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I Just Want to Bang My Head Against a Wall

Sunday, May 05, 2013

Okay I understand that my sister has done almost all of the running around for the funeral and such but I am ready to kill her. She asked me this morning over breakfast with Dad to find a picture of our Mom for the paper for the obituary. Well I *just* found the perfect shot at 8PM tonight. She asked me if I had it printed and ready for delivery to the paper for 8AM tomorrow emoticon . Ummm NO!!!

I am beginning to get very frustrated. I don't know if my sister just doesn't understand that it takes a long time to go through 8 years of digital photos trying to find one of a specific person who so rarely had their picture taken without someone else in the photo. I am hoping she gives me a small chance to find pictures of my family to share for the memorial service on Friday. I don't have hard copies of any of my photos for the past 8 years they are all on my computer or CDs.

This is such a rough time right now and I am desperately trying to not "rock the boat" for fear of offending someone.
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  • 4CYNDI
    **HUGS** This is a very stressful time for everyone. I'm sure she just overlooked to mention that the paper needed the photos in print by a certain time. I wonder if they would accept digital? Sometimes it would work better for them I'd think, but hey just saying. I hope you get your collage together and printed in time. Sam's Club, Costco and some other places offer 1 hour printing.

    Hang in there. Don't forget to thank your sister for all her hard work, especially if you need to mention not having realistic timelines dropped on you. Stay strong.
    1815 days ago
    Why do we make things so hard on each other? Contentious parent relationships are even worse. All I can say, hun, is I feel for you. Keep coming back to us and let it all out. If you can't avoid saying something to your sister, try to remind her you love her but you are hurting too and her nagging isn't helping. Start with the love though.

    You can get through this. You are STRONG and capable.

    You can do this.
    1815 days ago
    Hugs, I hope things get better
    1815 days ago
    When our mother died just a year after our father we got together to work thorugh the home of our childhood and decide what to do with things. Our parents had been very wise, they had discussed and devided things and it was all done in a fair and respectful way - it was an easy task for us children to clear things and move on.

    But that did not help - we still had "explosions" over nothing and quarrelled and got upset, made peace and got upset again... and my explanation of that time is that it is a very emotional challenging time when a parent dies, and no matter how good the relation is between siblings and how well it all have been organised, there will be big emotional reactions.

    If you are unlucky and the parents has left things unfinished, you might think that the conflicts are reality and they might end in separation for years... but t me there are a lot of ld ghosts around when a parent dies so it is best to be as peaceful and tolerant as possible.

    That said, I realise that it is a bit presumptious - it is just that it was so clear to me when my parents died and I heard so many stories of brothers and sisters becoming enemies for years after a funeral and I think that if one relises that it is a difficult time for all involved, one might thread a little lighter...

    Take care!
    1815 days ago
    So sorry for your loss. It's never easy to get those things together during this time. I hope you will be able to find the pictures you need to create a meaningful collage of your mom and the family. I'm sure that whatever you are able to pull together will be great.

    1815 days ago
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