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Trust Issues

Thursday, April 25, 2013

I Have Trust Issues.

I Was Lied To By A Close Relative Enough Times To Doubt Everything That They Said After A Certain Point.

I Was Close Friends With Someone Who Passed Away A Few Years Ago.
Found Out After The Funeral That She Had Embezzled Over $250,000
And Was Suspected Of Trying To Do It Again.
I Was Shocked…
She Was The Last Person I Would Ever Think Would Do That.

I Have Worked For Companies That Required Me To Sign All Kinds Of Papers Promising Loyalty…
Then Sold Our Teams Contracts To Another Company,
Continuing to work at the same desk, same project, same phone,
but With No Guarantee Of Employment After 6 Months.
'Selling' us to the new company eliminated their obligation to pay
severance and unemployment.
I Was 1 Month Short Of Being Vested For Pension Benefits And
That Company's Matching Benefit On My 401k …
Which Translated Into losing Money.

I Have Trust In My Doctors,
But I’m Wary Of The Times They Try To Push Drugs At Me
For Conditions That I Don’t Yet Really Have.
Over The Years Different Doctors Tried Prescribing
The Popular Drug Of The Moment, With A Free Sample Trial Period,
Complete With Prescription I Could Fill If It Worked.
Thankfully, I’m Not A Hypochondriac.

It Makes You Wonder About People
It Makes You Hesitate
It Makes You Doubt Your Own Judgement

Marvin Salazar knew Krystle Campbell, one of the bombing victims,
and knew Dzhokhar Tsarnaev, the bombing suspect.
Marvin's uncle worked in a restaurant near one of the bombing sites.
I wouldn't be surprised if Marvin hesitates in trusting people from now on.

And Yet…

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    It is hard to trust others, but without trust our relationships are shallow.
    1875 days ago
    Oh yeah... I am so there with you. I was so darn lucky to get an early retirement offer when I left that huge big company... and while I won't get the pension I was promised when I joined them in my 20's, it's better than a poke in the eye with a sharp stick. And doctors... DON"T get me started on them. While we have good ones now, my DH nearly died while they all sat around saying it was something the other doctor should treat... Ouch! Seems you hit a soft spot with this one, doesn't it! Yikes! I think I'll stop now before I really depress you!!! emoticon
    1875 days ago
    All you can do is move on and try not to lose your faith in mankind.
    1878 days ago
    a trustworthy person is a rare and precious find these days
    1879 days ago
    Yes, it happens to all of us. I was told I was loved by a family member who abused me. I was hired and assured of the company's stability and it was sold a few years later and they'd always known it would be. (They did grandfather everyone in to be fully vested though). I was cheated on by one who declared fidelity. And yet, I inherently believe the best in people and choose to give them the benefit of the doubt...until they prove otherwise. But once my trust is betrayed, forget it. There is no easy way to regain it.

    I'm sorry you had to deal with all of that.
    1880 days ago
    I think that being cautious and watching out for ourselves is different from having trust issues, I think that just makes you smart. I do trust people, I trust them to be exactly who they really are.
    1880 days ago
    After I've been lied to, I have no time to waste on that person any more. Why bother if you can't trust them.
    1880 days ago
  • KANOE10
    You have to find the people you trust and hold on to them. I am so sorry about you not getting the matching funds on your pension. I just felt betrayed at work as my job was changed without me being consulted. I have learned to distrust members of my family over the years with good reason.

    Life is not simple. All we can do is keep trying to find people and situations that we can trust. I do not trust doctors either.

    You have good reasons to be distrucstful you end it, we need to find positive people and situations to trust to survive.

    1880 days ago
    Trust issues? yup trusting for me is tough. Been let down too often it seems. But we smile through the tears and move forward.
    1880 days ago
    I still tend to trust although I have been taken advantage of. It still hurts when people take advantage of me.
    1880 days ago
    I believe in the saying "Trust, but verify"
    1880 days ago
  • GLC2009
    when a 20-ish son of a friend of ours came to visit he went on a popular mountain climb and met some people his age who invited him on a further adventure during his travels. he decided to catch a ride with them and i said to my husband, "should we be concerned?". my husband said "no, they have a nice dog."

    if only it was as easy as that. emoticon
    1880 days ago
    1880 days ago
    I may be cynical as I get older but it seems many people have a problem with earning trust. It's a shame.

    I make myself feel better by knowing there are some people, as seen here in responses that do feel trust must be earned. Hopefully all is not lost in the world!

