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What's stopping me?

Saturday, May 04, 2013

When a food craving hits, I give in.Rarely do I do what I know I should do. I know I could do these things instead of overeating:
-chose a fruit
-drink a glass of cold water
-drink tea
-drink a cup of hot water
-go for a walk
-get busy doing anything
-take a nap or at least relax
-do something I like to do
-phone a friend
-chat on sparkpeople
-go to the library
-have a cup of coffee
-put on some bouncy music
-brush my teeth

Wow--I know lots of things to do besides eating .

My thought is I just want to eat something tasty! And 99% of the time I do just that.

I don't start wanting to eat between meals till late in the afternoon. I might even control myself till maybe early evening. But eventually I want comfort and I want it bad. I want to eat and watch TV or read and have no responsibilities. After putting DH to bed about 8:00 pm I have no responsibilities--finally.

I will continue this in the next blog. Chris
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    I struggle also!
    1874 days ago
    We have the same story. Everyone has given good advice. I have heard it all before. I KNOW it but I fail to DO it. I am unable to string together even three good days. The questions remains...why? We are both educated women, who have accomplished much and are strong enough too care for others yet we are unable to care for ourselves. When you said, " After putting DH to bed about 8:00 pm I have no responsibilities--finally." that struck a cord in me. Obviously, we both eat to escape.....we both have demanding lives, ones that leave us feeling tired, frustrated, maybe even a little fearful. We face the same exhausting challenges day after day, with no relief in sight and so be escape into the comfort of what we know....food. It's become our refuge but it's time to find another way to cope. Let's do this together.

    1875 days ago
    Chris I think the problem with that list is that it is a TO DO list and your mind and body are saying its wind down time. If you always eat when you watch TV that becomes a habit and you only break that by replacing it with a better habit. It takes two weeks to set in a new habit but you didn't set the old one overnight either. Try picking a set snack time that is not when you are watching tv and let yourself have a small portion of the kind of food you are craving. Its true you may be thirsty too so you could try to develop the habit of slowly drinking water while you are watching tv instead of reaching for food. Does it come from needing comfort? Like your therapist says you need to address this then. What is the need? If you are outflowing caregiving all day, then try doing something just for you! to inflow some TLC back to you. Something not food, but that comforts you. One problem with TV is that there are so many food cues while watching it. Commercials about all the feel good junk for our body instantly gratifying foods that raise our serutonin levels. Exercise also raises serutonin but it doesn't have to be formal strenuous exercise. It can be just gentle simple moving of the feet, hands, legs, or arms, or neck that relaxes you as you watch your programs and makes you feel better. Try doing them during the advert breaks and you'll be surprised at how fast the need to eat goes away. The CE team has a challenge thread going to do that and its amazing how not watching all those cues makes the craving go away. I can't walk your path with you but maybe these suggestions can help. emoticon
    IKacey co-leader of the Chair Exercise Team
    1876 days ago
  • 123ELAINE456
    Great list of Distractions. It is What We Do With It That Matters. God Blessings to Everyone. Have a Wonderful Lord's Day. Take Care. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    1876 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/5/2013 1:00:52 AM

    I know that list !!!!! many of us do , its what we do with it that matters emoticon
    1876 days ago
  • ELSCO55
    Good list of distractions
    1876 days ago
    What about printing this list and putting it wherever you'll have to look at it before choosing a snack? Maybe even putting it in several places. Heck, you could laminate it and tape it to the fridge door handle or the cupboard handle so you must look at it before getting to any food. Then your job is to do at least 1 one of those tasks before eating.

    You could also try a new hobby that keeps your hands busy while you're sitting down. If you make it difficult to put stuff aside to be able to get up and get a snack but keep water or some kind of drink nearby, you may be more willing to drink something instead of moving everything off your lap to get up.
    1876 days ago
    Giving in to the toughts of gratification from food is a challenge that can be beat. Pre plan and track all of your food and the make a commitment to yourself to not break the plan.
    1876 days ago
    I had the same problem and am just coming out of it by a decision of what is really important to me?

