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Wednesday, May 08, 2013

I have a lovely colleague at J#2 who is a mother of 3, and about 30 years younger than I am. I really like her. She is bright, beautiful, sweet, strong, and creative. She looks like someone whom you want to hug. Whenever I see her, I smile. What is there not to like? She's working on her weight loss, and we give each other moral support when we are scheduled together.

She and I were closing last night, and were headed to the receiving room for the last little chore. I was a few feet ahead of her, and she remarked "You're so cute!" I laughed, thinking that it's because I'm this middle-aged woman, walking "with urgency" (as usual), and supposed that this might look "cute." She then said that I have "such a cute figure."

Stopped me dead. I did a quick and gracious recovery, thanked her, and puzzled over this.

I've lost 40 pounds over the past several years. I'm smaller than I was in high school. I wear 8s and 10s. I see a middle-aged woman with flabby, wrinkly arms and a big belly. She sees a cute figure.

You now know what I see when I look at her. I should probably tell her. I wonder what she sees when she looks in the mirror?
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    This is so true. I saw a show on tv where an artist drew a picture of people from their description of themselves and then one of someone who had just met them. Totally different and were always kinder from the person who had just met them. We are so hard on ourselves.

    If you wear an 8-10 Hallelujah. We will never be 20 again so those arms are going to wave! LOL

    Thank you for the encouragement on my blog

    1811 days ago
    Aren't friends great!
    1812 days ago
    Sometimes we end up being so picky about ourselves, so we dont allow ourselves to notice the good that others see.
    1812 days ago
    We definitely are our harshest critics! But I was going to talk about the Dove video too, but FANG beat me to it. It really is eye opening.

    1812 days ago
  • DALID414
    Its weird, we can stare in the mirror all day and not see what other people see, but find a picture of years ago and you'll see what people around you then saw!
    1813 days ago
    I know we - everyone - are our own harshest critics. A true honest unexpected compliment will make her day.

    Have you watched the Dove videos on YouTube, about the sketch artist who does 2 portraits of from their own description and one from someone else's? It makes you stop & think about exactly what you have posted.
    1813 days ago
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