Wednesday, April 24, 2013
The date on Monday went well. He talks a LOT. Which worked out well for me because I was nervous and quiet. I don't know why I was nervous. Maybe it was because he talked so much. When I have to do all the talking, I usually don't feel nervous at all. That doesn't make much sense, I know.
Anyway, we had a good time. He asked me out again for Friday night. And then he'll be out of town for 3 weeks. I like that. At least, right now I like the concept. I probably won't like it when it's actually happening. Of course, my vacation is right in the middle of it, so that should help. But I have a tendency to get really excited and go too fast. So this will keep me slow. I've been pretty good about it too, so far. I let him add me on Facebook first, and I let him ask me out first. I admit that I did give him my phone number without him asking. I did that on Sunday because I wanted him to have a better way to contact me if he had to cancel than a Facebook message since I get in trouble for checking Facebook at work. I'm generally awful about checking Facebook. It is a way to contact me, but it's not a very good way.
But he took it as an opportunity to open a conversation in text on Sunday. So we chatted a bit. I tried to keep it at a minimum. I'm still a little burned by the fact that Dan went from being super chatty, to seeming like it was totally inconvenient to so much as say hi. I don't want to overwhelm this guy right away.
Monday we met for dinner at 7 and didn't leave until almost 11:30. He walked me to my car and made some comment about how it's unfortunate that he just met me and now he has to go out of town for 3 weeks, but that wants to see me again before he leaves, which means Friday. I suggested the place we went to on Monday, so I'm leaving it up to him to figure out what we do on Friday.
And then last night I fell apart a little. He had the day off of work so he started text messaging me in the early afternoon. I responded sporadically, as that's often all I can do at work. Then when I got home we chatted some more. I let him know when I left for my run, and when I got back. When he said "Sitting at home bored out of my mind. I'm feeling restless and have nothing to do." I took that as "It would be cool to hang out, but I feel awkward asking because we just hung out last night." So I asked him. And he agreed. And we hung out at the 4th brewery in 6 days. And we had a good time again. I think my weirdness is starting to show. I'm getting more comfortable.
When I went on my first eHarmony date, I was pretty scared. I hadn't really gone on very many dates. And never with people I didn't know before. Most of the people I've dated in the past came from my pool of friends. Meeting strangers is scary. Then again, with eHarmony, you learn so much about a person before you even meet. So many questions are already answered.
This is completely different. I told my parents over the weekend that I had a date on Monday and they grilled me for information and I just shrugged and said I don't know. It's our first date. I haven't had a chance to find these things out. And actually, after meeting twice on our own, I still haven't asked a lot of those questions. I did ask him about his religious viewpoint and that felt REALLY awkward. But that's a question that's answered on eHarmony before you even choose to make contact with a person. So in that sense, it's nice to date people from eHarmony, because it's so easy to weed out people based on some simple stuff you know up front. But at the same time, it's fun NOT knowing that stuff too and everything is open to possibility. Interest is based on a first impression instead of profile information.
It's Wednesday night. He went out to visit his friends tonight and kept up a text conversation with me all night while I tried to clean and cook at home. I'm looking forward to Friday.