    Great blog as usual!
    1880 days ago
  • DALID414
    I'm the weirdo in my family, because I trust no one until they earn it. It's not a flaw it's a defense mechanism.
    1880 days ago
  • TERRI289
    1880 days ago
    Great blog. emoticon
    1880 days ago
    Hi Sheryl..........
    Both of my dogs have said exactly what the dog in your first picture said to both my husband and me!!!!!!!! They are still very skeptical of going to the Vet; no matter what the reason.
    I am not proud of it, but if someone betrays my trust, they are no longer in my life. I cannot respect someone that I do not trust and therefore have NO time for them. I have always felt this way. As a former teacher, I used to tell my students that I would trust them until they proved me wrong. I think because of that, I wasn't often disappointed.
    Being trustworthy and being honest are two of the most important components in any relationship. How could you be in a relationship without either of them???
    1880 days ago
    1880 days ago
    Others have already said it - In God We Trust - I refuse to live a life or in a world without trust - may I get hurt from trusting those who are not trustworthy? Yes, but the cost to me would be so much greater if I didn't give the trust freely.
    1880 days ago
    1880 days ago
    So, how do I know you're real? :)

    In God We Trust....God is we have to live the love to keep the what's gone wrong here.....
    1880 days ago
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    1880 days ago
    Very sad.
    I'm sorry for all you've been through.
    I may be naive but I am a pretty trusting soul.
    Works for me.
    Not that life doesn't knock me for a loop now and again.
    1880 days ago
    1880 days ago
  • LINDAK25
    Me, too.
    1880 days ago
    Does it sound cynical to believe that the medical conglomerate is a medical Mafia...!!
    Does anyone remember Marcus Welby.. TV hero doctor? The same kind of guy was my neighbor---long ago. He drove me home from the hospital in a snowstorm! Modern medicine is an utter disgrace. Profiteering without conscience!----

    ---And does anyone remember when Tide and toothpaste were among the main TV commericials... Not all these glamorized drugs that "may cause fatal events."

    Yes, call me CYNICAL---- I am old enough to have learned to mistrust.

    I do indeed find joy in many blessings--- but trust must be earned.
    1880 days ago
  • SCOOTER4263
    I'd love to say something profound and meaningful, but all I can think of is, "In God we trust - all others pay cash."

    I'm the stupid person that Morticia speaks of (although when it comes to other kinds of street smarts, I have more than my share.) Still, I prefer this version of me to the one from 20 years ago, who trusted no one. Ever. For anything. I think I'm much happier, more open and compassionate. Broke, but a better person.

    Doctors, however, are a whole 'nother ballgame. In the words of Lenin, (*not* Reagan - see how this works?), "Trust, but verify."
    1880 days ago
  • FLAME42
    Trust is the basis of all our relationships, however we have to be selective in how much we trust each relationship.
    Since I don't trust all my own decisions......have to have trust of others to a degree but not totally.
    1880 days ago
    Trust is defined by each person's history. I too remain sceptical of modern medicine since they seem to work on relieving symptoms not causes. And just because it is new does not mean I need it or want it. But everyone needs a bit a faith that their trust is not always abused but cherished.
    1880 days ago
    What a small world we live in. You never knew who knows who.
    1880 days ago
    1880 days ago
    I agree!! emoticon
    1880 days ago
    1880 days ago
    Constant vigilance, Potter, constant vigilance!
    1880 days ago
    **SIGH** Trust, it is a HUGE thing in life! Relationships surely do take a nose dive (or don't develop @ all!) without trust.

    I've been swindled by family members . . . those relationships I can tell you are long severed. And that's all right with me . . . family or not!
    1880 days ago
    I know. From what I have learned you have to develop degrees of trust. I can trust people to different degrees and in different ways but I can't trust anyone completely, including myself. If you can't trust yourself, then you can hardly trust anyone else. I'm not perfect, no one is. Not totally trusting people protects me because I can never be totally betrayed because I never trusted anyone totally anyway. Totally. LOL. Sorry to say, but people who trust too much are pretty stupid. They get taken advantage of routinely Just call me a cynic. LOL. I'm street smart.
    1880 days ago
  • -LINDA_S
    I don't really trust doctors very much. Sometimes their knowledge is kinda narrow and remains conventional even in the face of new information. Trust is a tricky thing...
    1880 days ago
  • EDWARDS1411
    1880 days ago
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    1880 days ago
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