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Self Limiting Belief

Wednesday, May 08, 2013

I have been reading this book called Full-Filled by Renee Stephens and Samantha Rose and was working on the exercise on lmiting beliefs yesterday. Well I discovered my biggest limiting belief:

I believe that I am a disappointment and that being successful with losing weight will eventually lead to regaining the weight and to failure. I believe that success leads to failure because it can’t be maintained. As a result I sabotage myself and disappoint myself before I can disappoint others. The fear of disappointing others is greater than the feelings of disappointing myself. I suspect this comes from my childhood when I had to "walk on egg shells" to survive. To this day I would rather be furious at myself for regaining weight than to disappoint others. The problem is that at the same time I also feel that my regaining weight is also causing me to be a disappointment to others. I feel trapped in this no win situation. I am also am afraid whatever I achieve is never enough because I am never enough, never good enough and as a result I will always disappoint.

Last night after I had this "enlightenment" I shared my beliefs with my best friend, but she has a great self-image and couldn't understand my negative thoughts about myself. She said she admires my fortitude and courage. With my less than stellar self image just can't grasp why she thinks I am courageous. It is hard for me to internalize for sure.

While I have made improvements in my negative self-talk overall, they have crept back into to my thoughts too much lately. As they say " I am a work in progress."
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    You know I am in your corner.
    1803 days ago
    This reminds of Dove's YouTube we see ourselves and how others see us are two different pictures. We can see ourselves as failures, not beautiful, etc...and how others see us will be be strong and beautiful...very surprising.

    I am also going through the same thought processes of you and something that I really need to work on. I think I will need to check out this book you wrote about.

    Thank you! emoticon emoticon

    1805 days ago
  • MKELLY72
    Putting yourself out there and sharing your thoughts with your friend and the
    Spark community is courageous indeed--it's a very important step in tackling issues that you feel need improvement. It takes time to change things--be patient and kind to yourself.
    1806 days ago
    This can be a struggle for many! Thanks for sharing!
    1806 days ago
  • KPACE7
    When I worked with a personal trainer, we spent the first several months on "my thought process." It takes time to change attitudes and the thinking that put us in this space. Take time to appreciate yourself and your accomplishments. This is ALL about you!
    1806 days ago
    You are certainly not alone there- I think so many of us struggle with this. We all know that while eating correctly takes work- exercise takes work- the 'real' work often goes on in our hearts and minds- and it's hard to get things to change there.
    we are, all of us, works in progress, so you're in great company!
    1806 days ago
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