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Setting (and Keeping) Goals

Saturday, May 04, 2013

I have two things on my mind today, and they're both goal-related.

I've been reading quite a bit on the SP Motivational articles -- and today, I just read back-to-back articles about how to set goals, and specifically how to set positive goals. And I noticed that while the advice sounds good, the two coaches are contradicting each other subtly. Dean Anderson wants us to not use any negative words in our goals (i.e., "NO, NOT, NEVER, STOP, LOSE, REDUCE, LIMIT, or QUIT.") You can read his post at:
asp?id=448 ) while Melinda Hershey specifically gives "lose" in an example of a clear goal ("I will lose 25 pounds."). You can read her post at (

I guess it's a bit frustrating to have two experts, both offering me advice on how to do something I've never been particularly good at (set goals) and somewhat contradictory advice at that!

I think there's a take-away here. The key isn't whether the advice is contradicted by another expert, but rather whether it works for you.

I'm leaning towards following Dean's advice to a degree -- in that I will keep negative words to a minimum, because I like the idea of staying positive in all things. But I will follow Melinda's advice, because it's more tangible. She gives steps and instructions of what to do that are very easy to follow, and I'm going to print out the goal-setting work sheet and get on it.

So that covers Setting goals... Now if I could just figure out how to Keep the goals once I've set them.

I join the team goals, and I'm finding that those are fairly easy to keep. Because, of course, I'm only really signing up for teams (and, thus, the team goals) that I'm interested in anyways. So, as long as I remember I have them, I can keep those goals. (Must remember to log in to "Track my Other Goals" daily!)

Sadly, I don't do as well on the goals I set for myself.

Yes, the potato struck again. Or, rather, my desire to eat the potato struck again.

I was a full 750 calories over the top of my range yesterday (again), and I'm afraid that while my dietary fat was within range, and reasonable in comparison to my carbs, the only reason carbs were within range was because I drank not one, not two, but *three* beers and, yes, ate half a plate of fries.

I'm actually pleased with myself on the fries, because I did only eat _half_ the plate. But still. I know better. And the beer? It's gotta go -- or at least become a once-a-weekend treat.

So. I'm off to set goals. And read more motivational articles on how to motivate myself to keep goals once I have them. Any suggestions?
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  • KAT321123
    I think one of the reasons setting goals involving "losing" can be hard is that we truly only do have some control over that. You can eat well, exercise lots, and still lose weight really slowly, which means you don't reach a "lose" goal and get discouraged.

    So setting goals about things that you have full control over -- calorie goals, exercise goals, etc. -- can be great since you can see results daily. Of course I say this but still set my own weight loss goals =)

    Good luck in your goal-setting! You can do it!
    1815 days ago
    You do have to set goals that are right for you and also know that they are reasonable to keep. Take one step at a time and one day at a time. Maybe take one or two goals a week and at the end of the week if you kept to them reward yourself with something small like a book or CD or whatever you like.

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    Best Wishes!
    1815 days ago
  • JOHGLO2011
    You are so right - you must set goals that work for you! Also, try setting one small goal at a time and then building in more goals as you become comfortable with the first. Lots of small steps add up to big success! Best Wishes! emoticon
    1815 days ago
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