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Positive Thoughts About Starting Over

Thursday, April 25, 2013

So many of us have had lots of experience in starting over and often when we think or talk about that, we sigh. It can make us feel bad. We often feel as though needing to start over is a sign of weakness or failure.

But those negative feelings are defeatist. If we separate starting over from negative labels, what is it really?

I had a long career as a nurse. I loved what I did but often the structure within which I practiced was not enjoyable. I was lucky. I had the opportunity to retire from nursing at an age that many thought was too young. What often troubled others about that early retirement was the question...."What are you going to DO?"

As it turned out, as we pursued an interest, we fell right into a second career. We provided service on private railcars for over a decade. The work we did, for me especially was very different from the career I had studied and followed for the preceding 3 decades. Different in a good way. I was challenged in an entirely different direction.

Starting over can be a good thing.

We have again retired. For many reasons, we found that it was time to change gears. Recently while attending a family funeral, an elderly relative asked what we have been doing since we quit the rail work. When I answered that we haven't been doing much of anything, she seemed shocked....we must have some plans! Well, we do in a way, but it's not very exciting. We've been a little negligent when it comes to our home and some other interests these last years and it's been enjoyable to change the flooring in the dining room and other projects that had simply been ideas without the time to implement. And this interlude without specific plans has been very good too.

And we will probably be starting over again.....to do what? It doesn't matter, it will be good. Maybe we'll put so many miles on the motorcycle that we'll need to get a new bike! ( I suspect my husband would like that. LOL)

Today, our weather is finally improved enough for me to get outside to do some gardening. As I worked the soil in my raised bed, cleaning it of the debris remaining from last season's vegetable garden, I was thinking about what I will be planting this year and when I might be able to do so. It felt very good to be starting over with the garden.

The ice is beginning to come off the lake, it's open in front of our property and across the end of the lake toward the eagle's nest. The loons have returned and are making the calls and hoots that signal the mating game. Flocks of ducks and geese are also enjoying the return of spring........finally. Everything is starting over and it's all good.

Why is it that we think of starting over ourselves as such a negative thing? New beginnings should be embraced instead of dreaded.

I haven't been able to train as I would have wished for months now and I have been thinking a lot about how I will have to start over practically from scratch. I had been looking at this as a negative. It doesn't have to be. The good thing about starting over is that I get to tick off those milestones again. I will get to once again feel the excitement of being able to extend my endurance, to run up a hill, to push an extra mile.

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    Spring is a great opportunity to ponder on new beginnings. Now that spring might actually be here in Wisconsin, it is a great time to explore new opportunities, rededicate ourselves to our goals and to enjoy the journey, whatever path it takes
    1880 days ago
    I think sometimes we have to grieve the loss of the old before embracing the new...and maybe that's where some people make the mistake of confusing those feelings with feelings of not wanting to start over? One personality trait that I don't like in myself is that I'm resistant to change. No, more than that....I dig in my heels and meet change kicking and screaming. I want to "change" that attitude....but it's kind of a catch-22.

    Once I get used to an idea, I do embrace the new beginning....like what I'm experiencing now. Starting over can be invigorating....exciting....IF we look at it from the right angle. You've found that, and I think I have too. Yea!
    1882 days ago
    Why do people assume you have to be "doing something" to be enjoying yourself? You are retired for God's sake.... for the second time!! Just not having to have a plan is doing something... you can do whatever you Damn well please and enjoy it!! You have earned it!! I envy that you are just able to enjoy watching Spring be re-born, get out on the motorcycle, get back to your training and just plain have fun!! It's starting over but I think its great.... it's new again, different, invigorating.... FUN.. Enjoy!!! emoticon emoticon
    1882 days ago
  • JANET552
    I like starting over or starting anew. You start with different knowledge each time. Here's to success in any way you define it!!
    1883 days ago
    What an awesome blog! I'm so glad that you posted this TODAY. I am starting over again in the eating better department. I've had many things going on since September and have gained back 40 pounds. Now I am working on getting things back in balance and am secretly trying to go at this again. I was successful when I only shared with my SP family and not the rest of the "outside world".
    Sorry for rambling, but what I wanted to say was thank you for posting this and giving me a positive way of looking at things.
    Good luck with the projects around your home and with the garden. Those sound like absolutely perfect plans to me.
    1883 days ago
    What a wonderful outlook. I think I'll borrow it, if you don't mind. Here's to a great road ahead.
    1883 days ago
    Starting over means not staying in a place we don't want to be. It's the beginning of opportunities for beautiful change!

    1883 days ago
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