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A Step Backward...

Thursday, March 28, 2013

Yesterday did not end well. My brother and I went to pick my son up at 7 PM. My son flew out the door and said he wasn't going back. He said people in the group had serious issues. One girl was talking about killing herself, another talked about sexual abuse and another about drinking alcohol and taking sleeping pills.

He had his phone out on the way home to my brothers trying to book a flight back to Maryland. After 1/2 hour we got him calmed down enough to talk. We got him to agree to go to a psychiatrist who specializes in eating disorders - waiting for her call back now. He was originally supposed to go to her first. We are hoping she can get him to go back.

The place he was at didn't warn me ahead of time. I called his main therapist there (he only saw for the first time yesterday). She said she didn't know. She said some people shared things in group yesterday that normally weren't shared. My son said all the staff was nice but he didn't like group. He also said he was bored. He brought home a workbook. I am going to see if I can start getting him to do it. I have to wonder if his feelings about gaining weight fall into this decision. I am not sure because we went out to eat after all this happened and he had two rolls with butter, mussels, cheese and fruit.

So, needless to say, I am back to very little sleep. I feel sick to my stomach and my nerves are on high alert again.
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    Just catching up, and hoping that the last couple of days have been better. I'm sure he doesn't want to identify with people whom he thinks have bigger problems, and the stress of his changing body makes that kind of thing even harder. Praying for you,
    1912 days ago
    emoticon Hang in there. I am sure it is tough, I am seeing this very similar to my journey. When I started my weight loss journey, here on Sparks, people were talking about some of the feelings they were having. It was scary, not necessarily that I was having the same feelings and it was time for me to face them, but sometimes it was "I do not want to face my issues because I do not want to start getting those feelings". It is tough when we start on any new journey in our life where we have to face our own issues and begin to deal with them. It can definitely be overwhelming for the person having them and the people around who are looking on with love and wanting to help, but unsure how to. I think your plans are going in the right direction and you are doing the best you can. You are a great mother who is supportive and loves her son very much. Things will start to get better, I can see it.:)
    1912 days ago
    I agree with a lot of the other posters. Your son needs to understand that he almost died, so even though he may feel other peoples issues are greater than his, he actually is in the same position as them. He needs to be in group to understand his whys!

    By the by, I think you're doing an amazing job, and I wish you had been my mother when I "clicked". Hold on. xoxo
    1913 days ago
    I'm so sorry for the sad news. :( I really hope the specialized psychiatrist can be more helpful!
    1913 days ago
    He was nearly at death's door and doesn't have deep issues, too? It's very painful to face reality sometimes. You're doing what you can. Sorry he got off to a bad start with the group. Prayers for you and family in this on-going journey. There are bound to be some rough places. emoticon
    1914 days ago
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    I'm so sorry to hear that. Unfortunately.. I think he doesn't realize how serious his own issues are. Life or death kind of situation.. he needs to be there as much as the others. Stay strong! He needs you! emoticon
    1914 days ago
    You should tell your son that often times the way we ate relates to deeper issues and we have to dig them out and deal with them before we stop repeating the problems with the way we eat.

    I am sure he didn't want to hear what doesn't relate to him. In a sense though, isn't that what Spark People is about, we learn to deal with the whys of why we are overweight?
    1914 days ago
    :( Iam so sorry to read about this! emoticon
    1915 days ago
    I am so sorry.
    1915 days ago
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