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Thursday, March 28, 2013

Last Friday, and then again last night, I spent time meeting new people. This shouldn't be such an amazing thing........since I used to meet new people all the time that I had things in common with. But I've been in a bit of a dry spell since we moved to Sacramento. I've found it very hard to connect with people, even in church. I don't know if it's the Nor Cal/So Cal cultural differences, or if I've just been in a 6 year social funk. Either way, this last week has been a social revival for me. Everyone I met I would enjoy spending more time with. All of them were women my age or older, women with a little life experience to bring to the conversation. Two of the women live in my corner of the apartment complex, in fact our apartments face eachother, with just a small walkway between. It's an intimate little section of the complex. Last night I was chatting, balcony to balcony with one of my neighbors, when the other one peeped her head out of her place and invited us both over for a glass of wine and some "getting to know you" chit chat. Both of the women knew eachother quite well, so I spent a lot of time listening to their question/answer session with eachother as they caught up on eachother's busy lives. But I ended up spilling my guts to them on some touchy subjects and found that my words were met with sincere interest and empathy (I was talking about my father, and his unfortunate biography.) So, that was really great. Feels so nice to have women so close that I now feel I can turn to in a pinch when Tim is out of town. I rarely need help with anything, but it is nice to know that the option is there, even if it's just for an occasional chit-chat.

My weekend is booked full already. Spending Saturday helping a friend move, Sunday is church and Easter dinner at Mom's and Monday is the ever dreaded tax day. Ugggghhh, I hate doing my taxes, I always owe money, no matter how hard I try to avoid it, year after year is the same. But this year, I think I found a guy that will atleast not be a total condecending jerk wad to me, like the last three years. I know I'm not the most financially savy person on the planet, but I'm not a total idiot when it comes to money either. I've just had a few really hard years in a row, years with both Tim and I out of work for various periods of time, that makes it impossible to pay my quarterly tax payments. This leads to owing at the end of the year, I'm aware of the reason why, and I don't need someone looking down on me for doing the best I can. Not everyone is financially set, especially in these economic times, and I have run across some very rude tax people these last few years that seem to get their jollies from making me feel like a low class ingrate for owing taxes. It's bad enough to owe money, I don't need to pay someone to make me feel like crap about it. Anyway, the guy I'm seeing on Monday seems really down to earth and fully understanding of my financial situation. His business name is "The Tax Man", that alone makes this Beatles fanatic very happy. (If you don't know, that is a Beatles song.) Anyhow, my stress over tax season lessened tremendously yesterday, when I talked to this guy and realized I was going to be able to get my taxes done by a down to earth guy.........instead of a pompous you know what.

Well, wish me luck, I'm gonna need some extra positivity to get through the weekend without being too cranky. I usually require one free day a week to do my own thing in order to feel balanced, so the business that is awaiting me this weekend is not something I'm looking forward to. I'm hoping some of my activities go more smoothly than I'm anticipating.

Hope you all have a great weekend. Hugs.

PS If any of you are thinking of it, but haven't done it yet, watch "Les Miserables", what a masterpiece. Hugh Jackman knocks your socks off........brilliant!!
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    1867 days ago
    Now I have the Stevie Ray Vaughn version of Taxman in my head. Ever heard it? Funky! Way better than the cheesy song I had in my head when I woke up.
    I hate doing my taxes. A year or two ago I told JF that I would trade dishes for LIFE if he would do my taxes. He said YES!!
    Sounds like you have a nice little social circle starting in your apartment complex. How cool is that?!
    Thanks for the film recommendation. I will see that one sooner or later, because who doesn't wanna see Wolverine singing? I mean, c'mon!
    1878 days ago
    hope helping your friend move goes smoothly, i hope the taxman turns out to be a nice dude. we spent a few years going to this very unprofessional lady in a smelly, tiny office. you make an appt, yet she also takes the middle of her set appointments, so you spend all day there getting pushed back and pushed back - frustrating. did taxes online for a year (or 2?) then we found a nice guy who is quick & efficient and very nice last year, used him again this year and we were in and out in less than 20 mins - can't beat that! it was just down the street from our old house, but still worth the drive across town from the new one.

    i am happy to hear you made a cpl new connections as well! i know it feels like a breakthrough of sunshine when you meet new people, or get to know people better, and it goes to that next level beyond acquaintance. it took me 9 years to make a really good friend here, so i know what it's like to wait on that while auditioning new (and sometimes disappointing) friend prospects for a long while.

    hopefully you can find a few moments of personal zen in the busy weekend, maybe just a few minutes here or there to breathe deeply and clear those pretty baby blues to kick out the next task. (i think your eyes are blue...or else that makes no sense :P)
    1878 days ago
    I'm so glad you found someone decent to work with on your taxes. I'm fighting mailing them their check. YUCK!

    That is terrific that you've made some new friends so close. Enjoy the budding new friendship. That is always such a fun time.
    1878 days ago
    Wonderful that you were able to meet new people that you can converse with and exchange interest. Everybody Owes !! Just Enjoy the Holiday - be you self ! Happy Easter emoticon
    1878 days ago
    emoticon Such a blessing for you to have new folks in your "dry" spell...yes, a joy. Pray you have a great weekend and even a smooth "tax" day on Monday. Happy Resurrection Day! emoticon
    1878 days ago

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