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A Change in Mindset

Tuesday, May 07, 2013

A dear SparkFriend of mine recently posted a blog about a lack of drive. It really got me thinking.

I only have 10 pounds to go. 10 pounds. Even 5 pounds would be great. Why can't I even buckle down for ONE WEEK?? How is it that I managed to lose 25lbs in roughly 9 months, then not be able to lose any more? Okay, weight aside because I know I'm building muscle and am now more toned. Why can I not just buckle down enough to see some of the excess fat go away?

The only thing I can come up with is this:

When I weighed more I NEEDED to lose the weight because of the hatred I felt for myself. I hated getting dressed in the morning - I hated shopping - I hated it. I was motivated to get into the smaller jeans, to have a flat enough stomach to feel good in T-shirts. I knew that feeling the way I do now would be way better than the feeling that brownie would give me.

Today? Today I feel great in my own skin. I feel thin, fit, sexy. I look good in my clothes. Of course we all want better, so that's what I want. Better. But these days that feeling of being comfortable in my own skin is not something I DESIRE. It is something I FEEL almost every day. That brownie doesn't come at such a cost anymore. I am okay with how I look and feel right now, so the drive isn't there.

I workout. I make better food choices. I turn down the Olive Garden lunches and the extra slice of cheesecake. Now I find myself splurging on mashed potatoes rather than a whole sleeve of Oreo's (not to say that hasn't happened though). Salmon and pasta with a shared dessert is a splurge - it used to be that 4 slices of pizza and 6 chocolate chip cookies made me feel only a twinge of guilt. Man, now I'd be beating myself up for days if I ate that! My splurges are typically less indulgant than they used to be. My "bad" days are simply days where I am going to maintain, not lose, not gain.

So what is it going to take for me to get my drive back?? I don't know. I need a non weight related goal. Something that can be measured. Not x amount of fitness minutes, not x number of workout days in a row. Something that means more. Something that I feel passionate about. So... I am going to go put some thought into that.

What keeps you going? Have you reached your goal? How do you keep pushing for more? Are you just a few pounds away from your goal? What is it going to take to get you there?
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  • IRP1114
    Great blog. I hope you find what you are looking for with this. I am not sure exactly what keeps me going... I just enjoy how eating well and working out makes me feel. I like getting my workouts in early and truly enjoy every part of it. I have never had a big number of pounds to lose so I always feel like I am so close yet so far lol. If that makes any since. The last pounds are the hardest. It is for many reasons. Our bodies are at a healthy weight so it doesn't just let go of it as easy. It takes much more effort to lose any weight once you are at that "healthy range". I think what I am doing now will get me to my final goal : )
    1840 days ago
    At the beginning I was pretty much solely focused on seeing a specific number on the scale. Nearly a year later, I haven't seen that number but I'm close to it and honestly, I'm fine with where I am now. Now I am motivated by the progress I've made and being the healthiest version of me I can be, even if that means I don't hit the magic number. I feel great physically and I want to continue to push myself to make improvements in terms of strength and endurance along with being more consistent with healthy eating.
    1841 days ago
    I wish I knew! I had the exact same feelings that you are dealing with. I was no where near my goal.... but I also have a lot more to lose. It seems very common for us to get complacent as soon as we start feeling the benefits of all of the hard work we've put in, and it is really difficult to dig deeper and keep working when we already feel so great.
    1841 days ago
    I had the "feeling sexy" motivation for awhile with the same results as you describe. But when health issues kicked in, all of a sudden it was very easy to keep a strict diet.
    1842 days ago
    You know I've honestly been battling with the same thing myself. I got to my goal weight (which was a healthy BMI) and then afterwards I lost it. I'm back on track now, but I'm just living a healthy lifestyle. I'm exercising a lot. I'm eating healthy food w/ occasional treats. I'm living a fairly balanced life. But I can't get my head back in the game to start losing weight again. I am not happy w/ my body and weight now, but I don't have that super intense hatred that I had before. Shopping isn't God awful now. I don't feel like people are staring me down everywhere I go. I'm fairly fit. So it's really really really hard to get back into that caloric deficit "weight loss" mind set. I keep wondering what it's going to take to get me to lose 20 more measly pounds! I wish I knew the answer. Just know that you're not alone!
    1842 days ago
    It is hard. I like Iamzbee's thought. When you see yourself progressing...harder, faster, stronger, muscle growth it does motivate you. When I was doing the pushups I saw my arms and shoulders start to change and I wanted to do more to strengthen them. It was so cool.

    Also, maybe an incentive after so many pounds. Something that you want enough that it would be special and worth working towards like a really cool outfit. Something more special than the goodie that takes over our minds when we see it during our biggest craving times of the day (mine is now and I'm fighting the thought of eating a mini snickers bar because one will turn into 5...dang!).

    Great, thought-provoking blog Lynsey! Have a great afternoon and enjoy the sun!!

    1842 days ago
  • KIMPY225
    I didn't reach my ultimate goal yet. I don't have the drive to get there. So I am trying to add different goals to my life right now! I am trying to change things up so I don't fall behind! I don't know what it will take to push me - but I hope I find it soon!!
    1842 days ago
    not sure how i would answer that since my drive isn't there right now
    1842 days ago
    Gosh, I'm in the same boat as you, girl. I'm trying to refocus my goal to building strength. As in... "can I curl heavier? can i press heavier? Can I pull heavier?" It's actually kinda fun! emoticon
    1842 days ago
    If you find the answers to all of these questions could you please pass the answers on to me? Sometimes I get so frustrated with myself!
    1842 days ago
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