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Compliments from unexpected places...

Saturday, May 04, 2013

There's a great little family-run Vietnamese restaurant that I go to about 3, 4 times a year... been going there for several years... same young lady takes our order each time, she recognizes us, knowing that Dad ALWAYS gets Number 40, Kid ALWAYS gets Number 44, and Mom never gets the same thing twice...

Haven't been there in a few months (since last November or December). Went for lunch today. Oh MAN do they make good food (in reasonable portions with many suitable-healthy options, yessss a restaurant menu that aligns with my goals!). Finished my lunch... she comes to clear away my plate, leans in and says quietly... you, you have lost weight....

Me: *blush and smile* well, yes, thank you for noticing!

Her: I almost did not recognize you, I kept looking and thinking, is it her? You look so different!

And then we had a great chit-chat about her own challenges - oh, giggle, this petite little thing, confessing she has "gained 20 pounds since turning 30" and wanting to know what I was doing...

This reminded me of a thread I read in the Spark forums recently, about whether people found it annoying to hear "thin" people complain "i am so fat!" And I thought about this as I talked to her - I'm probably almost double her size, did it bother me to hear her critique her weight? No, no it did not. As we talked and I said, but, 20#? I don't even see where you could be hiding 20#! She commented that "well in Canada I still feel so small! But when I go home now (Vietnam), I cannot go shopping, I cannot fit the clothes! I am very big there and I have to get extra-large or even have to get my clothes special made!

So... we all have our challenges. Yes, her 20# is distressing her just as much as my 90# has been distressing me. It sure was fun to be the "success story, please share your tips!" Boy, did I feel great! Compliments from random unexpected places like this really reinforce to me, that I *am* making significant progress. This completely reverses the humiliation of last week's bathing suit shopping experiences, and then some!!!!

That said... remind me to stock up on skirts and blouses before ever travelling to Vietnam, ha ha, if my waitress is an example of the typical "plus size"....

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    What a day brightener! Both her compliment to you and your blog.
    1863 days ago
    Congratulations to you! That's so great :) NellJones is right, perspective is everything and it's wonderful that you understood that in that moment rather than feeling upset by the whole "thin person wanting to be thinner" thing. I don't know that my thinking would have been that clear in that instant. Thanks for posting this.
    1872 days ago
    Perspective is everything. Soldiers coming back from Vietnam used to bring their wives silk clothing that turned out to be WAY too small.
    1872 days ago
    I love Vietnamese food ! Have you tried any of the soups ? If not, I highly recommend their soups. I've tried a beef noodle soup as well as a seafood soup. What I really like is that along with the soup, you're given a dish with fresh mint, mushrooms, some type of green veggie, etc... you add the veggies into the broth to enhance the flavor of the soup. you can add as little or as much as you like.

    Vietnamese spring rolls are really good too. I love Chinese food, but Chinese food has been adapted to American tastes i.e. too much salt, sugar and fat. Vietnamese and Thai food aren't as Americanized as Chinese has become here.

    Try Thai some time too. I love Thai food !

    1872 days ago
    The food looks amazing - pity I don't do that sort of thing.

    What a lovely compliment from your waitress :-)

    1872 days ago
    you never know who is watching your progress-- always nice to hear the feedback first hand and be able to encourage them to spark on
    1873 days ago
    That looks amazing. I would like to try Vietnamese!
    1873 days ago
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