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Saturday, April 13, 2013

My cousin found out she had cancer in December. By the time they found it, it was in he lungs, brain, and bones I think. Talked to her on Easter and she was doing ok. The chemotherapy was helping, even though the doctors didn't think it would. She's been getting treated for dehydration. While getting her treatment yesterday it started to go wrong and she died in her husbands arms.

I knew when I heard that she had such advanced cancer that her time was short. I just didn't think it would be so short.

My brother's widow is engaged to another guy. I know life goes on and she shouldn't have to be alone for the rest of her life, but I don't like it. It's been 3 years so if she's ready to move on, good for her. Life goes on. You can't stop living because someone you love dies. I know this, but it's still hard to deal with.

My mom will finally be free on the heart recorder she's been wearing on wednesday. From there we wait for the results. I am still hoping to get pregnant so there is something positive for us to focus on.
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    My condolences on the loss of your cousin. Losing a loved one is never easy.

    Have you considered talking to your brother's widow? Let her know that even though she's moving on in her life and finding new love (not better, just different), you still want to be friends with her. Sometimes when someone we care about 'moves on' we feel left behind. Knowing her outside of her relationship with your brother (as a friend instead of a sister-in-law) might help you be more okay with her moving on. (As Dr Phil has said, 'but' means 'forget everything I just said, here's what I really think', so I have a feeling you might not be as okay with her moving on as you would like to be.)
    1833 days ago
    emoticon emoticon about your lose and the changes taking place in the family. hope things with your mom turn out well emoticon emoticon
    1834 days ago
    Sorry to hear about your loss. It's always a shock when you lose someone in your life, sick or not. Moving on is never easy. emoticon
    1834 days ago
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    I am so sorry about the loss of your cousin. emoticon Best wishes for your mother's health.
    1834 days ago
    Sorry about your cousin, it's so hard to know something is wrong with someone and not be able to do anything to fix it.
    It is hard to move on when you lose someone. Some people are ready sooner then others to move ahead. Just because she has moved on, doesn't mean she will ever lose the love she had for your brother. It may well be, that the 2 of them had an agreement on her moving forward after he was gone. My husband and I have talked about these things and have agreed that we wouldn't want the other to grieve for more then a year, then we should start to think about moving on. No, neither of us is sick, but both of have lost several friends and family members in the last few years that has promped these conversations.
    Yay that your Mom is leaving the heart recorder behind, it must limit her activities.
    Hope You have some baby new soon!

    1834 days ago
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