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Fit girls look good naked?

Wednesday, May 08, 2013

Ok. I keep seeing this meme floating all around facebook and pinterest, and I just had to write a blog about it, because it kind of pisses me off, actually. Now, I know the people who are posting it aren't doing it to be jerks or anything (at least I don't think most of them are) but seriously, this is not always true.

I realize that not all slender women are toned and therefore may not look as good naked, however, if you've been very overweight your whole life and lose a lot of weight (like I have) you are most likely going to have loose skin, so no matter how fit you are, you may not look fit--especially naked. I sag everywhere, and my body looks absolutely terrible. In clothes I feel more confident than I used to, but because of how my body puts on weight (in the middle) I have a lot of hanging skin on my belly, that no matter what I do will hang over my pants.

My stomach will NEVER look like that girl's in the photo. Even with surgery I am sure it will never be as taut and smooth, and I'll have scars. It sucks, but it is what it is, and I can't do anything about it now.

With all this said, I AM fit, and more importantly, healthy. Even though I don't look good naked, I am a fit person. I guarantee you I am more fit than the average woman out there, especially women my size. I am very strong. I can run for miles (I ran a half marathon which is 13.1 miles without stopping once). I can do full on push ups and then one armed side planks. I can push over 200 pounds on the leg press at the gym. There isn't a whole lot I can't do physically, and some things I am still working toward (like pull ups..maybe one day).

So, I am not skinny, and I don't look good naked, but I'm definitely fit and in good shape.

Another thing that bothers me is calling people "skinny girls" or "fat girls" or whatever else. I can't stand when overweight people automatically hate on women because they are thin and call them "skinny bs." I also can't stand when people label all overweight people as lazy or slobs. It bugs the crap out of me. There are women who tend to be thin more naturally and can eat what they want and don't gain weight. And, there are women who work out a lot, eat a healthy diet, but carry some extra weight and are thicker.

It's irritating to me when I see photos like this, so I felt compelled to give my opinion. The truth is that many people who lose weight aren't going to have a body that looks like this chick's. Maybe if they're already pretty thin or don't have much weight to lose they will, but most people who are morbidly obese aren't going to be baring their belly in a photo like that. Every time I see people pinning these workouts on Pinterest that say 3 weeks to toned arms or a flat belly it makes me crazy. If that were all it took, I'd look like the hottest supermodel ever. I have tons of muscle, but in places like my belly, it's not obvious due to piles of loose skin. My arms are toned, but I have skin that hangs down.

Also, I get tired of people telling me that the skin will tighten up. I am sure it will in time, but there is a reason people like me who have lost well over 100 pounds get surgery.

Rant over. :)
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    I totally agree!!
    1986 days ago
    And even if I DID look like that (which I never have and never will), I'd probably still feel way more comfortable keeping my clothes on!
    1989 days ago
  • CAMAEL100
    Well said!

    However, I am not too worried about how I look naked - you won't see me walking around naked or even scantily clad any time soon, no matter how good I looked!!!

    Be proud of how fit and healthy you have become and remember, we do this for ourselves not for idiots who write articles like that. My facebook is full of ads that tell me I can lose 8kg in a week!! I don't know how they get away with it as they also have pictures of celebrities on the ad as if they have been on the diet!
    1989 days ago
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    1990 days ago
  • HOLLYM48
    The truth is those pics are probably photo shopped so NOBODY really looks like this and they are just giving girls of all ages the wrong idea of body image as usual!
    Great rant and wow, you are doing fantastic so good for you.
    We will still continue to get healthy and toned but nobody will ever look like this photo and I am ok with that!
    Keep on kickin' butt!
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    1990 days ago

    And as if that can't be topped - now there's this going around on FB


    1991 days ago
    Great post! I couldn't agree more. The goal should never be about how you look anyway. It should be about how you FEEL!
    1992 days ago
    When I first lost 80lbs a few years back I did have sagging skin. Some of it did shrink up, some got filled in with muscle, but some just continued to sag. I didn't like it but sagging skin comes with the territory.
    I was a little sad but then I realized that I probably will NEVER be running around scantily clad infront of other peoplel...ever! It's just not me(even if I didn't have the loose sking). I, like you, looked good in clothing and to me that was what was most important.
    Some people who lose large amounts of weight have better elasticity in their skin than others. I can't quite remember her name right now but there was a Biggest Loser winner who had almost zero sagging skin. Genetics. :(
    Yeah, I certainly didn't get that gene. But I'd rather have lose skin and be healthy and fit than be where I was at when I began this journey. And it sounds like that is what you are all about as well. Being healthy, strong and in shape, that's something that looks good on anybody! :)
    1992 days ago
    Excellent rant full of truth!

    My old roommate lost over 100lbs. She works out two or even three times a day. And she's still a size 8 or 10. She can whup your behind in almost any workout - but she's by no means super thin.

    People only focus on the superficial and not what is REALLY going on and it ticks me off too! So rant on!

    It also really ticks me off how every magazine these days is like "Eat this exact meal plan, do these workouts, and you'll be fit just like the girl in the picture!" - It is time for ALL of us to get REAL, especially the media!
    1992 days ago
    Amen sister! I totally agree with you. I will NEVER look like this either. It bothers me when obese people, like myself, think they'll look like her after they loose weight. I think it's pretty unrealistic, and I think that why people tend to give up. Just my thoughts.
    1992 days ago
  • RAMONA1954
    Well said. emoticon emoticon
    1992 days ago
    Rant worth ranting about ;)

    1992 days ago
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