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Thursday, April 04, 2013

Where is the balance between patting yourself on the back and pushing to meet a goal?

Example: I just turned 38 years old. I am healthy and fit. I have a beautiful family, a strong marriage, and a career that I love. I am living the life I wanted!

However... I'm about seven pounds above my maintenance weight. My jeans are tight, and I don't like the way my silhouette is looking with these extra pounds. Therefore, I have SOME motivation to focus my efforts on losing the weight.

Yet, every time I splurge, I tell myself, "Oh, it's fine. What are a couple of pounds?" In the moment, I'm happy...and complacent. It's only later that I regret my snacking/lack of exercise, etc.

Any advice? I really need to step it up a notch.
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    emoticon ...and remember, one day at a time!
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  • KANOE10
    I have also gone through periods of complacency where I am happy with what I am doing, and don't want to make the effort to lose up pounds. I agree with the ideas here of finding a small step, a small motivation to get on track. These periods where your pants fit tighter than you like, are uncomfortable for me, as well. I like the thought that this is just a cycle of maintenance that we need to learn how to break out of. Hang in there. You can do it.

    There is a good article on finding rewards to help motivate yourself.
    1878 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/5/2013 8:30:30 AM
    Funny...I was just thinking about this the other day and was going to use the same exact title. I am right where you are, especially after the birthday month of March and having Easter, and having 6 straight weekends of parties to attend...there has not been a break in that instance. I am lumpy in the silouette...not loving it that much. So instead of my own blog - here I go.

    Katie has the majority of what I was going to say...but here are a few additions from me :)

    1) It's a cycle - realizing the cyle effect helps break it. Oh, you will be complacent again in the future, it's just a matter of when...if you learn how to break it, then getting back down and feeling good in the jeans will come around again naturally enough.

    2) get back to the elemental basics - water, tracking, movement. Cut out the extraneous items associated with the complacent atmosphere: mine is wine - I actually put away the wine into a cupboard so I don't even see it. That glass at night I was having is as good as a soda - bloating effect in da house!! WOOHOO! And cheese - I love cheese, but I could do with out it for a while - it isn't a must in everything if I am feeling icky and complacent. (OMG - no cheese on the ham & cheese sami? yes dear, you will live) See what I mean?

    3) Do the mini-goals - it's a must. My 5K goal helped me, but once it came and went, that was it...and then vaca happened, and it's cold out still...kinda killing my whole "I wanna walk outside thing" - so I need a new one that gets me moving every day...even for a little bit. LOL WHen I find the key for that one, I will tell ya! Hahaha...but seriously, a mini-goal really does help. So I'm working on a 2 mile goal. The next 5K is going to be a breeze! Maybe you shouid find one yourself and work on that? Just a suggestion :)

    So my dear, you are not alone in your feelings of complacency - they happen!! Let's break the cycle together!!!!
    1878 days ago
    Find a really good motivation. Maybe the "jeans that fit better" is not strong enough for you. Find something else that would really help you to focus on your goal. And do just that: Focus!
    And in case I haven't told you recently, you've done a great job and you are a big inspiration to all of us!
    1878 days ago
    Ummm.....yeah, what she said. I couldn't have said it better!
    1879 days ago
    First of all, I think you do an amazing job and I'm one of your biggest fans. Celebrate your great success so far and now prepare yourself to take the next step. It's not unusual to hover around those last few pounds you want to lose or be up a little over the ultimate weight we'd like to see. There is something we can do about it.

    As you said, focusing on getting a better fit in your jeans is a good motivator. I'm sure you'll get some good ideas from others but here are a few that might help in the meantime:

    1. Write down your goal, stick it up on the mirror, refrigerator, etc. and look at it often.

    2. Try to break it down a little more. Instead of going for 7 pounds off the bat, aim for 2 or 3, reach that goal and then go on from there.

    3. Visualize the end in mind. SEE yourself fitting into those jeans and that slim silhouette you would like to see. Keep that picture in your head and continue to carry it around.

    4. Ask yourself if that extra splurge will give you as much satisfaction as having that silhouette and reaching your maintenance weight. No matter how good those extra foods might be, how long does the enjoyment and satisfaction last? Twenty minutes...maybe 30? Was it really worth it?

    5. Whatever exercise you have done for the day, keep visualizing your goal and try to add just a little more.

    6. Think of some special rewards once you reach those first mini goals and especially when you achieve the ultimate goal you are trying to reach.

    7. Put in as much work and determination as you have done to achieve your Black Belt. Reaching that level is awesome! If you can do that you can do anything girl!

    8. Don't be hard on yourself. This is just part of the journey.

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