out of our mental assent into a new home into our VALUE SYSTEM. Value systems are like operational software for our lives; mental assent is not values, goals are not values, but you CAN change your values to address behavioural problems. Just keep at it, and never give up. Because you never know when seeing something put in a slightly different way, something you've already known and seen and agreed with a million times before, will trigger something new in you and become an AHA moment of change.

Never, NEVER, N-E-V-E-R give up.

Today is Thankful Thursday. What are YOU thankful for?

I am thankful for:
- SparkPeople and Chris Downie for starting it
- SparkMembers who leave quotes on their pages to "spark" someone else
- AHA moments, finally getting it on the millionth time of seeing it
- The grace and mercy of God that gives us new chances to change our lives every morning
- Answered prayer. I've been asking the Holy Spirit to help me GET, and NOT MISS, what He's saying, and to learn via wisdom instead of learning by painful consequences.

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Member Comments About This Blog Post
    Beautiful blog. I am putting that quote on my SP, thank you for sharing your Aha moment.
    1794 days ago
    thought provoking blog so true thanks beautiful tulips
    1809 days ago
    You are right - losing weight will not fix the problem. I have seen a lot of people who have lost a lot of weight, and still weren't satisfied or happy. It is why this journey has turned into a life changing experience for me. I am trying to learn the lessons along the way and dig deep within myself, not just to lose the weight. I've lost before and put it back on. This time, I'm digging deeper. I pray it will be lasting change.

    I totally get the gap between the knowledge and the doing. Great blog. I'm giving it my vote.
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    1811 days ago
    I loved the tulips and the message. I liked the quote of the day and we need to apply is to our life. I have a pretty good life and need to concentrate on living it to the fullest and maybe everything else will fall into place.
    1811 days ago
  • MJ7DM33
    Great blog! Beautiful tulips! Thx!
    1811 days ago
  • OOLALA53
    Reinhard keeps saying you can't really control your weight, just your habits. He didn't set out to lose 40 lbs., thank goodness, or we'd probably never know about him and No S. He set out to live eating and moving moderately in a way that fit in his life. Then he lived it. Probably didn't hurt that he had great interests in his work, family, and the study of philosophy. I'm still working on those extras, but I was entranced by the idea of moderation from the beginning. I"m still defining it. Keep going, girl! You've done so much!
    1811 days ago
    Yes, my pastor has been asked his secret to losing weight. (He is a SparkMember.) His answer is eat less and exercise more. There was one woman he said this to and she immediately had all kinds of excuses why she couldn't do that.
    1811 days ago
    That is a powerful quote and so true..great blog. emoticon
    1811 days ago
  • BANDMOM2012
    I really liked this today! What a great post - and I love the flowers emoticon
    1811 days ago
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