    Is it comfort and having fun with food just because it tastes so good and use it as a form of entertainment....or how much do I want to lose this ugly fat?

    Right now losing this ugly fat is what is winning in my life.

    Which is more important to you? emoticon
    1876 days ago
    I know what you are saying... I have the same problem.
    1876 days ago
    I am fighting the same struggle and so far so good but some days it is so hard. All I can say for me being a Christian I started turning to God and He has been my source and strength. emoticon
    1876 days ago
    My therapist told me this is my addiction, the night time eating but even more avoiding the things I know I should do to do the night time eating. When I stopped avoiding the things I did not want to face (cleaning the kitchen, my feelings, my fears...) the craving for night time eating was greatly reduced. Now when I want to eat after I have met all my nutrition goals I brush my teeth and then my body and mind know that the time for eating is over for the day.

    Good luck to you on your journey.
    1876 days ago
  • FROSTY99
    Walking is working for me and knowing I want to get 10,000 steps in each day is motivation to get out there and walk. I plan to add swimming now to my routine-if I am busy, I find I don't even think about food.
    1876 days ago
  • EILEEN828
    Most likely it is the fact that you are thirsty. I myself am putting real thought into trying to figure that sensation out. It always gets interpreted as food, but sometimes you can eat and still be "hungry." That's because you are thirsty and even if you ate something it likely didn't hydrate you enough so your body is calling out for more, especially since you upped the requirement for fluids by eating some food. But if you drink water, and here's the important part, ALL DAY LONG, then you will see that it was really a thirsty signal. And if your fluids are up then you will not have as many hungry signals. Also for bedtime it is comforting to have some "tea" of some sort, not caffeinated or you'll be up all night. emoticon emoticon
    1876 days ago
    procrastination is what stops me
    1876 days ago
  • LIS193
    Great list of distractions!
    1876 days ago
    How about taking your ice water/tea and a good book and soak in a nice warm tub with scented candles? I find it works for me. Then when I get out of the tub I go to bed and read for maybe 15 mins and then I fall asleep.
    1876 days ago
    good blog.....amazing how much we really do know....though sometimes that knowing is not passed along to our brains...or to our stomachs....
    gorgeous pansies.....I think that pansies are one of my favorite flowers....just gorgeous....
    1877 days ago
    .....and I forgot to mention how pretty your page is with the pansies!
    1877 days ago
    Frustrating knowing what we SHOULD do, but we often do something else. I am the same way, Chris!
    1877 days ago
    1877 days ago
    I'm in the same boat as you Chris, really I am...seems I rather watch tv or read and eat at night...my wind down. I do think part of my problem is I love to feel full (not empty) when I go to bed, like a baby after having their last bottle at night..mmmmm maybe like my last bottle..now how to stop it, all starts in the head I'm sure or some deep unconscious place..the need. Or from the feeling of deprivation especially from being deprived as a child..mmmmm, I will be thinking of this..good path to be on...

    Most of the time it is taking care of ourselves, we feel good at the moment only to feel badly afterwards.
    1877 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/4/2013 8:36:31 AM
    Evening eating.... Yes, that's my downfall too. It really helps me to treat myself to some Greek yogurt then. It's creamy and sweet, but good for me and I can budget for it. And some of the Chobani (my favorite) are only 140 calories. I buy it in the small packages and just have one. Could something like that work for you? I've also gone to bed early to avoid the temptation of evening eating. Sleeping through the cravings always cures them! : ) Seriously! Could you just be exhausted? Stay strong! It's not easy, but we will get there!!!
    1877 days ago
    I do drinking water to take off my mind but sleeping, well, that might be difficult as I usually end up more hungrier!
    1877 days ago
    This is the tough one. Food craving always pass..til the next time. I have a food planner (when I check things off it becomes my food journal). I have learned to convert my cravings for something NOW for craving for my next meal. The anticipation is part of the gratification.
    1877 days ago
    I totally get it. So many times I have been just great all day and when I get to stop, sit down and relax I eat. It's tough too give that up! Good luck, I'm rooting for you!
    1877 days ago
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